Love you lotses dad xxx

My dad sadly passed away at 12.10pm on the 19th February a year and five days after my mum. I was with dad holding his lovely warm hands like I have always done. I am sitting here trying to put into words just how much my dad means to me, he is my HERO, he makes me happy when I am sad, he makes me feel safe and loved. I can go on for ever because to me he is the best dad in the whole world.

I am not ready to talk of dad in the past because I can still feel him with me. My dad is a character, funny, loving, selfless and totally nuts. I have so many fabulous memories that I want to share with you all so apologise if your cups of tea have gone cold whilst reading this.

Childhood memories of sand castles, ice cream, wheelbarrow races and picnics on the beach make me smile. Every year we would go to Devon for our holidays and my brother and I could choose whatever we wanted for tea, chips, chips and more chips oh and then sundaes for dessert, yum yum. It would take ages to get our kites up in the sky and the crazy golf was just so much fun.

Christmases were the best, I can remember the best present I every had. It was a silver cross dolls pram and mum and dad had cleaned and polished it till it looked brand new. My nan had knitted clothes for my doll and crocheted blankets. Mum and I walked around the block of houses in the pouring rain it was brilliant.

My brother and I had a small Lego man that we would hide for when dad got in from work and dad wasn't allowed to have his dinner until he found it (poor dad was starving he he) we did this with our children too with the same Lego man.

Dad made wardrobes for our house, helped us fit our kitchens, plant our gardens and fix our cars and we bought dad scratch cards to say thankyou loads of scratch cards over the years, boy does dad like a scratch card.

Even when dad was diagnosed with throat cancer and PSP his sense of humour never failed. We could no longer look after dad and hit the jackpot when a nursing home near us welcomed dad and us into their home and their hearts. We warned them he was fast and they quickly gave dad the nickname of Linford Christie. He was only there a few days when he pushed the emergency button. They all raced to his room to find him sitting there laughing. After asking what was wrong he replied I just wanted to see how fast you all are. (I told you he's nuts).

Dad kept them all on their toes and I like to think they loved every minute. They fed him chocolate cake which is dads favourite, danced with him, played games with him and joked about his football team. They all became our friends and second family. I love going there and will miss everyone so very much. The hardest part was not going to pick up dads bits and bobs but leaving, my daughter and I just didn't want to leave.

I can hear dad laughing as we are watching his favourite program Ant and Dec and so with dads laughter in my ears I can only say love you lotses dad see you tomorrow just as I always do. Xxxxx

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  • Lovely tribute to your much loved dad Xxx

  • Thank you so very much for your kind words, finding this site has given me so much support and help xxx

  • I can hardly breath for crying and laughing....what fun your dad must've been....I hope when it's my time my kids will remember me for all the fun stupid stuff that I would do..... What lovely fun memories.....

  • I am so glad it made you laugh. I wanted to share with you all just how much fun we had growing up. I feel truly blessed and so very loved. Xxxxxx

  • I was wrought with emotion both happy and sad....

    I loved how you described your wonderful dad...

  • Anyone of right mind and heart would be proud to be the subject of that beautiful memorial, Millie. what a grand, loving man, and how fortunate he was to have you, as well as vice versa. I really appreciate your sharing those bright memories. You have warmed my heart. My sympathy on your loss. Love and peace. Ec

  • i agree ec

    ;ol jill

    xxxxxxx

  • Thank you. I am overwhelmed by the love you are all sending me xxxx

  • Thank you Ec, We are all so lucky to have our memories. Dad and I have had so much time to say everything we needed to say to each other and I am so thankful for that. I am a very lucky girl xxx

  • What a dad !!!

    Your memories will remain bright. My sisters and I still laugh about our dad and he died 20 years ago.

    Big hug for you, Millie from Jean xxx

  • You are a sweetheart Jean, your hug was lovely and just what I needed. We are so very blessed to be born to such wonderful parents. Xxxx

  • I'm so sorry for your loss Millie, your Dad sounds a wonderful man, hang on to those memories and try to remember Dad is free from the evil PSP, so many of us have lost our loved ones recently, it's heartbreaking....

    Sending you my love...

    Pat xx

  • I agree, so many lovely people taken away from us far too early in their lives. I think back to when dad was diagnosed and we didn't have a clue what PSP was. This site has been a godsend to us and answered so many questions we wanted to ask. I can only hope and pray that one day others will be spared from this awful disease. Xxxxx

  • What a lovely tribute!! I am sure your dad is chuckling!! I can feel the love. My parents were in nursing homes when they died in 2005 within 3 weeks of each other. Couldn't bear to be apart !! I would go see them daily also. As you feel I am sure it was a privilege to be with them daily. My dad had dementia a bit and one night he called me from the home's payphone and said..... well Sue here I am in the San Juan airport ! He was a pilot in the air corp. Asked him how he got there told me he flew the plane! Admitted that he was tired so knowing the layout of the home I directed him down the hallway to his room. He was in a wheel chair. He was amazed to find a room at the airport with a bed and his name on It! So fun to tell stories as it keeps the sadness away!!! And yes, we'll see them tomorrow as always! God bless and safe travels to your dad!!!

    Sue

  • I am so glad you don't fight it....just redirect his thoughts and ideas to something that is positive and safe and allow him to have that memory ...Good job Sue

  • Oh my I am still laughing after reading your post three times. So glad there weren't any passengers he he. We are so lucky to have these memories. Thank you for sharing them with me. Take care xx

  • Lovely post Millie. Really sorry to hear that your Dad has passed away. May he rest in peace, finally free from this evil disease.

    Sending big hug and much love.

    Lots of love

    Anne

  • Thank you Anne. I am thankful that my dad is free from this awful disease and is now with mum hopefully keeping an eye on us. Xxxx

  • So very sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing such wonderful memories of him xx

  • Thank you so very much we have so many memories and are remembering more and more each day xxxx

  • What lovely memories to treasure xx

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