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Grieving in isolation

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I now feel able to write this...

Amber, our beautiful girl (in my avatar) was put to sleep on Friday 27th March and I’m devastated that I couldn’t be with her. The vet couldn’t call to the house so my husband had to take her to them. My son and daughter met him there to say goodbye and the vet injected her in the car so they didn’t have to go inside. She’s been my constant companion for nearly 10 years and I miss her so much. The house is empty without her and it has been hard being in isolation. It couldn’t have come at a worse time but I keep telling myself she isn’t in pain now. She was such a gorgeous girl and I feel blessed to have felt so loved. She’s running free now with her brother Ben 🌈

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😢 I’m sorry. These words are not enough. Your right to think now she’s not in pain but the void she left behind will eventually be filled with happy memories 💔

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allanah

So so sorry , feel broken hearted for you all x

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Lolabridge

I’m so sorry you have lost your special companion but she is now in a far happier place x

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sylvi

Hugs darling.xxx

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Eiram50

So sorry for your loss. Thoughts are with you x

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Shalf

Amber will be skipping over rainbow bridge now and dancing with her friends.

I had two beautiful border collies (sisters) who were my companions for 14 years and was heartbroken when they passed. It's not easy. Amber was obviously loved and cared for, you gave her a good life. You knew her time and she needed you to know. She is at peace now and when you are ready, you can celebrate her life in your own meaningful way. Memories last forever! Sending hugs ❤

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Tessthomy

This is so so sad to read. I have the exact same breed of dog. Tess. She’s 14 and doing well but I’m literally dreading something happening over these awful times.

I’m so sorry for your loss .. even though we don’t know each other I can totally relate to what you are going through. You have made the right decision hard as it was. Keep strong 💕😥💕TTx

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Shalf in reply to Tessthomy

One of my collies was called Tess :)

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Tessthomy in reply to Shalf

It’s a great name for a collie. As is Amber. X

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Shalf in reply to Tessthomy

Her sister was Flash :) that's where I get shalf from.

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Tessthomy in reply to Shalf

Brilliant!!!

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nomoreheels in reply to Tessthomy

Our second dog was Tess, of unknown origin. She was offered in Loot & we travelled a good way for her. She'd been a present from a boy to his girlfriend & she didn’t want her. The poor mite was being kept in a rabbit hutch, only 4 months old but too big for such a confined space so just had to take her away from the situation. Such a spirited dog, black & white, possibly had collie in her but what else was anyone's guess!

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Tessthomy in reply to nomoreheels

Sounds like she landed on her feet with you then after such a dismal start. Thank goodness for good people like yourself ! 🐶 x

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bernese1225 in reply to Tessthomy

Thank you Tessthomy, is Tess also a Bernese Mountain Dog? 14 is an amazing age for the breed x

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Tessthomy in reply to bernese1225

I stupidly didn’t have my glasses on (doh!) 🤓 and thought amber was the same as my Tess who’s a border collie. Very similar faces! Even so 14 is a good age for her breed too. Xx

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RosieA

I am so terribly sorry. Our pets are so much part of our family and our relationship with them is one of love without depth. When they leave us its like part of our soul goes with them. I still miss every one of them. My only consolation is knowing that they knew nothing but love and that they were protected throughout their lives, as I am sure Amber was. Your final act of love was the hardest one I know. My thoughts and tears are with you.

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helixhelix

So sorry for you. A beautiful dog. What a nice vet tho’ making her less stressed at the end.

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Pippy25

I am so sorry to hear the way in which in these extraordinary times you had to say goodbye to your beloved Amber and now being in isolation and missing dearly her presence, I am so saddened and want to say I hear what you are saying. I am going through the grieving process and had just finished some bereavement counselling following the sudden passing of my dad towards the end of last year and now at a time when I should be beginning to reach out and start doing things, going out taking a break etc after many decades of caring for two parents, I am in isolation dealing with all the first milestones since his unexpected passing on my own alongside this strange situation we are all in and it is hard. Bereavement for a loved one no matter human or a family pet is tough at the best of times so want to let you know I care and you are not alone. Keep talking about her and remember those happy, mischievous and memorable moments and if it helps make a little book of photos and write down some memories of her years with you. Cry if you need to and be kind to yourself. She sounds from what you told me in another post to have been a devoted and lovely companion to you and your family so treasure this and know that she loved you all too. Their love is unconditional and their loyalty is priceless. Sending if I may a virtual hug and keep strong x

