Failure...? Is there hope...?

[drfzff]

Well, I set my quit date and it didn't work. I'm not sure if my mind just isn't strong enough or what. I know in my heart I want to stop. I really really want to. Maybe trying it cold turkey just didn't work for me. Should I try a different approach? I just want to quit already. I am going to attempt it again because I REFUSE to give up. I want this for me so bad. I want this for my family so bad. I just pray I can do it this time! Has anyone else out there backslid? Any stories would be appreciated

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[Nozmo Valued Contributor]

Don’t worry about it, it’s hard to do! I failed multiple times and tried a few different methods before it stuck. The secret of success is the ability to survive failure (or something like that) Go for it again and try a different approach.

[drfzff in reply to Nozmo]

Thank you so much for the kind words. I have done nothing but cry since I lit the first cigarette after thinking I was done. It's so embarrassing to me to think that I didn't do it. Made me feel like a complete failure for sure. I am going to try it again and I pray this time it really works. I really want this because I want to feel better. I want to feel like I did before I started. Please, wish me luck.

[Nozmo Valued Contributor in reply to drfzff]

At least you came back on here and admitted it...that takes some guts and shows you’re honest with yourself. Don’t beat yourself up, just think about setting another date. You should get good advice from people on here about any quitting methods you’re thinking of. I think they’re all covered.

Good luck!

[Hercu Valued Contributor]

drtzff...... The only story I can think of is this well known quote "Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm". Winston Churchill

“ But in the same breath he said, "It is a mistake to try to look too far ahead. The chain of destiny can only be grasped one link at a time.”

So take it one day at a time and you will be successfull when the time is right but never quit to quit..!!!

[RoisinO1 Administrator 3 Years Smoke Free]

Hey drfzff - sorry to read of your slip but well done for coming on here and being honest - I know it is easier said than done but try not to be so hard on yourself and yes there is hope - it takes remarkable courage to give up smoking and it is so very tough to do but it can be done - tomorrow is a new day and you will feel different from today, as long as learn from your attempts you will succeed, look at why you lit up again and take that with you for the new attempt - let us know when you begin it again and we will be here for you - will leave you with this quote (also have a look at below post by one members today, very inspiring)

healthunlocked.com/nosmokin...

"Believe in Yourself!

Have faith in your Abilities!

Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers,

You cannot be Successful or Happy....."

Norman Vincent Peale

[drfzff in reply to RoisinO1]

THANK YOU.... I have been reading more and more and I am so glad I chose this group. I want to stop so badly and tomorrow is the second first day I will attempt to end this battle. I need to stop using smoking as a crutch as well. This I know. I've read that sometimes it's "all in your mind" well, I know my mind is stronger than any cigarette. I can and I will do this!!! I see where "badges" are given as a reward and I WANT A BADGE.... I'm going to get one too! You wait and see. Thank you so much

[Exsmo in reply to drfzff]

You can do this

Am 7weeks quit today after 35 years. I say this to help you. Am taking Chantix and reading a LOT on here and whyquit.com. Yesterday i read we smoked our gums like meat is smoked. That gave me the incentive to keep my quit.

I couldn't quit cold turkey, tried a thousand times. Am not advertising for chantix because there are side effects, and am not sure which ones are from them or the quit, but @ 7weeks my cravings are nothing like that first horrible week.

Cut yourself a break please. This is hard and your want to will get you there more than thinking bad of yourself. As a perfectionist i had to learn that in this quit Also knowing i had a cpuld smoke ad the med built up in my system helped. I didn't completely feel like a failire when i went past my quit date. 3 days later i quit.

Every day you gain confidence. I hope to see more of how you are doing.

[mushen Valued Contributor]

Hello!

Well what can I say? I did indeed fail quite spectacularly 3 times before I managed to quit. Relapsing is common, really common.

If the cold turkey approach didn't work for you, try something else. For me it was an e-cig that finally worked.

Don't be disheartened. You can absolutely do this. People can and do quit smoking and you are no different. I think I read somewhere that the average number if quit attempts is 5 before success.

Do not lose faith. It can be done. 😁

[drfzff]

Thanks everyone for the words of encouragement. I'm going to attempt this battle again tomorrow. I feel like if I can just get past the first day I will be okay. I know it won't be easy but I HAVE TO DO THIS!!!! I'm so angry at myself for the slip but proud of myself in knowing I have to get back to it. No matter what it's going to happen. So, tomorrow will be a new day and my second first day of quitting.