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Motivation and Self belief

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For those who live alone motivation and self belief is hard to constantly produce on a daily level

I find life to be a test of Trials and also dealing with unemployment and solitude can make me tearful at times

I come on this site mainly for support and understanding and I do not wish to come across as feeling sorry for myself

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Hi Roukaya, it is difficult isn’t it. Especially being on your own and now we are in another lockdown! Do you have plans to visit your mother when this lockdown is over?

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Roukaya in reply to Agoodenough

Good morning

I hope you are well

Thank you for reply

I said I would wait for the two exam results and I passed one and missed the other so I intend to attempt the resit in Jan and by Gods grace visit Mum in January

But my motivation is lacking and if I give up I would feel bad so the decision to stay is really mine

Also I know an Islamic Priest who has a huge network of contacts in law but he does not wish to help me find a years work experience in order to requalify so the applications must come from my own efforts

Hi Roukaya, We are happy to support you whatever your mood, and even if you are feeling sorry for yourself, that's a perfectly valid feeling. If it helps to share that, then of course it's OK. What's important is to find ways to make yourself feel better, not to worry about how you are 'coming across'. Take care and I hope you feel more cheerful soon.

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Good morning

I hope you are well

I think being alone in Lockdown with no one has made me realise that unless I start passing the remainder of the two exams and finding a years work experience it is most likely I will give up

I think there comes a point to give up as I cannot justify my life in U.K.

I will try for the remaining two years and unless I have made some form of progress I will leave abs give up

I this where I am

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That's good Roukaya! There can come a point when you realise that you are chasing a futile dream. As yet it isn't futile and I think it's a great plan to attempt a re-sit of your exam, but also a good idea that you make a long term plan for your future. And, if that's to let go of one thing to focus on another which may make you happier all around, then that's fine too.

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Good Morning

I hope you are well

I think the words futile are a little strong

I will continue to try and if I pass the remainder and obtain a years work experience I will continue on this path

If the door remains closed then I realise that this was not meant for me

I have learnt that in my own experience that it is easy to be criticised when you are in a weak position

I think that deeply saddened at being isolated due to Lockdown and I have no one but my Mother overseas

I keep away from the two Aunts who call me an Orphan and laugh at me for trying

One even said I will study until I die

In two years I will know whether I have been chasing a futile dream , I can still try until then

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S11m

After the death of my late wife, I motivated myself to get down to my ideal weight.

I like to hope that my heart and brain will be up to doing some work ...do I sell all my equipment, or do I try to get around to using it?

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Roukaya

I think in reality I do not wish to come across as a victim or have anyone feel sorry for me

I studied law back in 2000 but with so many hopes and aspirations which did not materialise

I am trying again but I will give myself two years more and unless I pass the rest and find a years work experience it will time to give up

I had an upset last month when someone else got offered a job and I got ever so upset because I felt it wasn't fair and these things for me always feel worse just because its the time of the month as it was when that happened and also back in September hearing that about the local lockdown here in Wales had felt a lot worse all because it was the time of the month and I had to cancel a job interview due to the fact I was so upset and had rung them to apologise and explain and had asked about rearranging and had been told a plain and simple no but now time has gone by I feel it was a blessing in disguise that they did that.

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Snowdrops_17

I am not unemployed, but FURLOUGHED, but this 2nd lockdown is getting to me as well! Feel low, fed up, and not able to look forward to anything really! Motivation today, NIL!

But I have been unemployed a few times and know it's even harder now! Hope your tenant is on her way of recovery Roukaya 🙏❤️

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Snowdrops_17

Agree with you Jerry 🙏

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