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I have smoked for 45years plus. I have lifelong asthma, bronchitis and all my life I have used various medications to get me over the bad times. I developed rheumatoid arthritis in my mid thirties and started copd 10 yrs ago. I was diagnosed with lung cancer over two years ago having a right lung resection and knowing there was another area in my left lung which we need to keep an eye on. I should have had more surgery before Christmas but declined. I am still smoking!!!! I have tried every thing going paying a fortune. I just keep failing. I don't want to die a smoker. Can anyone help a desperate lady. I refused more surgery because I don't feel worthy of the medical staff's efforts, time or money to help me.

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Hiya ADJ and welcome to quit support πŸ˜ƒ

My goodness you really have had a very tough time and it must be very difficult to cope with so many health issues 😠

Yes we can help you and it will make a huge difference to have people that understand how difficult it is to quit. I can see why you describe yourself as desperate BUT please believe me when I say you are worthy. Smoking is an addiction and yes you need help, i also needed help to quit and I got it here on this terrific forum and I have no doubt you will too. May I ask if you have ever tried an ecig and also may I ask how many cigs a day you smoke. This will help us to come up with a plan for you. Please stay with us and let's see what we can do to help πŸ˜ƒ xx


Hi ADJ and welcome to quit support.

Wow!!! You sure have been through such a rough time with your health and I can certainly understand your desperation. Sending big hugs your way 🌺🌺

Many of the members have quit after a lot of years smoking. Every form of NRT has been used and most different methods. The one thing we all have in common is we all understand just how hard the challenge is to stay quit. Like briar said, the support from ths group is truly amazing and has certainly helped me get to where I am today.

i feeling selecting the right NRT will be a big help for you, once sorted, we can pick you up when your down 😊☺️😊☺️

Keep us informed on how you are doing. Good luck

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Hi ya ADJ60 a big warm welcome to our lovely quit support community :)

I see you've had a tough time of it gal :( but, you have come to the right place for help :) thats what this community is all about, helping each other to quit :)

I see the girls have given you some great advice already :) You say that you have tried everything going :o but have you ? plus, you havnt tried us :)

Rite ADJ, have you ever used a quit plan ? and what sort of NRT have you used ?





Quick mist



Nasal spray



Big hammer :D :D

Please give us a bit more information, then we can help you :) I have learned one thing on my quit journey, that you have to really want to quit to quit :) Set your mind into quit mode, keep reminding yourself WHY you want to quit :)

So firstly, please sit yourself down and write a list of the ''WHY's'' you want to quit :) then when you have done that we can go to the next stage :)

Please stay with us ADJ and we will help you to become smoke free, sooooooo, then you can have that opp that you need :)

Pete :)


Hello AD

I am one of the team from Roy Castle, working on the lung cancer side.

1st and foremost don't give up on yourself. The members of this forum will give you all the support you want to try to quit.

You have been through such a lot and clearly have tried so hard. Perhaps your next quit attempt will be the one that works.

Your medical team haven't given up on you, so try not to blame yourself. They know how difficult and addictive the relationship with tobacco can be, even when you see the consequences. No one deserves cancer and you deserve the best treatment you can get. If you can ,we would encourage you to go back to the medical team and see if surgery is still possible.

I hope you get the help you need and meanwhile If we can help in anyway do contact us,

the lung cancer helpline can be reached on Freephone 0333 323 7200 option 2

best wishes


on behalf of the Information & Support team

in reply to LorraineD

Hi Lorraine, thank you soooo much for your lovely comment :)

Ermmm, I was just wondering whether to send a private message to AD cos she does sound very low and down in the dumps :(

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Sounds like a good plan Pète

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Hi, I am a hypnotherapist. If you have tried everything else and want to know another option, possibly hypnotherapy might be a good way forward for you ?

People who really struggle with stopping can beat themselves up about it because the habit is so deeply engrained. It`s not their fault. Habits are based on an emotional decisions, so all logic goes out the window.

You need to consider all the triggers that influence you into want to smoke. ivertherapy@gmail.com if you want to contact me regarding how hypnosis can help overcome triggers and quit smoking.

plisi225318 Months Winner

I can only speak for me. I'm 48 in a couple months, with two kids, 17 son and 22 daughter. I was in the hospital with pneumonia and a nurse said to me "Do you really want to walk down the aisle at your daughter's wedding carrying your Oxygen tank behind you?". That pretty much did it for me. I smoked for 35 years (started at age 12) and never tried to quit once. I haven't smoke tobacco since 10/5/14. Good luck to you.

gautama54 MONTH WINNER

I think you have to get mentally prepared and be a good study of what you are up against when you quit cold turkey.

I had to get disgusted with my habit and my unwillingness to let a cigarette control my schedule and time and bad health issues anymore.

Get mad with the killer product that it is!

It has no benefits at all. No matter what the brain ego try's to tell you about you enjoying it.

You smoke because you get anxious when you don't smoke and you become a hamster on the wheel of calmness seeking and feel good seeking.

See it for what it is, a nasty mental habit and really overplayed physical addiction.

3 to 6 days and you are over the physical and you quit every time you sleep or go on a long trip in the train or plane so that's no big deal.

It's the psycologocal habit that takes a long time to deal with and throw it out of your life.

Hang in there folks!

One day at a time until it's like a old memory!

yellowsnowdropLONG TERM WINNER

My heart goes out to you,it really does HOWEVER you cannot give up trying to quit.You need to focus on what you stand to loose if you continue to smoke & then decide how badly you want to give up.It's NOT easy & yep,there are tough times ahead but everyone on here will help as much as possible & those awful first few days of craving won't last forever I absolutely promise. Sending you HUGE Hugs and positive vibes.Hugs H x


oh this is terrible! you are definitely worth the treatment, but it sounds like you are punishing yourself as well.....i have smoked for 30 years and on day 11 of taking champix i have stopped and dont even want to smoke at all...i think this could be a good option for you...it did have some side effects of making me a bit nauseous in the morning for about 10minutes and strange dreams and a bit of insomnia...but to me its definitely worth those minor issues...i am so happy now and can breathe a lot easier after only 3 days...all the best to you :)

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Hi ADj60 like you i have tried many things and always failed and to be honest had give you trying for a long time it sounds like you have a fair few health problems going on as well it is so hard my first fag of the day was as i got out of bed but after smoking 10 this morning i thought no more lets try again one last time so now 3 hours in you can do it hun one thing i have found is people on this site are really good at helping dont give up giving up and dont give up on your health not for a fag let every one on here help you

jezz195321 Months Winner

I tried to quit many times and what good about keep try IN is finding out what took u back.I believe is that you have to say in your mind I AM DONE.it is a tough addiction.also I was feeling TERRIBLE.so 1 day I said i am not living like this.it really started to affect my breathing.I took 1 day at a time...and it did get better....you can do it...don't give up!!!..I smoke for almost 50 yrs.GOOD luckπŸ’ͺ🌹


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