Be totally lying if I said I didn't want a cig.

[yellowsnowdrop]

Bit of a traumatic couple of days which have culminated in my lovely 84 yr old mum being diagnosed with dementia.She didn't even know the day or month or year yesterday but was still smiley and happy,I hid in her kitchen after the G.P.had gone and had a good cry!! Just being soft.Yesterday I would have sold my soul for a smoke but didn't give in,just don't understand why after 8 months my first thought when I'm REALLY stressed is to smoke.Not sure wether this feeling of wanting a cig when I'm stressed will ever go? Anyone have any thoughts? Hugs to all H x

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I haven't smoked for 43 weeks today and I still want / need one at times, I have even curled up on the bed and cried, sucking on an inhalator like a dummy. a friend who stopped 22 years ago who is very honest says she could still kill for one some days. Hugs back and keep it up.

[jillygirl Administrator Queen Bee]

Hi Ysd, Sorry to hear about your Mum. Dont worry about feeling you want a smoke. I think our brains remember having a cigarette when any trauma comes along. I think it is more habit than anything else. So glad you didnt give in. You take care Helen and love and hugs to mum. xx

[Fresher 8 MONTH WINNER]

So sorry to hear your news about your mum, I can totally sympathise with you as my mum has been suffering from this horrible disease for over 10 years and shes only 74 this year. Sending massive hugs. Stay stay strong with your no smoking though please x

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Hi Helen. Sorry to hear about your mum. Stay strong. x

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Aw Helen my heart goes out to you, it's so hard when stressed. I'm in a similar situation . My mums cancer has come back and when I first heard a few weeks ago my first thought was wanting a cig. I felt so bad thinking that when my mum told me she didn't want to tell me about her being ill incase I started smoking again and it really wouldn't change things it wouldn't stop the cancer, I cried my eyes out she is so right so I suppose what I'm saying no matter what life throws at us smoking won't make it better and if she could your mum would say the same I'm sure. Xxx

[droopyJ in reply to Hidden]

Hi Beth, so sorry to hear your mums sad news, we are all here for you when you need us. Your both in my prayers xo Julie

[MMoo]

Hey Helen,

Glad you did't

There will be many times we are tested. I now stop, take some deep breaths and calm myself down and then carry on. This normally works for me, if not then I reach for a mint humbug....

x

[Pinkiezoom 26 Months Winner]

Oh Helen

So pleased you didnt give in and have a smoke you are my inspiration.

x

[EmJay Partner]

Hey Helen, your mum sounds amazing - still smiling and being happy throughout her confused moments

It is more than likely going to be tougher on you than it will her and so if possible, try and see that you have a good support network about you. I know you have your hubby, you have a great bunch of folks / friends here for you too

You are not being soft, having a good cry and letting out your emotions is a healthy way to deal with everything.

You just have to take care of yourself as well as your lovely mum and we're all here for you if you need us. You've been such an inspiration and big help to many of our members, let's help you where we can

xoxox

[yellowsnowdrop in reply to EmJay]

Thanks EmJay, I'll be fine, just a bit dazed and confused at the moment. We'll get it sorted and I'm really lucky that my hubby is such a BIG help. He looks a bit like my dad and last week my mum called him Donald (my dad!!) think maybe he's gonna have to get used to it. I ate some Haribo instead of smoking, shouldn't be eating sweets but now and then won't hurt I guess !!! Hugs H x

[yellowsnowdrop]

Thanks as ever to EVERYONE for all the kind words and support. Beth my treasure, I'm just so sorry about your mum, life is really tough sometimes my love and thoughts are with you.x My mum phoned me today, she was really lucid and could remember bits about what she'd done during the early morning. I've decided that the best way is just to hold on to those times and remember them when things get tougher.((((( GROUP HUG)))))) Love u all H x

[droopyJ]

Hi H, I'm so sorry to hear about your mum, I know it's difficult to try and not give in to those cravings at a time like this. When my friends Dad was diagnosed, he took a selfie of the two of them during one of his happy lucid moments and used it as his screen saver on his phone and laptop. My friend found that it helped him get thru the tougher moments and reminded him of happier memories and times. Big, big hug H x Julie