No woman, no cry

Morning

Kind of wasn't going to post today because I'm not feeling positive and everyone is doing great and needs the boost and laughs but I thought if I do I may start to get back some motivation.

Day 13 for me and in between eating (which I can't believe I am doing so much of) I keep crying. I am not a cryer unless I am reading a great book so this is not good.

OH being more supportive so that's good. Day 13 is a good effort but yet I feel pants.

I am reading the positive attitudes and thinking why am I so down. I can't fail because I do not want to smoke anymore and so if I fail I will be back there but I can't motivate myself to do anything so I just eating and crying.

Will this pass? I have gone months before but never remember crying. I am breathing better but face full of spots too?

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  • I have never done as well as you have yet so not sure...but ...I am a big believer in if you want to cry...cry..I love a good cry personally . I think I realised after my down day yesterday that there will be ups and downs, share them all on here as its not just for the brilliant days, you need the board more when feeling parp...this will pass but until it does big hugs, maybe read a book if you need a reason to cry :-) You are doing great x

  • thanks so much, virtual hugs actually help. Who've known that ha ha. I saw your post yesterday and you Did great x

  • Everybody and every quit is different Annmarie, but most people have highs and lows at some point. Some get them early, like you are having now, but I've seen some do really well for a few months then bam, out of the blue they hit a low point.

    The key is to believe that it all eventually goes away and life settles down again.

    These are the times that I firmly believe define your quit. If you can get past these times, trusting that it will get better, then you will succeed. Smoking may make you feel better for a split second, but I can't ever remember, in 3 years on here, anybody feeling happy that they smoked 1 for more than a day before deeply regretting it.

    You'll have done 2 weeks soon, you've done months before, so you can do it. This time though stick to NOPE forever and you'll never have to go through feeling like this again. Just take it hour by hour and keep posting regularly, especially if you're having a bad moment.

    6-12 months battle for a lifetime of freedom, got to be worth it hasn't it?

  • Yes I think that's where I need to stay focused some pain now but then it's over. It's hard to trust it will get better I sometimes think it gets worse. But I do know that smoking will instantly lead to regret and going back to all the things I'm sick of.

  • Sometimes it does get worse before it gets better Annmarie, but it does get better, would I lie to you? :p

    You have to give it time. Look at all the people in the Penthouse, do you think they'd all be there if it didn't get better?

    Have faith :)

  • There is a post somewhere I wrote that has much in common with yours except I was in complete denial re spots because I couldn't take anymore, even felt a bit paranoid!

    Of course it goes, I promise, and it disappears very quickly.

    Eating, and lots of it - well you are not smoking, you've quit, and it's a big deal and not easy. Food is so much more tastier, I swear by lemon meringue pie, it made my new taste buds dance.

    Day 13's are why I pop in the forum............or 14, 15's etc..

    Take some long deep breaths , thinking of you x

  • I love the idea that it disappears quickly. Yay. I am going to do something and stop moping. May just put have to put a bag on my head to hide the red eyes and spots!

  • Morbid but I think its better to have spots on your face for a while then on your lungs terminally....told ya it was morbid....bag on head sounds good for me today, stop me eating....:-)

  • I'm just looking ahead, Anne Marie, as I'm at quit Day 4, and see your inspiring Day 13. Just to say I was in tears even before I stopped when I recently returned to the forum (I cannot say 'cry'; it's a male thing for me!). Maybe a bit different circumstances, but better out than in. Every quit is different as others have said. I stopped for 14 weeks in 2013, and it felt a breeze compared to this time. I think the difference is that in the back of my mind last time I had a little nugget that was going to allow me to smoke again. This time it's tougher as I cannot afford to smoke again.

    Sorry, gone on a bit there! All the best to you. You will come through this.

  • Anne-Marie, we have all been there, I still can't say I won't smoke again, only that I won't smoke today. I've started going out for a walk every afternoon, as being in house all afternoon just made me want to smoke. Post away, rant away, I have in past 3 weeks, but I'm still here, thanks to the support. Hope tomorrow is better for you x

  • Feeling miles better now than at the start of today. I was thinking about what Walkabout said about the little nugget and I thought l that's what happens I have one and then straight back to square one and so this being down is the usual nonsense and spots clearly ridiculous concern 😚. Great support as always everyone. Well done to us all today. I'm going try the walking tommorrow.

