I often write my posts on this site and many kind supporters I have found.
There are times I can manage but times I become very sad and lonely with the isolation ,
I have never seen so much world suffering as a result of this Pandemic things I took for granted
For Muslims Ramadan will be approaching and I usually visit Mauritius or go to Turkey for the celebrations following Rsmadhan
This a period of great isolation and for Muslims to turn inwardly to God
All of this I realise but again My Mother projects her anxiety on to me for example a gardener stepped and sat in her kitchen for about fifteen minutes , My Mother kept her distance but she tells me always if her worries
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imagine if your mum didn't tell you of her worries, trials and tribulations, if she wasn't open with you... You'd be worried sick wondering what was actually happening in her life!
I think it's a great thing that she shares so much with you: it's entirely up to you how you process that information... You can choose to have it worry you (although that is pointless as you can't do anything to help your mum from this great distance) or you can choose to file the nugget of information safely away in your mind, secure in the knowledge that nothing worse is befalling your mum than what she has told you.
You really do have the power to adapt and calibrate your response, secure in the knowledge that everything that's happening to your mum is known to you, and you can then turn your attention to your own life here and focus on your own projects and endeavours.
Seeing you talk about your mother makes me sad, my mum died last September, I was thinking of my nephew and said to my husband I almost said I will call mum and ask when his birthday is. Mum was good at trying to organise us as a family, I miss her, she was 95 but I was not ready to lose her.
Loneliness is terrible. Throw your heart and soul into passing your Diploma, believe that you can do it this time. Keep studying and working towards your goal. When you concentrate so much on something, especially something that means a lot to you, you won't think about how lonely you are so much because you won't have time. You have to keep going till you pass and know you will get there. xx
Use some of this time now in isolation to apply yourself. Make the time work for you. When you are passionate about what you do and when you work hard, good thing happen, they do. xx
I am sorry to hear you are alone, but you can stay connected, if just with the people from this site. We are all here for each other. I am in the U S, but I feel a connection to every one on this site. One thing that helps me every day, is first thing as I rise in the morning, I give thanks for another day. As of today, I have been given approximately 25,650! Maybe this would help your mother to realize she has also been bless with many days and many more to follow. Even if this idea can't help your mother, hopefully it can help you. Remind yourself every day, of the days you have been given and of all of those that you will be blessed with.
FEAR is a destroyer of life. Live everyday. Don't let fear suck the life out of your days.
Roukaya, unlike you, I do live with my husband of over 45 years. So I am not alone. Even though I am not experiencing the feeling of loneliness at this time, There are many people I miss seeing.
I have had some very hard years where I experienced fear...fear that I allowed myself to let take over my days. I regret that I allowed it. It was a fear that could have ended many of my relationships, but luckily I had very good people in my life who would not allow my fear to ruin everything. Fear can breed fear and this is what is happening to you when your mother calls with her fears.
Parents are suppose to calm their children and tell them everything will be fine...but sometimes the children must be the parent. Here's one thing my youngest adult child told me when I was feeling sorry for myself. She told me I couldn't call her unless I first had something positive to say. I wanted to hear her voice, so I would really work at trying to think of something positive to tell her whenever I called. It slowly helped me to see all of the positive things I had going on in my life.
This pandemic has changed the world. There may actually be positive things that come from it. In the mean time, we must work on ourselves to be the best we can be, so that we can contribute in the best way we know how.
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