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bernese1225 in reply to Pippy25

I am so so sorry for your loss, Your kind words mean so much, thank you. I’m also sending you a virtual hug xx

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Pippy25 in reply to bernese1225

Thank you and you take care x

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Moomin8

I'm so sorry to hear your so, so sad news. There is nothing I can say, apart from maybe...get an empty jar or similar and write down all your and your families memories. Then bury it somewhere special in your garden. Just an idea. Sending a virtual hug 🎈💙xx

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Mumcon

So sorry for your loss I know from experience how hard it is😥 It’s as you say she is now at peace and not suffering x

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Boxerlady

How sad for you all and all the worse for being at such a difficult time. We've said goodbye to 3 boxer dogs now (the current one is my avatar) and although it's always been painful, it's helped us to know that we've made the decision which is awful for us but definitely the kindest thing for them.

Each time we've waited for the right time to welcome another into our home but as we always know that the day will come, we wash all the bedding and towels and store them in vacuum packs and put toys, bowls etc in a box. We like to see them being passed on and when we're ready, they bring happy memories. 💐

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Mmrr

Thinking of you, stay strong

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Dobcross1

So sorry for your loss x

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Neonkittie17

Gentle hugs, I’m sorry to hear you couldn’t be there. x

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charisma

Oh, we miss our canine and feline companions so much when their time has arrived. Feeling the pain... 🤗

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listellor

i am so sorry i was broken up when i had to put my lab of 16years old to sleep mu soul mate through as very difficult time . but remember all the good times you had with the dog . the memories will not fad but the pain will over time

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Pippy25 in reply to listellor

That must have been heart wrenching for you as our family had a Springer Spaniel who was almost 17 and know it was an awful decision to have to make back then. As you say the memories and good are always there. Take care

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nomoreheels

Nothing any one us can say will take that awful empty feeling away, but take solace in all we pet owners have felt it so empathise with you. We have never had to say goodbye in the times we're experiencing just now though & can't imagine the extra sadness this has brought. Amber will have known love though, & given it back. It goes without saying my thoughts are with you. x

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Pippy25 in reply to nomoreheels

So True NMH x

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Pinkplum

Aww I’m sorry 💔xx

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springcross

Aww bernese, I know exactly how you're feeling, been there a few times now as I know others here have too. When we lost our girl, I couldn't even talk about her for a good year afterward as I would just end up choked right up with tears streaming down my face (I'm getting a bit like that now just typing this). The only thing I can say is that you won't get over this overnight but you will eventually (as I am sure you already know) but look how much richer you will be for all the wonderful memories you now have. You also have to remember what a wonderful life you gave her and that, at least, should make you glad. She was very lucky to have had you as her owners, there are plenty of dogs (and cats etc) out there who have not been so lucky. All the best. xxxx

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Jora

Oh, how painful. Losing a pet at the best of times is a dreadful experience but isolation must amplify that misery.

As you say, the comfort is in knowing that she’s not in pain any more. You are, but I’m afraid it’s the price of a special love.

xx

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Summerrain14

I’m so sorry to hear about your loss of your Amber. Losing one of our precious fur baby’s as I like to call them is such painful at any time but especially now. Thinking of you and please do keep in touch with us if you feel up to it and when the time is right share the precious memories you have of your Amber. Forever missed but never forgotten. ❤️ xx

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rab1874

Very sorry for your loss as others have said the pains gone and she’ll be up there playing with the other dogs,the house will be empty without her as their very loyal companions ,sending hugs xxx

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patsymay13

Gutted for you , I so know how you feel x

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Gnarli

Mere words are simply not enough to say I'm so sorry. Being a pet lover and owner myself I can imagine, in a small way, how you must feel. Huge hugs

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