I would like to say that I am grateful to this site for listening to me
I realise that our aims or aspirations are very much dependent on our own efforts
At the age of fifty I realise my journey to finding myself has begun in Lock Down
I have been the daughter of two overpowering and very confident parents by which my confidence and self belief very much under minded and relegated
I know now that confidence and self belief plays an intrinsic part to towards moving forwards
It will not be easy as the door to an opportunity will require much effort and determination to open and sadly as I watched Baroness Amos explain traditional discrimination can be prevalent but again unless we try to do what our heart tells us to do , how can the necessary changes be made
I see myself very clearly , someone who talks like a child with low confidence and low self esteem and it will take time and much patience to bring her up to her potential
This is again what this virus has taught to us appreciate what we have and build on what makes us fulfilled
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When I was a child I was told people have better things to do than listen to the likes of you. Another saying was to know your place. I had no parents.. so eventually I grew strong. You need to remember that you are unique, if you search the whole world there is only one of you, that makes you very special.
I would have never realised that you have faced so much rejection in your early years and by your own efforts you have made your own independent life
Thank you for your honestly
I have always thought who is anyone to tell you what you can and cannot be
Hi Roukaya,
You've had a real journey of discovery through lockdown and that's possibly because you've had so much time to think about past life events and the part your parents have played in your life.
Change is a really difficult thing to bring about permanently, but the good thing is that you are now determined to keep trying and you are unafraid to look at what's gone wrong in the past. So you are giving yourself the best chance of changing what needs to be changed and I wish you every success in doing that.
With liberation comes much responsibility. But it also gives you a boost in self confidence and self belief. So build on those whenever you can.
It is good that you are finding yourself Roukaya, as I do believe, it is an important point in someone's life to start this journey to find fulfillment. It is up to us not to be ground down by circumstances, attitudes and prejudices. You are coming through this pandemic with a realization of who you are and where you want to be and that takes a strong person to take a deep look at themselves. Confidence and self esteem, these are things that can be changed. It just takes a slightly different way of thinking about yourself. Be proud of who you are and what you have done in life so far. When you believe in yourself others will believe in you. Love yourself first, then you can love others, show compassion to yourself, then you can show that to others because you have lived it and felt it. 🌸🌼
You will get where you want to be with all the determination you have, you have shown great strength of character. You are an inspiration to us all. 💜❤️
Such a validating reply, reflecting all her achievements. It's easy to write stock phrases from books like i'm ok you're ok. But you show empathy and that's genuine.
Since you have become aware of these things, you can now tackle them, and It is good that you are trying. You have only yourself to deal with over the confidence issue, and I know your Mum is difficult, but your duty is to yourself right now.
Be determined, and stay strong. You Can do it.
Are there any courses on Assertiveness in your area? It might be a thought to try one. I did one years ago and it made a lot of difference to me and my attitudes to myself.
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