Advice

[kimberly434]

I need advice badly. What do you do to take away all the bad feelings you get when you can't smoke? I feel very depressed today...little anxiety...want to cry...and honestly just feel like laying in bed and not looking at anyone. can you relate?

[glolin LONG TERM WINNER]

Sadly Kimberly, this is very common in the early part of quitting. I suffered terribly as I already sufferer with self managed anxiety and this just heightened when I started my quit.

I am happy to say that does all pass and I now have a calmness that I never had when I was a smoker, so there are brighter days to look forward to.

I so wish I could take it away for you - try and see this as your body cleansing😀😀

If you haven't read Allan Carrs day way to quit smoking book, this may just help you put things into prospective 😀😀 available as a pdf download  - just google it 😀😀

Things to do..

Nice hot bubble bath

Chick flick or comedy movie😀😀

Plan how you are going to spend all the money on yourself that your not wasting on smokes 😀😀

Nice long walls are good for the soul (this was my favourite) 

Come on here for a distraction.

You are doing well Kimberly we have all been where you are.....you can do this...I believe in you 😀😀

[kimberly434 5 MONTH WINNER in reply to glolin]

I want to go for a walk, but no energy today. I have read Allan cars book I have read three of his books. I might try a funny movie. Thanks for the support. 

[droopyJ in reply to kimberly434]

Download and watch the funniest programme/ film you have seen.... This will help ya 😊

I still gut wrench laugh at dads army.... It's hysterical to me but puts me in a fantastic mood 😂😂

[kimberly434 5 MONTH WINNER in reply to glolin]

I feel like I keep complaining on here but today is just so bad and I took my bath and trying to relax and stay calm but I just want to cry.  Maybe it's because I haven't had any sleep. I am sorry this is the only place I can go to vent. 😪😢😪😢

[Carissa28 10 MONTH WINNER in reply to kimberly434]

always come here to vent my dear!!  this being on here has helped me to get where i am today, day 23.

[madametobacco49 in reply to kimberly434]

well kIm it hasn't been a great day for you I kno--but tomorrow will be better It is perfectly fine you come here and voice your feelings and symptoms--that is why we have a support group--to help one another--I still have those days and im 5 mos in--Cry if you have to--lay in bed--baby yourself--it will pass--just don't daydream about smoking--It is over--and deep inside that may be the sadness u are experiencing--ie. a sense of loss--Hugs MmeT

[roneo The legend in reply to kimberly434]

Kimberly,  PLEASE....keep complaining, just don't smoke.  In the first couple of weeks, both your body & your brain are going through tremendous tumult.  It's what it is.....withdrawal.  If it were easy, the only smokers on the planet would be those who only recently were silly enough to take it up.  Just remember Carr's advice.  If you really sit down & analyse it, the physical discomfort of withdrawal isn't easy but it's bearable & will be gone in 1-2 weeks.  The psychological attachment can take much longer, depending on your smoking history & emotional dependence.  But for now, CRAVE but don't CAVE.  We're all cheering for you.  

[Maddyg]

Hi Kimberley , yes can defiantly relate, in fact the first 3 weeks I would go to work and then come home and go to bed, because I couldn't cope. I don't really have an ansear, only that it did lift. I did think about going to see my GP if it didn't get better. Even now if I have a bad day depressed anxious, I go to bed and usually come on here. Kimberley it does get better. Try getting a book to read, breathing. I even had a relaxation tape to listen to.  Sending Big Hugs , hang in there , promise it will get better xx

[kimberly434 5 MONTH WINNER in reply to Maddyg]

Thanks so much.  I have been listening to Louise hays positive affirmations I am willing to do anything. I think my hubby is getting tired of me being this way. ☹

[Maddyg in reply to kimberly434]

Yep my hubby too, but he is pleased now, as deep down don't think he thought I would get past 3 weeks. xx

[Briarwood Administrator Ducky]

There are 2 great pinned posts about stopping smoking and feeling depressed and also understanding the feel good chemicals in the brain. These will explain why you feel the way you do. Then write down all the good things about not smoking. Focus on all the positives and try the breathing techniques too. This is probably one of the hardest things we ever have to do. It takes time but will truly be worth it. One day at a time hun. Hang in there and I'm sending good vibes to help. Go on utube for yoga, Pilates or something else that interests you. Try something different, you might surprise yourself and all this will pass🚭😊

[Carissa28 10 MONTH WINNER]

hi sweetie hang in there!!!  that was the first 7 days for me, it totally sucks, i've been diagnosed with clinical depression since i was 12 years old, am now 30 years old and am on maintenance medications for the rest of my life.  The smoking releases certain feel good chemicals in the brain, and mine got thrown out of whack again when i quit, and am still adjusting, i saw my doc today and she prescribed another medication that is supposed to help with the emotions.  I'm not sure if i want to take it yet or not as i'm trying to use my will power to remind me that being quit is so much healthier for me.

it's totally normal...go ahead and cry let it all out it's how your body is releasing and starting the heal process, the first 3 days i would cry until i fell asleep and that is what i needed to start healing.

you can do this!!!

[koutsoun LONG TERM WINNER]

I think we can all relate. I think being active helps...getting out of the house and walking, going to the gym

[Trollness 10 MONTH WINNER]

Hi it is OK to feel down as it is part of the process. Cigarettes were a massive part of all our lives and even if we go into our quit knowing they do nothing for us the receptors in our brain says differently. Cry if you want to cry, scream if you want to scream it's OK. I too suffered emotionally and got LTyrosine from health store and I must say I do feel better however I am over 16 weeks now. I don't exercise so don't worry it is not for everyone just remember the nicotine monsters are trying everything to get you hooked and are responsible for making you emotional at this early stage.

[jaglan 22 Months Winner]

Omg you poor thing!👷🏻 I remember so clearly the first few weeks!!! It's SO SOUL DESTROYING!!!!!AAAAaaaaagh!!!! My poor family, friends and anyone I came into contact with!!!! I would burst in to tears where ever whenever!!! I would have melt downs like a toddler on no adhd meds and even told my mother and my 24 year old son I did not need their company for a while so they could both do one! You get my drift???? But here I am!!!😀 And believe me it DOES GET EASIER!!! All these fab people on here kept me going. I looked at their badges in awe! Could I ever get to that point!?? YES... If I can you can! You can !!! Truly! Just slowly slowly one day at a time. Cyber hug.... Xxx

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Hi Kimberley, just to add my voice to the rest, this is absolutely the place to vent.  

[Coco797 17 Month Winner]

I hope you are having a better day today.

What you are feeling is the quit girl. It's TOUGH. It sucks. But you will get past it. And this is where you need to come to complain, cry, laugh, scream. Everyone on here totally gets it. You CAN do this. I know it is the hardest thing ever. We all know. I can't believe how far I've come. I remember like week 2, being on a mini trip and being all excited to have become a quitter and by the end of the night I was on here ranting and raving, I swear I think I would've smoked a carton or eaten a pack by the end of the night. The folks here really related and helped me.

You have full support here. KEEP COMING BACK TO THE SITE. Walking was an awesome outlet for me.  I remember being able to breathe and it feeling great!

Stay focused you quitter! You are doing better than you think!

Cheers,

Coco