In agony this morning..............

[sylvi]

Morning all,this morning finds me in agony with my back and hands. The last two days i spent in my sons garden getting rid of the ivy. I cut back some of his laurel tree and he went bonkers at me,never mind my safety. He kept on that he didn't want it cut back,well it was overshadowing his cooking apple tree that he want to keep. It really upset me and i said to his wife that when i had tidied up i was going home. She was not impressed with him and neither was my hubby and they both had a go at him after i left. My darling dil made me a cuppa and then i came home feeling very hurt by his manner towards me over this damn tree. My darling dil said she wasn't worried about the tree anyway and she said they do appreciate what i had done. Anyway this morning i hurt in my back in more than one place and my hands and fingers are stiff and sore as well. I also did more than a bit in our home in the morning as well,polished,hoovered,ironed as well. Soory for the rant. Hugs to you all.xxxxxx

[MaryTH]

Oh dear Sylvi, when you think your helping as well. I hope you feel better soon. Like you I have woken with really painful hands and knees. To be honest my hands and wrists in particular are always painful even after having them both injected. I did trim 3 of my granddaughters hair yesterday, doesn't seem much but it probably didn't help. xx

[sylvi in reply to MaryTH]

I will be takng it easy today and the next few days and next week we are going to Salisbury to a wedding so we will go on Monday and come back Wednesday.xxxxx

[popsmith1874 in reply to sylvi]

Hope y feel better soon sylvi , I think your son will wake up this morning feeling rather guilty so expect a grovelling apology xxx

[Caza]

Morning Sylvi, sorry to hear your in so much pain. There's nothing worse than falling out with your children is there, I just hate it. Try & put it out of your head & rest up today x

[Crusee]

Morning Sylvi.

Sorry to hear you are struggling again - rest up and go easy for today at least.

Your symptoms probably feel worse as you've had a bit of family disharmony thrown into the melting pot as well- try to put it out of your mind.

I think @popsmith1874 is right he will probably think again about his attitude yesterday and feel suitably sheepish.

Take care,feet up

Crusee

XX

[Martinilady]

There was no need for him to get irate about the Laurel I know it will take time to regrow but I always say if you have a bad haircut its not the end of the world it will grow back again - same with plants trees bushes etc.

And I believe that when I get hurt & upset - my emotions causes my physical aches & pains to feel worse. People who dont suffer with RA etc dont understand how far reaching this disease can be - they just imagine its aches in the bones.

I think an apology is in order from him to you. & a little cream cake Ha Ha. Bunch of flowers will do with Laurel leaves trimming. X

[sylvi in reply to Martinilady]

I got a plant instead and a cudlle from both of them My dil wasn't bothered about the tree so she was fine with me. I have told him when i come back the week after next(we are away) he will need to use the fork and shift the earth so it makes it easier for me to lift the ivy. By the way the plant is i believe is a peace lily.xxxxx

[Martinilady in reply to sylvi]

Ha Ha Ha I like it. Big hugs from me too Sylvi. Xx

[Witness1]

I also experience more pain after emotional upsets Sylvi. I used to think it was entirely psychological or at least probably due to the additional tension causing even tighter tendons etc. But then I discovered that stress actually increases production of cytokines which are responsible for inflammation. Makes sense. Coincidentally I am also being 'got at' by a son. Parenthood, great huh?! Hope you recover soon from both the mental and physical pain.

[sylvi in reply to Witness1]

I have been to the drs this morning and i have pulled a big muscle in my back,xxxxxx

[Kariss]

Hi Sylvi

I think gardens are a bit like children...always hungry, thirsty, demanding and out growing their space! I have a monster laurel in my garden and I regularly hack it back - it seems to do it good because it grows back within the year and even flowers, so no real harm done.

Children (even grown up ones!) do seem to forget that what is easy for them is actually quite hard for us RA people so I'm glad your dil was kind to you. Two of my grown up kids are in the process of moving houses at the same time (separate homes) and they seem to think I can be here, there and everywhere to help them at the moment, which is exhausting physically and mentally - I guess they still think of me as the same old full of energy mum I once was which is nice in someways!

Look after yourself and rest your back...no more pulling up ivy for a bit - perhaps your son could do it himself! Sit back and enjoy your peace lily instead until you feel better. Hope you are on the mend soon xx

K

[sylvi in reply to Kariss]

Never a truer words spoken Kariss. He has been trying to get the ivy that is choking a fruit tree so my dil told me,so now he knows how hard i have worked on his garden.xxxxx