Dear friends, I have not posted since November.
It has been a very traumatic and emotional time.
Every thing was going well, until December 3 when he fell in the kitchen , at the hospital after exrays we were told the bad news , he had broken his hip in two places.he was operated the following morning. All went well and he was up and out of bed 3days later.but he wasn't himself he was very vacant, the op had obviously taken its toll.
He was in for 7 weeks when he returned home , but before he could I had to have lots of alterations done to the bungalow, take up carpet because he would be hoisted, have a ramp installed, dining room made into a bedroom, because he was medically fit, we were given a discharge date ,and if this could not be met ,he would be transferred to a care home, over my dead body !!!I told the Doctor, so between Christmas and New Year, our family worked very hard to get everything in order. He came home January 15 We had missed Christmas so we celebrated it on Sunday January 24.
He never returned to the person he was before, he could not weight bare he never smiled , had to be encouraged to eat and drink , and slept more, we had carers in 4 times a day, he didn't like that ! I had cared for him 24/7 for 2 years, but we had no choice, because we had been awarded C. H.C on 20th January /16.
All seamed to be going well, we were getting used to the coming and goings of carers, district nurses, and Doctors. Until !!!!!!! The morning of March 3 rd.
I was woken by the sound of the bed sides rattling when I rushed into his room he was injectile vomiting, he couldn't get his breath, I panicked, got hold of the sheet and started cleaning out his mouth, also slapping him on his back, panic over I dialled 999.
After 7 hours in a side ward, we were told he had the NORO virus, and he was seriously ill, but he could get through it.So they hooked him up to everything , put a tube down to his stomach to feed him and gave him oxygen.
Monday 7th Doctors came in full force, said he was doing well, they decided to re do all his tests and if all was well they would see about him goin home at the weekend.But his tests were not good, the ones that should have been up, were down, and visa versa.
Tuesday he slept all day, Wednesday morning I was taken by the Sister to have A WORD with the Consultant, panic set in, I was shaking like a leaf ,he told me he had pneumonia, and did we have a family , if so inform them, I said two would be visiting in the afternoon, he asked if we had a care plan, and could I bring it into the Hospital the following day. Because he said that I calmed down
All three of our children plus our Grandaughter visited that day, G was awake off and on and seamed to be enjoying the chatter.
Evening they all returned each one was worried, I asked the nurse if all was well, she said, we will know better in the morning. G was sleeping peacefully I was holding his hand, he opened his eyes and sqeezed my hand, our eldest said he has gone back to sleep listen he is snoring I realised , and ran for the nurse, all hell let loose Doctors nurses appeared , we were ushered out of the room, we knew, they did C.P. R but he had passed. We were all there we held his hands and told him we loved him it was 9.15.
I am writing this for mum, she wanted you all to know, she sends all good wishes to you all and sends thanks to Yvonne for her help with the C.H.C form. She will be in touch .xx,
My Dad is now at peace
Rest in peace Dad
Praying for peace without understanding.
