Agghh!

Hello there, newbie here!

Ok so I had my last cigarette at 17:30 on Wednesday 12th Feb! I'm not even upto 24 hours in and I'm struggling mentally!

I have a 0mg vapor sheesha cigarette thing and I am finding it helps but mentally I feel like I'm arguing with a gremlin in my head! He's telling me that I don't want to stop and I'm starting to believe him. I'm so tempted right now to go and buy my 'last pack' but I know deep down it won't be my last plus I don't want to give in, I've come this far (not far I know). I'm also thinking if I'm struggling now at this point what is it going to be like tomorrow? Or the day after?

My husband is currently away (soldier) and he is on his day three of no smoking. I'm wondering if I'm only using his giving up as an excuse for me giving up? And am afraid that it won't work

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  • Hi Gritty

    hang in there - you took the hardest step already which was to decide to quit :):)

    And YES you really do want to stop - what you are fighting with at the moment is how I can I survive - you will - you just need to believe in yourself so stay tough :):):)

    How long is hubby away for?

    Andy

  • First off welcome!! You've made the right choice joining here and it shows you *do* want to quit - else you'd be down the Co Op buying a packet of 20, not typing on here :)

    Second it *is* tough at times, especially in the early days *but* it will get better!! There's loads of people on here who were exactly the same as you but who are now 1,2,3 years and more smoke free and you *can* do it too.

    Best thing to do is chew a lot of gum, it really does help, do something to keep your hands busy - I have a Tangle that gives me something to fiddle with - and drink a lot of water 'cos not only does it help flush the muck out but it really helps with the cravings!! Apparently, we have 1 sense for hunger and thirst, and smoking locks onto that so drinking shuts it up :D

    Tell yourself you won't smoke for the next half hour, then repeat that and you'll find it easier :)

    Keep fighting, and you'll feel so proud of yourself when you beat the craves!!

  • He's away 4 months so not as long as usual,

    I'm just really worried about not being able to do this. I'm ever so emotional already! Is that normal? Haha

  • I'm just really worried about not being able to do this. I'm ever so emotional already! Is that normal? Haha

    It's normal, don't worry :)

    You'll settle down just fine!!

  • He's away 4 months so not as long as usual,

    I'm just really worried about not being able to do this. I'm ever so emotional already! Is that normal? Haha

    Its normal - I put off quitting for 30 years thinking there was no way I could do it and here I am 27 days in.

    Believe me the most surprised person that I have quit is ME

    I bought bags of chocolate bits (Wispa, Crunchie, Minstrels etc) and found that a chocolate hit helped in first few days too

    :):):):)

  • He's away 4 months so not as long as usual,

    I'm just really worried about not being able to do this. I'm ever so emotional already! Is that normal? Haha

    It's Normal:) your just getting scared that you,ll never be "able" to smoke again.

    Firstly don't listen to that voice,youv been listening to it for yrs and look where it's got you.Its not your friend and never was.

    Take everyday as it comes..

    Come on here rant post scream if you want and someone will answer.I know how you feel,everyone on here does:)but the days will tick by and you will feel better.

    Keep going you will be fine:)

  • Ah sorry to hear this, you are not alone there are people on here who find it desperately hard at times, but is is a support forum and if that's what you need that's what you'll get the first day is one of the hardest, please don't worry it will get easier I promise you that, plenty of water (it's really does help) early nights,nice baths and looking after yourself, whatever helps you to relax :)be kind to yourself for the next week or so and hopefully it will all fall into place :) xxx

  • Thank you all so much for your support already! Makes me feel like there is hope for me after all haha.

    It's such a strange feeling already because I feel scared of not smoking but I don't have a clue why I'm scared! Must be that little gremlin trying to fool me! :o

  • Thank you all so much for your support already! Makes me feel like there is hope for me after all haha.

    It's such a strange feeling already because I feel scared of not smoking but I don't have a clue why I'm scared! Must be that little gremlin trying to fool me! :o

    Course there's hope, everyone here has felt exactly the same and got through it :)

    The only reason mot of us smoked by the end was 'cos we were scared of stopping - but most people cope a lot better without fags than as smokers!!

    Heck, the day before I stopped I was terrified, but am coping - you will too :)

  • I have quit 7 times before, last time it was this place that drove me back I ended up leaving for a bit and smoked again... My advice is post often there is always an ear willing to listen and help, don't think about it too much try and keep yourself busy :) xxx

  • I'm such a scaredy cat about giving up I still carry a packet everywhere with me. Don't think it is really recommended but it stops me going into a panic over being stopped.

    Guess I just don't want to let go of my security blanket just yet :o

  • No other way to put it, yes it is hard.

    I am on day 19 and am still finding it very , very hard. BUT what are the choices we either go through it or smoke again, if we smoke again I can guarantee you that at some point you will want to stop again unless you are prepared to be a lifelong smoker.

    So if we start again we have to stop again and go through this again. Get it done now and reap all the benefits that not smoking will bring you.

    Stay strong

    Xxxxxxxx

  • Welcome Gritty :)

    As Gilly says, if we start again we have to stop again. Personally, even using NRT I found the first week was hell. The only thing that kept me going was knowing I could never bear to put myself through it again.

    But you DO come out the other side and when you do, it's wonderful! :D

    I've said this before and I will say it again- if I can do this thing, anyone can (including you). :)

    Just dig deep and keep posting. We're all here for you.

  • Keep busy and keep going, you can do this!

    good luck :)

  • Welcome :). Sorry it's feeling so rough but it's really early days.

    I think you need to focus on your quit and spend some time writing down all the reasons why YOU want to stop smoking. I have found the challenges to be mental ones and reminding myself why I am giving up helps. Maybe even write it down on a post here if it helps?

    Good luck with your quit :D

  • Hello Gritty :D

    I put off quitting for years and years...because I simply assumed I'd be too weak-willed to do it, D'oh!

    Oh well, you live and learn.

    You're doing great. Stick with it, you are finally releasing yourself from the prison of smoking.

    Which is cool :)

    Steve

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