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My lovely husband died last week. He was admitted to hospital with suspected aspiration pneumonia, which they said they had caught early. After 5 days, in which I couldn't see him or speak to him due to covid, they said he was medically fit to come home but as his mobility was so bad he needed physio. Two hours later I had a phone call to say he had had a heart attack and died. I am heartbroken - it wasn't meant to happen this way - I needed to be with him.

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Mariawatters

I am so so sorry for your loss . I know this wasn’t the way you wanted it to happen and you didn’t get to say goodbye in the way you have probably rehearsed in your head a million times . His pain is over now and you don’t have to watch him suffer anymore , maybe this is the way he would have wanted it . No words can ease the pain you feel plus the shock you must be in .. sending you love and hugs and I will keep you in my prayers tonight x

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Tippyleaf

So very sorry to hear this. No matter how much we understand our loved ones have a life limiting illness it is still such a huge shock.

Please look after yourself as you navigate through the next few weeks

Love Tippy

Sending gentle hugs... Granni B

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easterncedar

I am so sorry. What a terrible shock. Hold on and take care of yourself. Sending love. Ec

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AnneandChris

So desperately sorry to read this. Please take solace in the fact that your lovely husband is no longer suffering. Look after yourself as you learn to live without him. Sending love and hugs xx

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LostinHeadSpace

Oh my goodness. My heart goes out to you.

A big hug Gemma.Luis

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Goroos

Hello Gemma from Australia

I am holding my mums hand tightly. We are day 11 with no food or liquid.

It is so hard, but I can’t imagine what you have been thru not being able to see your husband.

Find some comfort that he is not frighting with this terrible PSP disease anymore.

I hope you have love ones to give you hugs and support you. Take care

Goroos cxxxxxx

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Louisesarah

I’m so sorry to hear of your loss and the way in which it happened, it must have been a terrible shock. Sending love to you. Hold on to the happy memories x

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WifeLilyRose

I am so, so sorry to hear this and can imagine what you’re going through. My husband has been in hospital 12 days, firstly with aspiration pneumonia and a hip fracture has since been discovered. He’s had surgery and luckily I am able to visit, but every morning I wake up, wondering if the phone will suddenly ring. Like you, I so hope I can be with him at the end, holding his hand but am having to think that I might not. I hope you are being supported very much by family and friends. X

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Heady

Sending big hug and much loveLots of love

Anne

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AliBee1

Hi. I am so very sorry that your darling husband's end was as it was. You must be devastated. My instant thought was that the only consolation is that he was expecting to come home to you and that he must have been looking forward to that and that the end must have been very quick indeed which is not as it is for many. I know this may not help at all and that you must be feeling very lost and so very sad but I hope it helps a little, My love and thoughts are with you today and with your family and friends who will need to be there for you now. AliBee xxx

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fishponds

So sorry for your loss . Hugs

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knittingannie

So sorry to hear of your lossWhere my relative lives we had minimal support except for the specialist nurse who was great & helped in emergencies

It was Rochdale borough which includes middleton and heywood

i would be glad to hear from other families in this area as i feel the only way to change this is by banding together and confronting the CCG

Not sure how this can happen but if anyone feels this way we should make waves !

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ARutzen

So sorry to hear of your loss Gemmadog. I can't imagine the shock and the emotions. Praying you find peace over time and have time to grieve while you find peace. I can empathize with how you feel about needing to be with him... In some ways you were, even if it weren't physically, he loved you and you have and always will be in his heart! Prayers and big hugs from Atlanta, GA

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Purrlie

Dear Gemmadog,

My heart goes out to you and your family. I hope you can find some consolation knowing that your lovely husband is no longer struggling with this dreadful disease. My darling husband died very unexpectedly in hospital at the end of April, and we keep reminding ourselves that at least he is no longer suffering. And I hope that the support and caring messages from so many here, who know and understand your grief and shock, will be a comfort somehow. My thoughts are with you during this sad and tender time. Purrlie

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daddyt

So very sorry for your loss. Hugs and prayers.

Tim

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Runner333

I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Linda

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Birdman42

I am very sorry for your loss and doubly sorry that after all you both went through you could not be with him at the end. Take care of yourself. Our thoughts are with you. Alan

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Musicmadgran

I am so sorry to hear about the death of your lovely husband. This is the strangest of circumstances in which to suffer this kind of painful loss. Of course your husband would know how loved he was and would know that you would rather have been with him. You were thinking of him at all times and I’m sure he would have been focused on loving thoughts of you. May he rest in peace now his battles are over. He is at peace now. You have a long, painful journey ahead of you but you carry deep loving memories of him with you. Let grief do it’s work. Be kindest to yourself and don’t try to struggle along. Speak out, talk about your lovely husband and seek counselling if you want. We are hear to listen at any time 💔🙏

I'm so sorry about the sudden death of your beloved husband. Thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. Yes I know of a lot of people whom passed alone and how frightening it must be

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Cuttercat

Prayers go out to you and keep you strong. Hold onto the lovely memories and his love for you! Take care and rest. Thinking of you during this sad time.

Cuttercat

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ncgardener799

So sorry for your loss. May you find comfort in the memories of good times in your lives and peace in the days to come. Your dear husband is free of suffering-take care as you grieve his passing -Sending HUGS from the US

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Cinnylou

I am so sorry you weren’t able to be with your husband when he passed. I would have been heartbroken as well. Just take comfort in knowing that he is flying high and pain free now. Death only separates our loved ones from us physically. He will be with you always in your heart, your mind and your soul.

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Moshe_Strugano

Israeli lawyer Moshe Strugano (Attorney - Moshe Strugano and Co Law firm), an expert in the “formation of offshore companies" says, at last moment everyone is dying by heart attack in COVID. Really heartbreaking for everyone. RIP to the soul.

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Auntbuzzy

This is so unfair, none of us or them deserve it! Truly I do not have words. Please take comfort in your memories and love for him.

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audreydrs

My sincere condolences to you and your family.It is a difficult time for you but your love one is at peace now.. may the Lord give you strenght to carry on. Tske care

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Caralime

So very sorry for your loss & how it happened? Sometimes things happen for a reason, but it still doesn't make it easy to understand why? Take care of yourself now & know he is at peace from this awful Illness. My husband is in end stage PSP & doesn't communicate so it's tough. xx

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Nanny857

Gemma I’m so sorry for the sudden and unexpected loss of your dear husband. I can’t begin to understand how devastated you must feel, but please remember he is with you in your heart and will always be there. Take your time in grieving, be kind to yourself, and remember all the happy times you shared together. It’s a difficult journey but I pray you will find strength to manage the days ahead.

Sending you lots of love, Nanny857xx🙏

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Y2U4

So sorry that happened to you both. It’s just wrong and inhumane. I wish I could reach through this site and give you a long lasting bear hug. I pray you have family and support you can lean on during this time. I am also praying for God’s comfort and that He would wrap His arms around you. Please take care of yourself.

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Yvonneandgeorge in reply to Y2U4

Sending my deepest condolences xxxx

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MRSYafffle

Sending love and light to you and all your family. That seems so unexpected despite this awful illness. Take care of yourself xx

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Dance1955

So sorry for your loss hugs to you 💕xxx

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AJK2001

I am so sorry, thinking of you xxx

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Gemmadog

Thank you everyone for your lovely words, they have been a great comfort. Tricia x

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Fortuknitone

Precious one, I am so sorry for your loss, how it must reverberate in every cell. I am sitting with you in your grief and affirming for your peace and comfort.

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