Huge loss: This is our little Oliver. A few days ago... - NRAS

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This is our little Oliver.

A few days ago, he seemed off his food and a little withdrawn. I took him to our vet who seemed to thoroughly examine him and declared him healthy, saying as an outdoor cat, he’d probably just been knocked off a bit with the cold weather.

Although outdoors, he was never out for long amounts of time in the cold- but would scream holy murder, if he couldn’t get out.

Anyway, over the following few days, he declined until today, he was very unsteady in his feet and so sleepy.

I took him back to Vets today at 2.15 and at 5 pm, we sadly had to say goodbye to him- me and the girls are heartbroken.

Tragically, it seems that he had ingested antifreeze, likely from people putting it in their cars during the cold snap.

So, so sad.

Sorry fir the really glum post.

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SnooW

As an ardent cat fan and owner of 40+ years, I feel your pain and could cry for you. I am so sorry this has happened to your little chap and it's something I often worry about, knowing how cats can like sweet things, and apparently antifreeze has a sweet taste. Thank you for drawing attention to the hazard of antifreeze, but I am so sorry for your loss. Rest in peace, little one. He will always stay in your heart.

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3LittleBirds2

Oh I’m so sorry to read this, what a beautiful little boy just heartbreaking for you 😢 Sending you a massive cyber hug, such a shock for you. Xx

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nomoreheels

Oh Marie, that is so sad. Bless him, beautiful, I hope he wasn't in any pain & I'm sure you've done the right thing if it was as the vet said. I can feel how you're feeling because our adolescent dog, Misha, was also poisoned but it was a fortnight later when she died having been treated & looked after for two days & nights at the animal hospital. We thought she was getting over it too, the vet was pleased with her recovery given she was collapsed & so poorly when we took her in, he really didn't think she'd pull through after the initial scans. We were blessed for those two weeks but how I wish I'd known they'd be her last. My h has her bark as my ringtone on his mobile.

I'm sure for his short life Oliver brought much happiness to you & your girls. He'll always be with you & as they say how lucky you were to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard. Sleep tight sweet one. x

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Eiram50 in reply to nomoreheels

Thank you for your kind words.

I know what you mean about wishing you knew that they’d be the last weeks spent with them.

It was really my daughters cat - she’s 14 ( Atticus is more the family cat) and she was so good with him in his last 24 hours, confirming him, rubbing tuna water on his lips and when the vet called us back yesterday evening, she held him on her lap whilst he was out to sleep and he knew she was there as looked at her and meowed . Heart breaking. We all got to say goodbye and I truly feel he knew we were there.

Not now, but soon, I know this will provide some comfort for my daughter and the rest of the family x

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Eiram50 in reply to Eiram50

Comforting - not confirming; typo

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nomoreheels in reply to Eiram50

Your daughter must have felt that special connection with Oliver being her pusscat, & took care of him when he needed it most. That says much about her, she won't shy away from difficult situations in the future. Yes, he will have known you were all there, I truly believe they know & feel the love & take it with them. The ending always gets me in Ghost, the last few lines are so true, a little bit of us goes with them. x

Marie I am so sorry, heartbreaking for you. My lovely old dog died of suspected anti freeze poisoning some years ago now, it's awful stuff. My kids had grown up with her; so sad for you and your family xx

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Ruth12345

Im so very sorry to read this and for you and your family. Thinking of you.

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Cherub198889

This is just so heart breaking. I'm so sorry for your loss.

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Eiram50 in reply to Cherub198889

Thank you sue.

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MarshaM

So sorry your little guy suffered with poison Sounds like he had a painful decline. Just read a thread on my Nexdoor.com about indoor outdoor cats and the dangers they encounter when outside unsupervised. Some peeps in my hood have built Catios so they can enjoy outside and still be safe. So sorry for your loss.

I foster kittens for my local shelter and love everyone of them before they get adopted to their forever home. My facebook page is Marsha's Fosters. Some of the adopters post update pics of my fosters in their new homes.

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Sammicat15

Hugs to you xx

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ruth_p

So sorry for your loss. Big hugs x

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Zip1

Hugs xx

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Lomo1964

So sorry for your loss. It’s so difficult and heart breaking to lose one of our fur family ❤️

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Floss_01

Very sorry for your loss. He's adorable and will be sorely missed I'm sure. Sending much love to you and your family. Xx

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sylvi

I can't like your post i am afraid because it is so sad. I am sorry you have lost your kitty.xxxx

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Eiram50 in reply to sylvi

Thank you Sylvi.

I hope you’re still resting and taking good care of yourself .

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sylvi in reply to Eiram50

I'm trying darling i am painting a canvas with a mandala print on it.xxxxx

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Eiram50 in reply to sylvi

Good to hear. Love to see your painting when finished?

Marie

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Happygranny1958

So sorry to read this. Losing a pet is really hard. Thinking of you. X

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helixhelix

Loosing pets is so hard, I hope your kids cope ok.

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Eiram50 in reply to helixhelix

Thank you HH. They’re so very upset but I believe in allowing them that upset - we were there with him at the end and this will be a comfort to them, in time.

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helixhelix in reply to Eiram50

I still remember my first dog, but it's the happy memories that stick with me, not the final one. Time does help (should do, it's about 50 years!)

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Eiram50 in reply to helixhelix

That’s my hope for them and you’re absolutely right- time does take the edge off. They will be fine, they just need to get through the shock and pain of the initial loss.

