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Yesterday’s meltdown

Roukaya•

4 years ago•32 Replies

I hope you are all keeping well

Thank you for those who gave me much support

I think ultimately it is for us to determine and to do what we can for all well being

Painful situations I understand now are a trigger for change

I realise without knowing ultimately it is for us to change the course of our life if the current one dies not make us happy

I think I moved to Derby with so much hope and in a blind to what was waiting for me

This chapter is closed and I am trying to complete the next chapter

I seem to have many highs and lows but better understanding that it is for me to drive to change I would like to see

My Mother I realise is someone I need to realise can make me happy and sad as well

Knowing how to draw clear boundaries with kindness and understanding is better than an exchange of anger

I think also I would like to move away from where I am living but this in its own time

I hope you are all keeping well

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Roukaya4 years ago

I meant does not make us happy

4 years ago

Sorry I didn't see your post yesterday but what very wise words. We can't change what's happened in the past but we sure can be in charge of our future to a certain degree and make it better.

Acceptance can be the key, it can be a difficult one but we can learn to deal with it.

Take care 🌈🤗

Marnie224 years ago

It's good that you are making progress and seeing things in a helpful way. I am sure you will continue to grow in your understanding. I am older than you and I am still learning so much and becoming more able to move forward. Sending a hug.

🙂🌸

Roukaya• in reply toMarnie224 years ago

Good evening I hope you are well

It is kind of you to say you are still learning.

I think we should do in life what makes us content and fulfilled .

Also realising that true beauty comes from within

I hope you are well

I think Christmas will be a lonely affair for me and for many

This is a kind and thoughtful website

Always a kind word

Marnie22• in reply toRoukaya4 years ago

I agree that this site is a very positive thing. I was really hesitant to come on here initially, but I can't imagine life without it now. I will be alone all over Christmas and the New Year. I haven't celebrated them for 12 years. 🙂🌸

4 years ago

Hello maby if you read some of my posts it may help you see a different perspective on things and get through your time alone until you can change your life it's always changing nothing stays the same sometimes we just need to give fate a push in right direction write a list of what you want for next year and you are in a good position you own your property you have no ties and you are still young healthy I wish you well and if I can turn my life around I'm sure you can take care 🌟xx

Roukaya• in reply to4 years ago

Good evening I hope you are well

Very encouraging words

I think success is dependent upon our own efforts and to how we view life

I think since I lost Dad , Mum became quite dominant but with the help of a Psychotherapist our mindset and ability to see our strengths and carve out a path most appropriate for us

I hope you are safe and well

Are you looking forward for Christmas

I will find it quite lonely unless we are put in a Tier 2 I would be able to go away

Life is what we make of it

This is understand

• in reply toRoukaya4 years ago

Hi I think if you try to keep your mind occupied and try not to think and dwell on what may have been also as this will drag you down say stop to yourself when you feel like this and keep thinking and seeing yourself and life how you want it to be I believe we all have a guardian angel prey to her 🌟xx

Roukaya• in reply to4 years ago

Good evening I hope you are well

The past can comprise of lessons which teach us so much

Very true to have faith

I hope you are feeling well

• in reply toRoukaya4 years ago

Thank you still bit of head pain I need to get changed and charge phone up now hope you find something on TV to watch and sleep well 🌟

4 years ago

Yes I've regrets but when we're young were not wise at least I'm only 56 and it gets more precious like we said before the years role by so quick have you checked the latest bazzak post it's off mad bunny I've added a picture and few replies I've another post planned for him maby tomorror lol enjoy your night 🌟xc

Roukaya4 years ago

Good evening I hope you are well

Thanks for your reply

I find it intriguing that you wish you were 51

If Aladdin were to give you three wishes the first to be 51 , what would be your other two wishes ?

Sunfloweronline• in reply toRoukaya4 years ago

Hi R, I’m reading previous messages and I’m feeling a sense of great understanding from yourself and your friends!

So many challenges sometimes and we can get frustrated and feel that we’ve not reached the goals that we thought would solve our problems!

But we are all beautiful and unique and if we can lift the pleasure and esteem of our own perceptions of ourselves a huge weight is lifted from our shoulders! Be your own best friend and you can smile 😊 and take greater care to be the best you can be! You are doing so so well and I’m sending you happy vibes and wishing you all the very best for Christmas 🎄⛄️😉😉🎁Therese

Q what do you call a dog who works for Santa Claus?

A Santa paws 🐾😊

Roukaya• in reply toSunfloweronline4 years ago

Ho Ho HoGood evening

I hope you are well

Thank you for your kind words

I have a little joke DIY I made up myself

The lady at the Bank said I a similar name to Mum

I said I also have similar dental problems

What do you think

I had my front tooth removed and a small denture replaced

Without the denture I look like Nanny Mc Phee the Asian version

MaggieSylvie• in reply toRoukaya4 years ago

Like it! Good morning Roukaya. Glad to see you have a sense of humour! It would be nice to be 51 again but I don't wish for it as I have more wisdom now. Where would you like to move to? What would that place offer that Derby doesn't? I feel that in my life I have adapted to every place I have lived.😀

Roukaya• in reply toMaggieSylvie4 years ago

Thanks for your replyI had an interview today interesting and insightful

I hope you are well

Many times times I had looked back in regret but now realising all our experiences good or bad prepare us for the next chapter

Sunfloweronline• in reply toRoukaya4 years ago

On a scale 1-10 I’d say hummmm 5! But keep at it hey!!!

