As you have prob figured I have been called again for an assessment and feeling really down about it. I have only got it for 18 months even though I have been ill for eight years. I have been diagnosed with chronic pain PTSD and depression. I see a psychologist weekly for trauma therapy as i have childhood traumas to work through. I was also beaten and raped as a teenager, from this attack I nearly died. My chronic pain when at its worst leaves me bed ridden. Both my conditions are medicated but neither controlled. I hate having to sit in these assessments as I am asked to go into detail which brings everything back I always get upset. I am not saying I want any special treatment but is the information on the form and letters off my psychologist not explicit enough? Any one any advice please on how not to get so upset? I have worked full time all of my adult life now I am not I feel like half a person.
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Thank you for your response I did tell her the first time that it was already written down but she said I had to say it. I must admit I did begin to shake and raised my voice. She then said I had the right to walk out of the assessment. Obviously this would have gone against me. My mother was a homeless alcoholic who died two weeks before Christmas I had to identify her body. As one of my main abusers this has made her death even harder to deal with. This alone causes me issues I feel like I am just about functioning without having to go through the ordeal of ESA and PIP. I cannot in all honesty say I have any faith in these assessments been a true reflection of the needs of the individual. We are all different and just because you cannot see my condition it make it no less real. It was remarked upon at my last assessment that I was tidy and well kept! So word of advice don't go well kept 🙈🙈 I would love to know what these people would feel like if the roles were reversed. I too had a well paid good job anyone can be made unemployed or fall ill or become a victim of crime. I think certain people could do to remember this and also learn compassion. Makes me sooo angry watching the way people on benefits are portrayed on media. Calling monies paid to people benefit handouts. Not all people have a good education or start in life.
Sorry about the rant I wish you all the luck in the world xx
Hi Steve thank you for your reply thought I sounded a bit mental and scary🤗 I try not to think about the stuff to do with my mum as she isn't here anymore, so that makes it kinda final. I am struggling with guilt at her situation she was only 60 when she passed on what would have been my dads 70th birthday, I like to think her called her to him because her saw her suffering. I am mum to five great people so they help me stay somewhat sane. I find my worse days are when my pain has me confined to my bedroom. I am hard pushed to know which is worse the mental torment I feel or the physical pain. Just having a pal to offload on occasionally would be great.
You cannot avoid getting upset. It is the nature of the beast. The psychological treatment you are receiving does not work for many people. The reason why it does not work is that it fails to develop missing skills. How do I know this been there and done it.
Emotion is a body muscle response. Change the movement pattern and the emotion changes. Think of a rut in the road where motor vehicles travel. The rut keeps on getting deeper every time a vehicle travels along it. The trick is to detect the edge of the trauma while it is an ant and then steer the ant along a different path. When the emotion is a stream train there is no stopping it. The trick to handling something very distressing is to learn to learn to move your body. This is your investigation to explore the subtleties of this.
It is important that you seek legal advice from a benefits specialist. They will help you understand what the law says and how to fill the form in relation to the law. You need to take someone who knows you and your condition with you to the PIP assessment.
I have been to a PIP tribunal. In the tribunal I had to request a ten minute break to allow myself to calm down from the mental pain of what i had to remember. Asking for a break to allow the emotions to reduce is a useful strategy. Once you go past you stress breakdown point everything breaks down. So investigate what your stress breakdown point is. When you get close to it stop what you doing and allow the emotions to reduce by moving in a gentle way.
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