My Mum was diagnosed with OC in 2019, after receiving Chemo treatment (having a very rough ride she came through it). Covid has been tough for her as she had to shield after just beginning to live again. Her OC is now back and she has had a first dose Caelyx, a new drug to her. In the last few days she has felt awful but not enough to hospitalise her like last time. But she has said to both me and my sister that she doesn’t want to talk whilst she is unwell. On Tuesday my world was turned upside down when my son was rushed to hospital with internal bleeding, had a blood transfusion and needed surgery to save his life. Then whilst he is lying seriously poorly in a hospital bed my sister tells me whilst I was updating her on my son’s condition, that my Mum is giving up her chemo after just one attempt. Not just this but ALL Chemo!
To create a picture she is spending all her time in her room and choosing to not talk or text family members, no Tv radio or anything to do. Hardly talking to my Dad at all.
So please can someone explain why she is giving up? When well, she is social and busy and she has a family who loves her very much, she is mid seventies.
My thoughts of writing a letter is the only thing I can do, but I need your perspective. Both me and my Sister are so angry with her right now, and it’s raw for me because I would have given my life to save my son, yet we are somehow not worth considering in all this.
I’ve no doubt she is depressed, but what can I do when she won’t talk to any of us.
I am not close by, so can only call her.