Feeling down and depressed .....

[Babylegion]

Hi everyone,

During the last 4 months my weights increased so much I'm feeling extremely down, even more than anyone could guess 😢😢

I recently last month suffered a miscarriage and I gained 21ibs so I really need some help. I'm not sure what to do or try especially as my diet is well planned each day 😢

Any advice I would be greatful for especially as I'm feeling very down.....

Please help....... 😔😢😭😔 xx

[libbydaniels88]

Hi babylegion. I'm sorry to hear your so down, especially when we are all up and congratulating ourselves, but please don't despair, there is help on this forum. All the members here are supportive and kind, and will share with you and help you get back on track. Most everyone does the 12 wk nhs plan, I go to slimming world, but I come here for the support. Ruth-canal-runner and the Famous five are your first stop. They've got all the answers and will help you with your diet.

Good luck, its a new year and new start. Stuck with us and you'll be fine x

[Jish]

Hi, I get turning to food for comfort when feeling sad. Its part of the reason why I need to lose weight. I'm taking one day at a time. Sorry to hear about your loss. Have you tried seeing your GP? Wishing you all the best

[Stefaniax]

I'm sorry Babylegion...when things go wrong, they all go wrong at once, and it's really tough. In my opinion, the first action to take is to try and lift your spirit somehow, the rest will follow.... I don't know about your size or fitness level, but I personally found that going jogging and walking, bringing my music with me, does wonders to my mood, can't explain why but it really works!! And if you are feeling teary, it's a good way to let it out without showing anyone at home. I also read this really good book about the power of positive thinking, called The Secret (by Byrne), which made something click in me.... I'm convinced that if you can find the light at the end the tunnel, and follow it, all the other issues will swiftly disappear. 2016 is a fresh start, make it a good one!!!

Xxx

[Zest Healthy BMI]

Hi Babylegion,

Really sorry to hear about your loss, and that you're understandably feeling down in the circumstances. Maybe your GP could give you some extra support at this time.

I saw a link online that you might find helpful, which is related to coping after a miscarriage. I don't know if it's a British site or not - it was difficult to tell, but the information looked quite good - but see what you think, if you want to take a look. It might be helpful.

babycentre.co.uk/a4006/copi...

Please do talk to someone you trust about your feelings if you can, and get some support. Your GP should be able to link you into some appropriate emotional support. There may be support groups, or counselling, or a helpline. Please don't feel you're alone with this - there will be people who can help, and who understand what you're going through.

Times like Christmas and New Year can be particularly hard when you see others 'celebrating' - but such times can also be incredibly upsetting and painful for us when we've got any sad things in our lives.

I know you want to lose some weight, but getting appropriate emotional support would hopefully help you to feel better in time, and you have mentioned that your diet is already well planned. Emotional stress can affect our hormones and cause us to gain weight sometimes. Give yourself time and space to heal, but don't be scared to seek appropriate support for your emotional needs.

If you would like to join in the Monday group weigh-ins, then of course you are welcome, but I just wanted to say that I hope you'll first seek support for your emotional health, so you can discuss with someone regarding your needs, and gain the best support.

Let us know how you're getting on, if you want to, and I really hope that 2016 will be a better year for you.

Lowcal

[asics]

So sorry to hear of your pain. The others have written some great replies.

From my own experience I now know I nesomeone to o deal with the sadness first.

I lost my brother and lost my way as a result. I was so down I eventually agreed it was depression. I saw the GP then saw someone weekly to talk. I had always said I did not need to do this, I was so sad I thought i would just cry for each meeting. But do you know, it really helped. I am eternally grateful to the lady i saw.

It really was about one step at a time, one day at a time. Bit by bit I felt better. Each time i left with a tiny goal or task and each week i realised i was becoming more aware of those things that made me feel positive for example i started to listen to music again and realise how much it lifted my spirits. I also realised that I had added to my mental anguish by half heartedly trying to lose my ugly weight... I now know i was not in the right place to start that journey.

I admitted this last January and saw the GP. I had to wait a while to see someone but here I am starting 2016 ready to now tackle the weight. I feel so much better, more self aware, more positive.

Everyone is different and may not need the support i finally accepted but please do consider talking to your GP or someone to tackle the sadness.

Sending you love and hugs and as the others have said, everyone here will be only too willing to help, support and motivate when you are ready. X

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Some of understand all of this more than we could tell you here. We are friendly and we will support you. Stick around the forum. 😃😃😃😃