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A very sad day as my wife collapsed and passed away early this morning. She had been suffering from PSP for about 2 years but it was steadily getting worse. She had been eating almost nothing at all and last night she asked if I would feed her a few mouthfulls. This morning I helped her out of bed as usual and supported her to the bathroom but on the way back she just collapsed in my arms and I lowered her to the floor. I called an ambulance and eventually there were 6 medics here but they couldn't revive her and she stopped breathing - they tried for about an hour but in the end they had to give up.

She was a wonderful and loving wife and I and all her family are going to miss her dreadfully.

John

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abirke

I am so sorry John. when things are to be rejoiced, when things are to be grieved over , I always find the Bible a comfort. If you are a Bible reader, you might find solace here:

Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they shall comfort me. Psalm 23:4

I will be glad and rejoice in thy mercy: for thou hast considered my trouble; though hast known my soul in adversities Psalm 31:7

Your wife is free of PSP

AVB

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peterjones

hi john im very sorry to hear that your wife has passed away mate you need to give yourself some time now for grieving once again john im very sorry to hear your news peter jones queensland Australia psp sufferer

in reply to peterjones

Thank you for your kind words, I am sure God answered my prayers in as much as she died at home with me - she would have hated having to go into hospital or a home

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NannaB

I'm so sorry John. Your dear wife is now free from this horrible illness and in a better place but it doesn't make it any easier for you. It must be some comfort though to know she left quickly and at home and that you were there with her.

My prayer is that you and your family will know His special peace at this sad and difficult time and that you will have more memories of the good times than the last few difficult years.

Thinkin of you.

Nanna B

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jillannf6 in reply to NannaB

i agreed with wha tnanna b has said

lol JIll

hugs and xxxx to hou at xmas time

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NannaB in reply to jillannf6

Lots of hugs and kisses to you too Jill.

XxxxxxxxX

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Heady

Dear John, I am really sorry to hear about your wife passing, but free at last from this terrible disease. Your now have to face the final hurdle that PSP will throw at you, learning to live without her. Please grieve in your own way and at your pace. Now is the time to care for yourself.

Sending you lots of love and hugs.

Lots of love

Heady

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jillannf6

dear john

i an so sorry that your wife has died suddenly and has left you a terrible grief to come to term s with but better she go a t home than in hospital or a car e home i guess

os sorry will be thinkign of you in the next days and weeks/....

lol jill

hUGS TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY

Dear John, please accept my heartfelt condolences. We are accustomed on this site to read that one of our number has passed away but it is a double shock when it is only after two years. It must have been a terrible shock for you, even if it spared your wife years of further suffering. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Christopher

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maryam

So sorry to hear of your lost. I know no words can express your sadness and grief. Yet God is the greatest Comforter and Healer! Take care of yourself.

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Yvonneandgeorge

Dear John sorry to hear off your sad loss, take care of yourself, my prayers are also with you. Yvonne xxxxx

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Doglinton

Sorry to hear of your loss. It will be some comfort for you to know that the end was at home and not long drawn out.

Allow yourself to grieve and remember all those times before P/S.P. started to take her away.

My thoughts are with you.

Jean

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vsm0001

So sorry for you loss John. I pray that God will give you strength and peace during this time.

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marytea13

John what a happy release mary

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nomansland

Sorry John....it,s a difficult journey ,may God see you through,Rollie

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Lieve

I'm so sorry for your loss, John.

Lieve xx

Many many thanks for all your kind words and thoughts they brought tears to my eyes.

John

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jillannf6 in reply to

DEAR JOHN

DO PLZ STAY ONThe SITE FI YOU CAN BEAR IT

;LOL JILL

HUGS AND XXXX TO U & YOURS

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Katiebow

Sorry to hear of your sad loss but a comfort to know she died in your arms at home. You now need time to grieve and come to terms with life without her knowing she no longer has to suffer this dreadful condition. Xxx

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shasha

i too am so sorry to hear of your wifes passing so suddenly- my love to you ...

shasha xx

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AmandaF

John, I am so terribly sorry. It must be such a shock for you. I will be thinking of you and wish you peace. Amanda.

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Jbpractice

John,

So sorry for your loss. I am glad you were there holding her. Please take care of yourself. Sending love and prayers.

J

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laila123

so sorry for your sad loss i am with my husband now and it wont be long i feel so sad and pain unbareable cruel illness

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Patriciapmr

Hello John,

I am so sorry for your sad loss, it's an awful time for you and my heart goes out to you. Take comfort from the fact that your wife is no longer suffering from this horrible PSP and that she went peacefully in the arms of the man who loved her.

My husband has recently been diagnosed and I feel like I've been grieving since that day, it's so hard to watch the decline and not be able to do anything about it.

Again my thoughts and prayers are with you and I hope you find the strength to cope.....

Love....Pat xx

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lindsey48

So sorry for your loss. I wish my mum could go like that. It's terrible watching the decline.

Hope you can remember the good times

Lindsey x

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Georgepa

So very sorry John for you and your family .

George

Many thanks again for all your lovely words and thoughts

John

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jimandsharynp

John, Sorry for your loss. Now your caregiving days are NOT over. You must care for yourself and your family in the days ahead. Your wife was a valiant hero whose battle has ended and she is at peace. The loss will never go away and we wouldn't want it to. Jimbo

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