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Mum passed last Tuesday aged 85, very peacefully and without pain in her bed at home. Her death certificate shows cause of death as cortico basal syndrome.

She had been living with us since April 2023, symptoms of CBD having begun in 2019, with a left hand that would not behave, and a confirmed diagnosis of CBD in 2020.

Her speech had become only understandable 5% of the time before Christmas and she was becoming unable to support herself at all walking. We usually supported her as she moved from room to room and chair to bed. We think she was holding out until Christmas as after this she seemed to go down rapidly.

We thought that she was coming down with the flu bug that was going round the week before and had the GP out to see her who prescribed antibiotics for a chest infection. After a week those still had not worked and we had the district nurse out and another GP. Mum was struggling to eat mushed up food or complan drinks - she had been on a soft normal diet before Christmas - but over the week we had really struggled getting food and water into her, some days 3 meals others half a weetabix! Her consciousness levels had become lower and lower since the beginning of January. The GP sat on the fence and said that more antibiotics were not advisable and that sending for a chest X-ray would put her through more distress. We thought at this point she was end of life, but GP was not saying so. He suggested the anticipatory meds if she could not swallow her painkillers.

We called hospice for advice. They were marvellous and came out to see us, 30 mins after I had dissolved in tears on the phone. The nurse sat down with us, gave us unlimited time and talked to us about mum. She then went in to check her, came back out to us and confirmed she was dying. We were told to stop all food and drink and just moisten her mouth as she needed it. She gave her an injection to reduce secretions which worked for a while, then left us with contact details and an invitation to call at any point.

We called again at 11pm as mum seemed agitated and appeared to be in a bit of pain. They gave her a Morphine injection at this point.

At 9am or so the next morning , her breathing changed to more shallow in her sleep and then at just before 10 she stopped breathing. We were all there for her as she left and feel very proud that we were able to care for mum at home until she died, what she wanted.

As she had agreed to donate her brain to the Cambridge Brain Bank for research, this was also successfully coordinated and retrieval happened two days after her death.

Thank you for the support this forum has given over the last few years. It has been a tremendous source of information and support. Please if you have not already, get your loved ones on the local hospice list. This happened so quickly in the end for us and the hospice support was amazing, they provided exactly the support we needed at the time.

Take care everyone.

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Bergenser profile image
Bergenser

Dear Araucana I'm sorry to hear of your loss and hope you are all comforting each other during this time.

Your description brings back recent events for me and I am glad you were able to get the right level of support to care for your mum till the end in accordance with her wishes. I'm glad you were able to complete her brain donation - while it may seem surreal at the time, it's such an important gift to gain future insights into these conditions. Hopefully it will also eventually give the family some answers and closure.

Big virtual hugs and thanks from me. 🌻💜🫂

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daddyt in reply toBergenser

So very sorry for your loss xx🙏🙏

Tim

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SunriseLegend

thank you for posting this and giving so much detail. This is what I need to be aware of as things develop here with my husband. I know every case is different but this is just the kind of personal experience which is so helpful. I hope you can take some solace through knowing that you are helping others as you grieve

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AliBee1

Dear Araucana

That is really good advice and I am so glad that you received the support that you needed at the end of your Mum's life. Your Mum must have been so grateful to have such a loving family supporting her. Now it is time to take time for yourselves. My love and prayers are with you at this sad time in your lives.

Love AliBee.

She is no longer hampered by horrible disease. Her voice and speech are better so she can raise his voice in glee. She can sing and laugh with angels as her spirit is now free. You cannot help but miss her and feel sad that she has gone, but you can’t be sad she’s been released from her body which went wrong. xxx

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Kelmisty

I’m sprry for your loss, she is now free.

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Bertieandpiper

So sorry for your loss, sending hugs x

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Harshacceptance

I had tears reading this. I’m sorry for your loss however thankful your mum is at peace.

My dad has CBD and is on the same journey, similar timelines. We’re doing everything to keep him at home which is where he wants to be with our amazing mum.

Thank you for sharing this as so many people have questions as to what happens and like you this forum has been a godsend to me, helping me to understand albeit this is a terrible and tragic disease.

I’m wishing you and your family peace 🙏

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Golden63

So sorry for your loss, I hope that you are now comforted with the knowledge that she is rid of CBD and the good memories that you have bring you warmth. May she rest in peace

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Leosta

My sincere condolences to you and your family. It's wonderful that you managed to care for your mum at home as she wanted. Blessings to you all.🙏

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MullerRice

So sorry for your loss. It's hard at any time of year. Take comfort in the fact that you were able to keep her and love her at home and respect her last wishes. You are amazing.

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Birdie04

So sorry for your loss. It was a blessing that you and your family got to fulfil your mums wishes. To be at home surrounded by you all, I'm sure that your mum was so truly thankful , to know that all her lovng family were there beside her with so much love and comfort.Take care look after one another in the days to come. ♥️🙏

Sending strength and heartfelt condolences

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DebHep

So sorry to hear the sad news - thank you for sharing your story. I was very emotional reading it but like all of the great advice on this page any information is useful for those of us on this terrible journey.

I hope you can now take the time to look after yourself and remember all the wonderful times you had together over the years.

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Zerachiel

I'm so sorry for your loss, It is poignant to be writing this to you 9 months after you did the same for me. 🫂

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Pinkcamelia

So sorry for your loss. 💜

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caralime1956

I'm so sorry for your loss but take peace knowing your mum is now free from CBD as its an awful illness. My husband donated to the Brain bank after he passed away 3 years ago. It was something he wanted to do to help with research and agreed while he still had his speech, remember all the happy times which help in the months ahead. x

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messier

Sorry for your loss but so pleased you were able to make the brain donation

A big hug Andrea.

Luis

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Bettyboo2024

so sorry for your loss 😢

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NeeJo

So sorry for your loss ❤️ Thank you for sharing your story, wishing you lots of strength xx

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AutumnRiver

Dear Araucana,

You did very well to give your mother a peaceful and dignified departure at home. Well done. Your recount of the last precious moments is very helpful to me as I know what to expect when my husband 's time comes. Grieve but kick out the guilt. Be glad she is released from this wicked disease.

Take care of yourself now . Big hug to you.

TigerDaughter

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