We were finally able to lay Rog to rest on Monday. He was piped in by Jimmy the piper!Delma and i had done all his flowers on Saturday with the help of a couple of glasses of wine! We wanted everything very personal so put some silk flowers from our neices wedding, roses from flowers sent from Aus and flowering ivy picked from up the lane. The order of service was full of his pictures, from footballing days, teenage years and later years - no sickness. His four best pals carried him in.
We were determined that this vile illness should not have the privilege of this day, it has ruled our life for too long. Delma recorded a poem which was played, we had welcomed people to send their memories so rels from Canada and Aus sent very personal and lovely thoughts. He went out to Brown Sugar from the Stones, the first time he saw them was in 1968 , numerous times after, I think we have financed Mick Jaggers lifestyle on our own!
There was a box for Harry so people could write their memories of Rog , so he could read about what his grandad got up to when he was younger! The celebrant was amazing, we went to school together, and the undertaker even came to pick us up from the wake! Ninety people came back, the golf club filled with laughter and 'do you remember'.
I am still gripped by this physical pain which is grief, my head won't work and the exhaustion is unbelievable. However the best thing is when Rog was ill i could not remember him well, now I can only see him as a fit well man, even see the twinkle in his eye! I can hear his voice again and his laughter. I also cannot remember anything of my daily struggles with the physical caring of him.
Speak soon behave yourselves, give your boys and girls an extra hug tonight, i will be back when i am a bit mended as I still have a passion for people struģgling with the system and this illness . Love and thank you to you all,