Hi I'm new here. I was smoking for 26 years and then managed to give up. Was clear for 14 years but then started smoking again after my husband died. That is now over three and a half years ago. I got through the grieving process but then there were always a load of other problems to get through. Without going into lengthy details I'm still here smoking, swearing that I would give up. I have an operation a week today and during my preops it was suggested I do my best to give up for the obvious reasons. Over recent months I've tried patches, sprays and gum and none work, simply because I can always take them off or decide/forget not to use them. I joined NHS Choices quit smoking recently. I contacted the local quit support group only to be told that I live outside their area. The hospital have given me the contact details of their own quit smoking helpline for when I'm ready to try again. So here I am. Looking for more help and support.