It's been a year

[Carolsos]

Hi guys I have not been on here much this year. It's a year since my lovely darling man died of cancer. I miss Jim every day. But I carry on and I go out with my friends, it's when I get back home and am alone with my thoughts. It has been a hard year! Hopefully the next year is a bit easier. I have another granddaughter called Ember , she is 7 months and Jasmine is 3 now. I am going to Cyprus to visit my sister in a few weeks time.

I have two tears on my shoulders, rotor cuffs . If things don't improve I am going to have surgery, probably next year. I am still doing the same job as a breakfast chef! But next year I am going down to 4 days instead of 5. I have 2.5 years before I can retire. I hope everyone is keeping well. Take care. 😀

[Amnesiac3637]

Well done for coping through what must have been an incredibly hard year and good to hear from you again. 😀👍

Enjoy your grandchildren and your visit to Cyprus and let us know how you get on if you have to have surgery on your shoulder. All the very best to you, keep your chin up and come on here for support if and when you need some.

[Carolsos in reply to Amnesiac3637]

Thank you for your lovely reply. Take care.

[Intheend]

So lovely to hear from you again. So sorry for you as you have travelled through your first year of grief. How lovely to have another little granddaughter to bring you joy amidst the pain!

Hope your Cyprus visit to your sister allows you to rest a little.Sure going down to 4 days next year will help but imagine you are counting down the days till you can retire!

Really hope your shoulder tears heal without needing surgery and that your RA is under control at the moment as much as it can be.

Take care x

[Carolsos in reply to Intheend]

My Ra is under control my Ra consultation says, it's just my shoulders are in agony. My shoulders will not get better while am at work! Thank you for your reply.

[springcross]

Hi Carolsos, it's good to hear from you. I can imagine how much you miss Jim, especially when you're alone, it's a cruel old world!!! Congratulations on the addition of your new granddaughter, when she's old enough both of them will keep you busy no doubt! 😄 Enjoy your holiday in Cyprus and good luck with your shoulders, hope all goes well. xx

[Deeb1764]

how lovely to hear from you. Sending a hug 🥰

[sylvi]

Hugs darling it must be no fun losing your life partner. I wish you peace and i hope you enjoy your visit to see your sister, xxxx

[Fluffontoast]

Sorry to hear about Jim. Good that you've got family. It must be tough though. I hope you have a lovely time in Cyprus. Make sure you get others to help with the suitcase!

[janmary]

good wishes for a relaxing holiday and much joy with your lovely new grand daughters

[ruth_p]

Sending you hugs 🤗

[Scottishlad]

It's good to talk and this forum has helped me.

It is two and half years since I lost Heather. I still miss her dreadfully but the bad days are generally further apart. I found the special days (anniversaries, birthdays etc) a bit easier to deal with the third time round. Hopefully you will gradually find it easier.

Best wishes

[ABwn]

Have a lovely time in Cyprus with your family. Make the most of being with them, hopefully in the sun rather than the weather we are having in the UK.

[Pulfs]

❤️‍🩹💐

[Neonkittie17]

You are a very strong, resilient lady that’s for sure. I hope you have a lovely time in Cyprus and sorry to hear of your rotor cuffs. Hope the warm weather on your holiday helps you relax. 🩷

[Gjbrose]

💕 You will move forward but it takes time and nobody can take away your memories

[Monkeysmum]

So nice to hear from you Carol, you are doing so well to keep working in your chef role, not easy on the body. Congratulations on the new grandchild 🤱

[Ferret18]

Beat wishes to you Carolsos. Take care x

[Gnarli]

I can't begin to imagine how awful this last year has been for you, Carol. You must have been so strong to cope with everything that life has thrown at you.I sincerely hope you really enjoy your trip Cyprus and see your sister. With any luck, the warmth and rest will help your poor rotor damage. I only had one damaged and that was bad enough, but two must be agony. Aren't grand daughters the loveliest and best distraction? Dropping a day a week should also help. It's a pity you don't have ill health retirement.

[Stills]

nice to hear from you and congratulations on another granddaughter to love and cherish. Your holiday will provide new memories and each day will get easier x

[medway-lady]

I remember your posts about Jim, is his family still so nasty or now he’s sadly passed are you able to forget about them. I hope so and I’ve just got back from Pafos it was getting really hot so take care and enjoy the break. We are going again next year to same hotel. It’s a beautiful island and so relaxing I’m sure your sister is looking forward to seeing you too.

[Carolsos in reply to medway-lady]

His family have blocked me after the funeral! I have had no commutation since then. I found that very hard to cope with. It felt like the past 15 years were wiped out with his family! They all can console each other and I was not included. I did reach out to them after 6 months but his son was the only one to text back. I really missed his sisters too as we were very close I thought! But alas Jim was gone and all his family was gone too. Thank you for asking about that. I am so looking forward to this break with my sister once again. Take care v

[medway-lady in reply to Carolsos]

And take heart from rising above their nastiness. Cyprus is so lovely, and they still have GPs ! I noticed a sign saying 24/7 GP clinic and just out of curiosity asked was it true. The maid said yes. I never needed to find out for real but did ask my husband about spending the winter there. I do like the atmosphere and it’s so beautiful. And of course easy to drive about. Just shows that they are feeling guilty as you did so much.

[Green230461]

So sorry to hear your news you are very courageous keep going RA Warrior🌈

[Carolsos in reply to Green230461]

Thank you, haha never thought as a RA Warrior! Good one.