  • Another day done and another day closer to the Penthouse and lifelong freedom :)

    Superb battling today Annmarie and be assured that it won't be a battle forever. There does come a time when not smoking becomes normal and I can't wait for you to experience that feeling:)

    It makes every day like the one you've had worth it, believe me :)

    Almost 2 weeks done already, amazing! :)

  • Aw AnnMarie, sorry I wasn't around to send virtual hugs today! Glad you had lots of support here though :) And hey, you're nearly in a whole new room!

    Spots AND cold-sores here. (It's like problem-skin-top-trumps!)

    Keep reminding yourself that you're not smoking because YOU didn't want to smoke. Smoking again wouldn't make you not want to any less. (how mangled is that sentence?!) And it would just make you feel sadder...

    Love and best wishes and keep on fighting!

    x

  • Ann Marie I really wanted to comment on this but my connection was lagging last night it was taking forever to post, I do hope I are feeling better today? Coming out in spots is such a nightmare but it IS your body detoxing and getting rid of all the toxins and nasties we inhaled as smokers, my skin looks rubbish too, As does my bloated belly, and the fatigue and anxiety? Holy cow it's awful, by I just think of my signature on down days it really is true, at 6 months hopefully we will be feeling a lot brighter xx

  • Hi Donna

    I have not been getting the chance to post. Busy two days for me and when back home shattered!! I'm still a bit spaced and bloated and spotty but doing ok. Love your signature it helps x hope all is well for you and the anxiety passed?

  • Anxiety has subsided a bit thankfully, it's still there in the background and if I dwell on it I can get it to the forefront again if that makes sense? Just need to stop looking 6 months pregnant now lol, oh and be less windy.......:D xx

  • Hi Ann Marie, hope you are feeling better today, as Capitan said, it does get better and everyone deals with it in different ways, I was angry rather than sad but it was caused by Nicotine withdrawal so it will go away. :) x

  • Thanks Nicky I am on board with the idea that's it going to get better now , trusting those ahead of me so thanks x

  • Just adding my best wishes AnnMarie, and hoping today has been good to you. x

  • Morning

    Kind of wasn't going to post today because I'm not feeling positive and everyone is doing great and needs the boost and laughs but I thought if I do I may start to get back some motivation.

    Day 13 for me and in between eating (which I can't believe I am doing so much of) I keep crying. I am not a cryer unless I am reading a great book so this is not good.

    OH being more supportive so that's good. Day 13 is a good effort but yet I feel pants.

    I am reading the positive attitudes and thinking why am I so down. I can't fail because I do not want to smoke anymore and so if I fail I will be back there but I can't motivate myself to do anything so I just eating and crying.

    Will this pass? I have gone months before but never remember crying. I am breathing better but face full of spots too?

    Hi AnnMarie

    I remember in my first month i spent a lot of time crying and i am not a crier generally, i used to lock myself in the bathroom and cry my eyes out for about ten mins, i didnt want the family seeing me cry because i couldnt smoke plus didnt want to upset the kids hence i locked myself away. I found that all the pent up frustration would build untill i had a good cry then i would feel a bit better for a while, i would probably cry at least 3 times a day for a little while then i cried less and less untill it stopped without me really noticing, i kind of learnt to cope with situations without crying in the end. I started to use walking as my coping method would literally walk and walk and walk until i felt better, even now over four years later if i have a mega stressful situation i dont think about smoking i just have an over powering urge to walk my problems away, so i think i kind of remapped my mind in the early days.

    It will pass i didnt last long but i think it was part of the process to get me where i am today.

    i hope i have made you feel better and not worse

    stay strong

    Boo

  • Ho Boo

    Thanks for taking the time to write this. It's day 15 today and I am doing ok. Still not myself at all but I'm not smoking. Love hearing from people who've done it and moved on. Thanks and here's to staying strong x

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