I watch my 3 granddaughters when she works. She is a stylist. She had a chance to do a wedding but it would be 2 days after my 6th chemo session. I told her not to count on me in case I am not up to watching girls. Also, on my past chemo session days, my son-in-law watched the baby, almost age 2, while the other two girls, ages 8 and 10, were in school. Now, due to weather and illness, he has missed a lot of work so the baby has been going with us. She is a good baby and I call her my "chemo mascot" but it is more stressful when she is there. I made a comment to my daughter about that and she got angry and asked - Should she just drop me off then and not be there? So my choice becomes no support or support with stress. I've asked her to look into finding another sitter when I'm not well, but after 10 years of having me as a live-in 24/7 "gramma-nanny" she can't imagine or afford costs or arrangements of a real sitter.
I do all sorts of research into my cancer and ask my doctors lots of questions. My daughter thinks I "am borrowing trouble" by doing this. She told me of her friend that reacted to carboplatin during session 6 and that it is fairly common. I had an anaphylaxic reaction with Taxol 2 drops into my first session and had to switch to Gemzar with carboplatin. Now I mentioned session 6 , and she said she wishes she hadn't told me.
She is frustrated. Am I wrong to be having these concerns?