I have my Christmas decs up now and I’m feeling better for it!

I didn’t want to last year coz I was missing my dear John so very much! But I’m doing ok and so grateful for my faith and family! Take care and keep smiling 😊XTherese

Roukaya• in reply toSunfloweronline4 years ago

HelloI hope you are well

I can well understand how sad you were last year

This will be my first Christmas alone as Mum usually spends it with me

But the risk of the virus so great that Mum has had to postpone her journey

I do get quite lonely but today I had a job interview and finally understood that everything has a reason behind it and in time we all find our path and our place

It is essential to always have great compassion and kindness and to also become what God intends us to be

Sunfloweronline• in reply toRoukaya4 years ago

Morning R! ☔️ and quite dismal here in Alkrington , but I’m having breakfast in bed 🛌 and keeping warm and cosy! I am hunkered down for the present time and finding keeping track on Facebook a way of me being involved with what’s going on around the world 🌎 and also much closer to home 🏡! Lots of lovely generous people are doing so much to help others who are struggling with these difficult times!! Sending you a 😊and 💕

Roukaya• in reply toSunfloweronline4 years ago

Good morning I hope you are well

I am finding the loneliness at times very hard to accept

I only have my Mother overseas and she can overwhelm me at times with her worries which impacts on me

I was hoping to visit but been advised to wait until the vaccine

How are you keeping

I am quite low these days may be the loneliness and not seeing the sun

How will you be spending Christmas

I expect you will be missing your son

I made the decision to be by myself rather than with those who insult or humiliate or even use me

That is the price of loneliness

But some do have good friends and family

ShelWhitt4 years ago

Don't we all! Couldn't resist that. Hope you don't mind!

Sheila_G4 years ago

Good to hear you are feeling more positive

Roukaya• in reply toSheila_G4 years ago

Thank you

MidoriVisually impaired4 years ago

There is an extensive Muslim Community in Southampton.

Roukaya• in reply toMidori4 years ago

I hope you are wellAre you looking forward for Christmas

It is interesting about your life story and you come across as a very strong lady

Today I had a job interview but central to the job is the driving ability of the successful candidate

But I did learn that I am no longer intimidated by others but I will continue to try once I have done the resit in Jan

How are keeping

MidoriVisually impaired• in reply toRoukaya4 years ago

I don't really celebrate Christmas, I'm not really a religious person nowadays, but to lighten what has been a dreadful year for everyone, I will do a celebration dinner for myself and my son, and maybe a couple of friends, virus permitting. Another year I might be helping to feed homeless folk, but I still don't know my way around yet, or which charities there are.

Quite a lot of folk put up lights around here, some of them are very pretty, Outside as well as indoors, but I tend to keep mine indoors, as it can get very windy here, and I wouldn't want them blown away. I'm slowly getting the decorations up, but I need to get the sofa shifted to make room for the tree, and also my sewing table.

I really think it would be a good idea for you to have a few Refresher Driving lessons, to help you get your confidence back on the road.

Cheers, Midori

ShelWhitt4 years ago

Not too bad, all things considered! I have decided to try counting my blessings . My mum always said there is always someone worse off than you. And do you know what, she might have had a point. I am 78. Still have a DH, even though he is 82, has dementia and can hardly walk, amongst other things! But you know what, he is still here and so am I, in spite of our long list of problems. We have two lovely, healthy, married daughters and two wonderful grandchildren. We have a roof over our heads; enough food to eat, and can keep warm. We have had a full life; brilliant holidays all over the the world and UK , ( Sadly DH can't remember any of them now) and until the last couple of years have had a full social life. In the grand scheme of things, and compared to many others, we have done pretty well So I am making an effort to be positive and even though we have decided to spend Christmas on our own, purely as a precaution, I am determined it will be a happy one. Sending Season's greeting to you all. Take care and stay safe. With luck it will soon be over.xx

ShelWhitt4 years ago

Thank you, My dexter. Been a pretty rough year all in all and my friends on here have been brilliant. Tolerant, listening and extremely understanding , when I have felt really low and poured out my worries and anxieties, sometimes for weeks on end. I think maybe most of us l on here have been in my position at some stage, when everything is going wrong, all at once, and we get so overwhelmed , we can't see a light at the end of the tunnel, and find it almost impossible to cope. But thankfully I hope I have finally pushed through . Thank you all again for your support. xx

• in reply toShelWhitt4 years ago

Things always go wrong at the same time don't they?

Roukaya4 years ago

Good evening I hope you are well

I think today I finally learnt that there is no need to look back in regret as life takes us to our ultimate destination

I have often wished to be younger but none of us can turn back the clock

I miss my little Mum and I will be spending Christmas all alone like many

I hope you are keeping well

Roukaya4 years ago

Good evening I hope you are well

I can drive as I have a car and I have a license

I have lost the practice

Roukaya4 years ago

I think you are rightMy inability to drive confidently will go against me

Not the end of the world

I also would be fearful of driving in the job due to lack of practice

This is one is not for me

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