Poor Atticus is a bit lost without him too. He sits in front of Oliver’s bowls- maybe puzzled as to why they’re empty?!

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Deejojo

😮 I’m soo sooo sorry poor little sole 😢🙀😿rip baby xxx

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Matalow

Dear Marie, so sorry you’ve lost Oliver ,it’s very hard to loose a much loved pet.

Kind regards Mike

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Eiram50 in reply to Matalow

Thank you Mike.

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Eiram50

Thank you everyone, I appreciate your comments.

Kids are so very upset but I know they’ll be comforted, in time, by how loving and involved they were in his passing x

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Fruitandnutcase

Oh poor little ca, what an awful thing to happent. I’m SO sorry for him and for everyone who loved him, he’s such a cute looking little guy. You must all be utterly heartbroken.

(((( Big hugs to you all)))

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Doodleangel

Poor little Oliver, he was sooo cute. I’m sorry you have had to say goodbye because of this tragic accident 😢😢x

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JEM95

So sad to hear this. Sending you big hugs xx

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stbernhard

So sorry for you and little Oliver. My thoughts are with you.

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helenlw7

That is so sad. I feel so sorry for you and your family. Oliver is such a gorgeous cat, and much loved by your family.

That's so sad I am so sorry for your loss. Our dear animals leave such a gap in our lives when we loses them. x

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Dayli1

Been there and know how much pain you are all suffering.

Be comforted that you gave him a good life and, hopefully, in time, you will allow another kitten the chance to have a wonderful caring home such as yours.

Big hugs. x

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Eiram50 in reply to Dayli1

Thank you x

Awe poor baby. How awful 💔 xxxxxxxx

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Beviejon1

So sorry for your loss.So hard to lose a fur baby.

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Creakywrists

Am very sorry. I know he was special to you.

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Eiram50 in reply to Creakywrists

Amazing just how quickly they do become special- he had only just turned 10 months. Although young, we let him out in the garden but this time, he clearly wandered a bit further.

Tragic.

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marie66

Aw ((Marie)) it's so difficult losing a wee pet. M x

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catgirl1

💙😿💔

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Soreknees2016

So sad to read this, especially the circumstances which took him over the ‘rainbow bridge’. I lost my Bambi 18 months ago and was utterly bereft, even though she was 18 years old with health issues and it wasn’t unexpected. Our pets really are part of the family and we love them so much, it’s heartbreaking when we lose them. RIP little Oliver xx

Cats leave paw prints on our hearts and we are forever changed’

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Eiram50 in reply to Soreknees2016

That must’ve been such a painful loss to you given the significant time she was part of your family - sorry to hear that .

Thank you for your kind words.

I'm so sorry to hear such sad news. The loss of a beloved pet is heartbreaking. Rest in peace little Oliver.

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beeckey

So sorry to hear your sad news he is lovely.x

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tansy-ann8

So very sad for you, he will always be there in your heart. I know how much it hurts..........thank you so much for the warning at this awful time for you. Hugs.

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Joolief

I’m so sorry for your loss 😢 he looks a lovely boy. Thinking of you 💗

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hatshepsut

So sorry , I have lost 2 cats in the last few years, and know how heart breaking it is.

I miss their company, and being there to greet me when I return home. Reluctantly I have decided against having new cats, my health is not good, and it's such a worry if you have to be away. But it sounds as if you and you family are much younger than me and mine, so perhaps in time you may be able to think of another cat.

Best wishes M xx

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Eiram50 in reply to hatshepsut

Thank you x

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Jan101

I am so sorry to hear that about your beautiful little cat 🐈 Best wishes to you and your family. Love and hugs 🤗🤗🌹🌹xx

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Eiram50 in reply to Jan101

Thank you Jan. x

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Bessieboo1

So sorry to hear your news. Thinking of you all 😢💜🐾

Oh Marie - I am so sorry - I LOVE cats, and yours is beautiful. I wish I could say something to help but I guess just know that we are thinking about you. Gentle hugs..

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Eiram50 in reply to

Thank you so much x

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Nickijk73

Hi Eiram50

Omg - I’m so so sorry for the loss of your little one - I can’t imagine the pain you’re going through because I’ve never had to deal with that situation,but I really feel for you and your family,and of course,poor Oliver too - but at least now he’s over the rainbow bridge,out of pain again,and will always be forever young 😻 I know it won’t be much comfort,but at least you managed to be there for him when he needed you to be,so at least he would’ve been comforted by that.

Everyone deals with grief in their own way,and anyone that tells you ‘it was only a cat’ needs a quick right hander around the chops as far as I’m concerned - they’re not just pets,but beloved members of our familes who help us through hard times, just by being there for a cuddle or a purr,and it will take time to get over - I still well up when I think of every single one of my beloved furbabies that I’ve had to say goodbye to over the past 40+ years,so you have my deepest and most sincere thoughts

Big,big hugs to you and your girls at this awful time - and don’t ever feel that you have to apologise for posting this - it’s helped you to express a small part of grief,and also alerted other owners to be careful with their own animals while antifreeze is about,so definitely no apology needed that I can see

Love and thinking of you

Nicki xx

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Eiram50 in reply to Nickijk73

Thank you so much for your kind words Nicki

Marie

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sharpsally

So sad, what a beautiful cat. The grief can feel unbearable. Take care of yourself as often your health can suffer during times of stress.

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