I think I turn to this site as many give me support
It seems that I agreed to have a tenant and an agreement struck to pay me a sum of £350 for the bedroom furniture when she leaves
I realise there are many properties on the market who are reducing their rent every month
To a certain extent I have agree because I thought it would be a source of income as I am not working
I am becoming very tired mentally with all of this and I think I should concentrate my mind in studying and finding a years experience and may be one day decide to sell instead of rent and earn a living through a job
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What's good is that you've come to a decision you can work with Roukaya. Often it's down to compromise in life and if this will relieve a worry for you, it's been worth all the hard work. Hope you're feeling better that it can all move forward now. 🙏
I think the worries of my Mother’s plus this rental property have been a distraction for me and may be this is why I have failed my exams and been unsuccessful in finding employment
I can see why ?
But as I am not working this is supposed to be a source of income but I am already realising I need to earn an independent means of an income
I can see this is starting to cause you stress. If her references are good and you can get the insurance you were talking about then just go ahead. This will mean you need not be concerned with it and you will have an income for 30 months.
Just a thought for the future. You said you might sell it. I think it will be worth hanging onto. By all means find employment, but hold on to the property for when you retire. It will provide a good boost to your pension.
Well hopefully this means you have your tenant sorted and you can now look forward to next months rent coming into your bank account. Sounds like she really wants the property and she may not be demanding it might have just been first impressions and she did offer to help with the £350.00 she is giving you. You could wait for another 2 months for another tenant but that will cost you more than the cost of clearing out the furniture. Good luck Roukaya. Fingers crossed it all flows smoothly 🍀 💚
I think your property gives you some security for the future. Let it continue to provide you with an income. This should not let you pursue your other career aspirations or stop you working hard to achieve them. Maybe thing will run smooth with the new tenant. If the decision has been made, you need to stop worrying about it now and move forward. xx
I think I was so stressed because I dealt with some awful tenants when dealing with my Fathers property portfolio
But I did deal with the Estate who behaved as a Rottweiler when I tried to pull out
I was even prepared to walk away but if even I did this I would be back to square one
I should learn to have confidence in the decision I have made
But today I told my Mother you treat me like a five year old
Both parents have undermined mine and my lack of confidence is so chronic that my studies and job applications are not given enough of a priority because I believe I cannot achieve
I have learnt the quality of empowerment to start believing in my own ability and the willingness to create a better life for myself with what I can do
I think you achieve a great deal Roukaya, maybe you just do not see it. Believe in yourself and you will achieve the things you want most with hard work. We are not born with confidence, this has to be learned and practiced. It's something we build up in little steps. Confidence and self believe is no easy feat, we need to keep at it all the time even when we experience the knocks in life. The art work, I am enjoying it. It is completely new to me and brings about totally new feelings when I am doing it. I have to say, It is quite enjoyable. xx
I think if you enjoy doing something you will naturally progress in it
I appreciate your kind words and I know when I am under pressure this can trigger anxiety and fear
I think I realise that confidence and self belief come from within and certainty of our abilities
I thank you for your kind words
Much appreciated
Bless least you have a income sit back and if the worst happens which I'm sure it won't then worry but if I decide to sell goon you can always invest in another property near to u and sort things yourself, if your axcious people pick up on this kinda thing at interviews use this time to volunteer and get some experience xx
Yay! You rented out the flat! There is NO rule which says that because something happened in the past, it must be repeated, and it gives you some space and funding to do what you want you really want to do now.
You are not alone in having days when you feel anxious and fearful and others when you feel more confident and clear....it is absolutely normal, completely and utterly the same for the vast majority of us. Few are 100% certain of every decision taken. All that we can do is the make the best and most informed decision at any one time. I wish the very best in your steps forward, after what has clearly been a very very difficult and challenging few years for you. With my best regards, Lily
How are you managing in the Lock Down and post Lock Down
Your words are very kind and understanding
I have been battling a clear lack of confidence in my decision making ability given my past experiences
I weighed up both options but even if I had backed out I would be back to square one
Life is a continual learning curve and as you rightly say we try to make an informed decision which I expect is what I have done
Not easy when you lack confidence
I also have learnt that I cannot deal with aggressive people but I spoke to the agent this morning and even apologised if I says anything out of turn but even he said I am reacting to previous experiences I have had in the past in managing my Fathers property portfolio and unruly tenants
Sometimes the past can haunt us and can us us a little fearful
I am trying to do what I can
I really value what you have said I hope you are keeping well
I am loving doing lots of excellent on line training via Zoom...professional development classes for my psychotherapy plus other skills areas. In lockdown, I have been able to access leading tutors from all over the country and internationally from the safety of my home...as being on the ultra vulnerable list I have been instructed by my doctors and the NHS to fully shelter of course. I also specialise in treating my clients over the telephone and Skype already but have been doing more Skype. Best regards, Lily
Dear Roukaya, I am a qualified psychotherapist with a private practice. I specialising in chronic pain and illness (especially lupus). My profile has more detail. As I said I work across the country and overseas via the telephone and Skype, and I have to say that I really appreciate seeing people's faces on Skype having been at home now since early March. Take great care of yourself today, with my best regards, Lily
Well, I often take a creative approach which I find my clients really get into and find effective, so for example, using pictures and drawings to illustrate feelings, values and goals but the cornerstone of my practice is the most profound ability to listen. However, I come to this website to offer my help and indeed to find comfort and support, which I think you do too, rather than market my business. If you are considering counselling have you thought about contacting Paul Howard or one of the administrators about the counselling services that they provide and which of course are free??? If this does not appeal then, I am of course very happy to have a chat with you about possibly pursuing things further with me via my website. With my very best regards, Lily
It is interesting that you offer kind and compassionate and empowering Psychotherapy to enable your clients to progress from past hurts a d trauma
I had a Psychotherapist who was kind enough to talk to me for ten minutes every day during Lock Down but I was pleased to have so one to talk to but she said I talk like a child and may be I am a child who has not grown up
I could never adjust to this so this will explain why I realise Pyschotherapy should come from a place of warmth and compassion to enable the client who can be vulnerable and alone to have the strength and resilience to rebuild their lives from past traumas
I can see you try your best and hopefully when my income levels are stabilised once the new tenant has settled I will be in touch
I hope you keep well and being to others really is what life should be
Good morning Roukaya, thank you for your reply. I think the deepest respect for my clients' own desire to heal is fundamental. I know that you will take care of yourself and my best thoughts are with you whatever you decide to do, with my best regards, Lily
Well its good that youvr got a tenant so one worry of your mind and if going to give you money for furniture when she leaves sounds like will be a good tenant. You can now concentrate on your exams and getting a job. Hopefully you will be.feeling better about things soon
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