Fell on the day 6 hurdle

Hi all

I had better fess up, yet again I fell on day 6. The same happened the week before.

I'm not sure whats going on with my will power/brain because during this last week I have spent time with smokers and it really hasn't bothered me to not have a cig.

OH came over and he is so proud of me for not smoking and then for some stupid reason I have one of his cigs.

I'm not going to make excuses, as I didn't last week either, but yesterday I felt really low, didn't really want him to stay over with me and my boys because I wasn't great company, anyway, he did stay, we had the same old discussion (not a row) and I ended up lighting up, I just though f**** it.

I'm sorry for going on and on, just feel really low (not about having a cig, just in general). Psychologically I don't want to take myself back to day 1. The question is, should I? I will have to admit to having a cig as I have a follow up appointment with my cessation nurse tomorrow.

Sorry for the waffle

Amanda

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  • Hi Amanda, dont be too despondent you may need to keep trying before you actually manage to give them up totally. We are all different and all quits are different so just keep trying and you will do it. Sometimes you just have to dig in when it gets tough and get on with it and you will find after time that it does get easier. It is hard being a round a smoker too, maybe you could encourage your OH to quit too then you can support each other!:)

  • Hi Haze

    He doesn't encourage me to smoke tho, I'm just weak. He is not the sort of guy I could suggest it to. I would be accused of trying to change him lol

  • Hi Haze

    He doesn't encourage me to smoke tho, I'm just weak. He is not the sort of guy I could suggest it to. I would be accused of trying to change him lol

    I know what you mean! Just concentrate on yourself and your quit. Men hey they always play that card!

  • I'm sorry to hear you're having a bad time of it all at the moment Midwifey, ongoing bad times can make a successful quit so hard to do. So be positive, you're here, you admitted to the fall. It's not a bad thing. You had a cigarette. Don't feel guilty about it, that never helps anything. Just get back on the horse and keep on gripping!

    Eventually the horse will become tame to your touch... Or lame. Either way works well in this scenario ;)

  • Hi all

    I had better fess up, yet again I fell on day 6. The same happened the week before.

    I'm not sure whats going on with my will power/brain because during this last week I have spent time with smokers and it really hasn't bothered me to not have a cig.

    OH came over and he is so proud of me for not smoking and then for some stupid reason I have one of his cigs.

    I'm not going to make excuses, as I didn't last week either, but yesterday I felt really low, didn't really want him to stay over with me and my boys because I wasn't great company, anyway, he did stay, we had the same old discussion (not a row) and I ended up lighting up, I just though f**** it.

    I'm sorry for going on and on, just feel really low (not about having a cig, just in general). Psychologically I don't want to take myself back to day 1. The question is, should I? I will have to admit to having a cig as I have a follow up appointment with my cessation nurse tomorrow.

    Sorry for the waffle

    Amanda

    Hi Amanda,

    First of all don't beat yourself up about it, every single one of us has done that - TBH I hardly made 6 hours some times forget 6 days!!

    Think you should discuss with your smoking cessation nurse what options are available to you - thhink you were using patches weren't you?

    If you haven't already, get a copy of Easyway, it really does help you beat the cravings and makes you think about what smoking means - it can definitely get your mind in the right place for a long lasting quit.

    Another option would be an e-cig *if* you only use it when you need to, and don't fall into the trap of sucking on it like a dummy!!

    You could even get one with 0% nicotine in, just to shut up the crave in your brain.

    Whatever you do, don't give up on quitting. It can be a hard slog but it is definitely worth it in the end :)

  • [QUOTE=Max414;313524

    Don't be too hard on yourself and STAY around the forums.If you drift away you may not want to quit for ages.STICK AROUND

    What he said.

    It's way too easy to think "stuff it" and let it slide for a while - and days can turn into years if you're not careful. You know you can do 6 days - next time you can beat that hurdle :)

  • Thank you Haze, Talien, Smile, Gemma and Max

    Great advice as usual :D

    I am carrying on with my quit, not even felt the crave today............whats that all about?

    As for the book, I thought he advised not to use NRT? I read it years ago but it didn't help at the time. Maybe I'll get it on my kindle tonight.

    Thanks again x

  • Thank you Haze, Talien, Smile, Gemma and Max

    Great advice as usual :D

    I am carrying on with my quit, not even felt the crave today............whats that all about?

    As for the book, I thought he advised not to use NRT? I read it years ago but it didn't help at the time. Maybe I'll get it on my kindle tonight.

    Thanks again x

    I'm glad you're keeping in with your quit and feeling better today :)

    It's a bit odd isn't it? Some days you crave like hell then the next it's really easy.

    Allen Carr doesn't like NRT very much, lol but that doesn't mean you have to not use any!! I can see where he's coming from in a way but Easyway doesn't go on much about NRT - you can skip that bit.

    It's more useful for re-programming your mind about cigarettes when you're already quit!! xx

  • ^^^lol, great minds or what?!^^^

    *High fives* :cool:

  • Hi Kat

    I'm using patches and lozenges so it's only my will power that's letting me down :(

    Took my dog for a walk today with my sons and it wasn't until I was nearly home that I noticed and mentioned to my eldest that I could actually breathe.............he was shocked to discover that i used to find our normal walk hard work.

    Also 1 other thing I noticed today that was after my little nap this afternoon I didn't wake up wanting a cig. It used to be eat something sweet, have a cold drink and a cigarette to follow. Today it was just needing something sweet and a drink, that must be some kind of progress :D Just looking forward to the day I wake up in the morning and don't want one :)

  • Thanks Phil

    I will do it. I have to have quit by 30th :)

  • Dont be to hard on yourself missus its happened to us all. Stay around the forum, get your head straight, then get back on the horse again. ;)

  • oh amanda, dont be hard on yourself, we have all tried to give up before and not succeeded but we were not always members of forums like this one and were not brave enough to tell people that we believed we had failed .

    Do not take it as a failure but as a test and maybe try to think how you can pass these tests in the future, maybe an ecig would be the best for you as you only seem to crave in certain situations...and if OH if not going to give up, those situations will always be there until you are stong enough to say no more. Maybe that and patches will help you through and the odd bit of allen Carr as you feel the need. keep strong sweetie and you will get where you want to be xxxx

  • With hindsight the last people I would tell that I was quitting or trying to quit would be other smokers... Countless times I was offered a cig by friends and family when they know full well that I was trying to give up.

    Ooooh I had that too! My then-partner's best friend kept going on about how nice the smokes were, he even went so far as to blow smoke in my face (yes, directly!).

    This time I only told some friends at work. Only one of them smokes and ALL of them were supportive. Since going to Melbourne this weekend, my family now know. My best friends knew I was planning to, but do not yet know that I have. Mostly because i haven't seen them. I have had a tonne of coursework to do but also I think have been avoiding them because they smoke like chimneys.

    It's good to hear you back on the horse and doing well Midwifey :) Keep it going.

    *cheers you on maniacally happy* ^.^ :D

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