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Who has the right to judge us and put us down

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I write in this site as many are supportive

I think the reason why I was so troubled yesterday was being intimidated or bullied by the simple act of shopping

I think as I am the only daughter of two very strong and independent adults , my voice or validation was never given and hence why my career aims as a Law Graduate did not materialise

Older and wiser knowing that despite the knocks and puts downs I have received over the years will only make me try even harder though very hard to continually persevere .

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Morning Roukaya, I agree with everything Jerry has said and as I said yesterday, it is their problem not your problem. If you let this bulling continue to bother you into today, it means the bully is winning and we can never allow that to happen. Accept it as their problem, put it behind you and despite it enjoy your day. You can rise above it because you are the better person. 🌼🌷🌸

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Good morning

I hope you are well and thank you taking the time to respond to me

I realise the problem is very much with bully who uses verbal aggression to get their own way

It simply echoed previous episodes of being intimidated

I realise I will not let this get the better of me and I thank you again for your kind advice

I wish you a good day ahead

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I am glad you will not let it get the better of you and I hope you have a lovely day today. Oh yes, I am fine and well thank you. πŸ‘πŸ˜Š

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Thank you

I hope you have a peaceful day

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Good morning

I hope you are well

I agree with what you have said

My Father would say bullying is symptomatic of projection

The issue is to do with the bully and not the recipient

I will not let yesterday’s experience spill over to day

I thank you for being kind enough to answer

I wish you a peaceful day

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That's right its their problem not yours!

Hi Roukaya, I'm so sorry if you had a bad day yesterday. Ups and downs in mood are common to all people but this can be much more severe in some people. And if you felt you were under attack yesterday, then it's really easy to plummet into a low mood. But the great thing is recognising your own personality and even, as in your case, how it's come to be. Getting older does indeed send wisdom, and that, together with your own determination, lets you see that your 'down' times don't have to define you or even influence you too much. You now know that you can bounce back. I hope you have a much better and more positive day today. Take care.

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Good morning

I hope you are well and thank you for being kind enough to reply

I think yesterday simply triggered previous experiences I have had of being intimidated

There is still a sale of 90% per cent and so people are becoming aggressive in what they want

I realise and I have self awareness of who I am and where I would like to be

I am even thankful and even grateful that I do not need to work alongside bullies and I can determine the course of my day to day life by Gods Grace

I hope you are well and thank you for listening

Forget what happened yesterday and get on with the plans you have today. You have another day ahead if you so make the most of it and enjoy it, yesterday is over today is beginning..

Enjoy.

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Good morning

I hope you are well

I totally agree

I wish you a very good day as well

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Thank you. 😊

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Hi Roukaya.

Yesterday is history, gone and should be forgotten, now live for tomorrow and beyond...... you know you will not be bullied here..... your friends here will encourage snd support you!

Take care to stay safe..... have a nice Sunday! πŸ˜€πŸŒˆπŸŒΉ

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Roukaya

Good morning

I hope you are safe and well

I would like to explain I do not think I was bullied but I felt a little intimidated

Not to worry

Thank you

I wish you a peaceful day

A good seed will spread its goodness and kindness around

A bad seed will also spread its decay to those it comes in contact with

This is the world we live in goodness abs badness

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Roukaya

Good Afternoon

I hope you husband is having a wonderful birthday

The weather is quite nice where I am but thank you for being kind enough to reply

I think as we become older things that would impact on us no longer have such an effect

I know as I have reached fifty to do the things that matter the most to us

I hope you and your husband have a peaceful and enjoyable day

I feel myself that a benefit of getting older is that with experience you come to see its the bullies with the problem, not you!

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Yes, I agree.

I am older and wiser now. I was gullable.

My first ever boss was horrible to me from day one, there were a few who stuck up for me. She went off on holiday and then we found out dhe had been telling me the wrong way to do something so I would get into trouble. Anyway, one morning I was not feeling at my best as we had lost someone dear to us the day before. She started on me so I stood up and gave it to her, everyone cheered πŸ‘. She never did anything to me again 😊, the next school leaver came and yes she was same with her. We came to the conclusion that she had a chip on her shoulder because her own children hadn't turned out right, it was she who had the problem not us!! Sorry, I've gone off on a tangent again!! I just get carried away. All my love to you all Lynne xxxx β€οΈπŸ€—πŸŒˆπŸ’œ

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That's the thing with these bullies you find that they are very unhappy people who should be pitied!

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Yes!!! Xxxx

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