In to week 3

Hi hope you are all having a good Sunday

Wish I felt happy and excited about completing two whole weeks and entering into my third week, but I don't, actually it doesn't feel like an achievement at all. I think my normal feelings have gone off with the fags. If I had thought two weeks ago I could have achieved this i would have been so excited.

I am not going to smoke but I don't like what I have become no motivation, no get up and go, I have become a couch potato and I don't like it. I just seem to have no control to change it.

Has anyone else felt like this and managed to get back from it. My oh says it will pass, thing is I am not unhappy being like this ,more I don't want to be like it.

I go out when I have to and do enjoy myself, was out last night and had a good time and out again tonight but in between times not doing a lot.

It would really help if I knew this would passxxxxxxx

I will not smoke today

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  • Hiya hun :)

    Well first well done for getting to week 3, that's fab!!

    Second, yes it will pass!!

    Quitting plays hell with our bodies and our brains - just like starting smoking did in the first place (can dimly remember being really tired the first times I smoked) because we're adjusting to a life without the poisons and stimulants.

    Nicotine is a big stimulant by the way - so that explains your lack of get up and go *but* when your brain starts producing its own hormones again you will find you perk up :)

    Hang in there and have a lovely time out today :D

    xxx

  • Hi Gilly,

    When I feel like that I make myself do things, I start something that is going to take a good couple of hours. Something that once you start you have to finish, or go for a long walk.

    The worst thing to do is feel sorry for yourself, so get up at sort it positive mental attitude my friend good luck bud:D

  • Gilly, well done getting into week 3. :D

    Our "get up and go" getting up and going seems to be something that happens

    when we first quit - but it comes back :):) As Gemma-lou says nicotine is a

    stimulant, but not one we need to take. Just allow your body and system to

    recover because that is what it is doing right now, and it has to readjust.

    Remember how you were before you ever smoked? you will be that person again ;)

    Have a relaxing day, and look after yourself. bb xx

  • I think we all go through something similar. I certainly felt very depressed and disconnected for a while but it did gradually pass, almost without me noticing :)

    I'm with Beer though- the more you sit around the worse you will feel. It really did help me to keep busy and to get as much exercise as possible (something I am still doing). I think that got me over the hump (not to mention kick-started me in losing some weight too).

    Hope you soon start to feel better and many congratulations on the start of your third week! There's people out there would bite your arm off to have got as far as you have. Well done. :)

  • Thanks for the support folks x

    Something max said about fags being entwined in life really hit home, when I was smoking fags they were the reward for completing things. So now I don't have my reward I don't do them.

    Also someone said it is no good feeling sorry for yourself well I guess that is linked to not getting my reward. (Spoilt child really)

    Not sure how to remedy this but definite food for thought xxxxxx and talking about food would prefer that not to be my reward.

    One day I will learn how to paste posts on reply so I can refer to more good advice.

    Xxxxxxx

  • Thanks for the support folks x

    Something max said about fags being entwined in life really hit home, when I was smoking fags they were the reward for completing things. So now I don't have my reward I don't do them.

    Also someone said it is no good feeling sorry for yourself well I guess that is linked to not getting my reward. (Spoilt child really)

    Not sure how to remedy this but definite food for thought xxxxxx and talking about food would prefer that not to be my reward.

    One day I will learn how to paste posts on reply so I can refer to more good advice.

    Xxxxxxx

    Hi Gilly,

    Try as hard as you can to 'reboot' your mindset...

    OLD YOU - Smoking was my reward

    NEW YOU - In what way was poisoning myself a reward? I must've been mad to believe that!

    OLD YOU - I've lost my get up and go

    NEW YOU - No-one ever said quitting an addictive drug would be easy, but with each day that passes I'm getting better

    OLD YOU - I feel a bit sorry for myself

    NEW YOU - I feel really proud of myself for beating this addiction. I am STRONG. I am choosing LIFE.

    Of course that sounds a bit corny, Gilly.

    But after the first few days, everything about quitting is mental.

    It does get easier. Better yet, it gets EASY.

    Stay tough. You're doing fantastically well!!!

  • I'm the same

    Hiya,

    Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone! Your post could have been written by me as I'm almost exactly the same at the moment.

    No motivation now my reward system has gone. I lie on the sofa like a lazy miserable cow and every job gets left for tomorrow... I keep thinking is it all worth it!

    But I am determined to quit this time. Every time I think about smoking to make myself feel better I ask myself why I would pay £30 a week to kill myself?? And it won't make us feel better in the long run.

    Someone wrote on another post " better the pain of quitting now, then the pain of telling your loved ones that you have lung cancer" .....kinda helps!

  • I've recently started an online course about drugs and addiction and it's fascinating the effect they have on you.

    Nicotine feels like a reward because it becomes involved in the reward pathway in the brain - the part that's meant to reward you for eating, sex, survival basically. Also increases the amount of dopamine in the brain. The brain seeks balance so decreases the amount it produces naturally (tolerance) but take away nicotine (withdrawal) and you're left with a brain that is naturally producing less dopamine, hence feelings of depression, lack of get-up-and-go. Also withdrawal of any drug has the opposite effect that the drug gave you. Nicotine being a stimulant will make you more tired and that when you go through withdrawal. Then there's all the other chemical and yucks in a cigarette. Hope I explained that right :D

    Gist of it being, it will pass. Nicotine actually has a short half-life so gets out of your system quicker.

    Other than cream cakes and chocolate as a reward I'm finding exercise majorly helpful this time. Endorphins are marvellous things.

  • Hi Gilly

    Yep I went through this phase and spent a couple of weekends watching some right old twaddle on the TV with my daughters.

    Thank goodness it has now passed as not sure I could take any more of Hollyoaks etc etc

    :)

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