Fed up

[nsd_user663_53212]

Im so fed up of craving, i could cry

i thought that after 17days that the cravings and urges would get so much easier then they are, but no they getting bloody worse:mad:

sorry to moan and grumble no where else to turn:eek:

[nsd_user663_20558]

Oh Sian... I know just how you feel, I remember making posts just like it.

The thing is you do expect it all to be over in a couple of weeks, and after the initial thrill of the quit wears off it's easy to get despondent. But remember, at this stage you still have a whole bunch of psychological triggers happening all the time, where previously you would have smoked, so it's on your mind all the time.

I can only say, stick with it, please, because it does, it WILL, get better.

Try and do something that will keep you occupied and take your mind off it. Bake a cake. Play video games. Have a bath. Keep telling yourself, all you have to worry about is getting through today without smoking. Tomorrow, bet you anything, you'll wake up feeling better and prouder and stronger and ready to face another day. I know it's hard to see it when you're being assaulted by craves, but it will get easier.

Hang tough!

Helen xxx

[nsd_user663_44157]

Sian

35 to 40 a day for how many years versus 17 days. It does get easier but it is still early days. I found weekends harder than the week days because I was not so occupied when not at work. Try totally ( or as much as you can) altering your routine as that often helps.

34 and start of COPD.... you have to stay stopped this time.

Hold firm, it will get easier, Honest

H

[nsd_user663_53212]

Thank you I must sound like a right spoilt brat at the mo

just wish sometimes I could go to sleep and when I wake up I feel normal and not controlled by cravings, I'm really not wanting to fail this time as fed up of being controlled by the fags but sometimes it's really hard,

Sorry for sounding off must be going through the grieving process of it at mo

Thanks again Sian x

[nsd_user663_44157]

Sian

You just keep maoning, just as long as you don't smoke we don't care how much you moan. Thats what we are here for

[Unah]

I've sounded I've a spoilt brat on here many times. I sometimes can't believe I said some of the things I did. Just goes to show how the chemicals In cigarettes can do things to your brain. I think the chemicals do more harm than the nicotine and stay around taunting you longer. Tomorrow will be better,you'll see.

[nsd_user663_42390]

Sian, as Aitch says it is really early days for you and it will get better. Keep reading these posts on here and you will get stronger. Dont worry about moaning we all know what you are going through and can empathise, but you have to hang tough now and grit your teeth and get on with it and the rewards will start to come very soon you will be feeling better. I promise!

[nsd_user663_53202]

Hold steady Sian, you can do it. We are all rooting for you.

[nsd_user663_53087]

Hi Sian

Just wanted to give you a few friendly words of support in return for those you gave me earlier when I needed them. You gave me some really good advice about there's no such thing as 1 cig - which I took on board and is so relevant. I know what you are feeling and you are moping for an illusion. I did it the other day only briefly but I thought 'Oh I used to love having a cig with a cup of tea' then I thought yes and what about the one after that and the one after that that you have to put yourself through and to be honest I only liked the taste of cigs when I had it with something else like tea, coffee, mints etc. You are doing what is natural and that is forgetting all the bad things about smoking and as I said moping and craving for an illusion which doesn't exist.

Cigs don't enhance enjoyment.

They don't make bad experiences better.

I just think of the above when I have to get things into perspective. You've done brilliantly carry on being nice to yourself and your body - you deserve it!

(I hope this doesn't sound like too corny - it's how what I tell myself).

Hope you feel better tomorrow.

Michx

[nsd_user663_53087]

Also something I read the other day which I felt was a really non-pressurising statement and when I read it made me feel like I was in control and in charge of my decision to stop:

To succeed all you have to want is to be a non-smoker more than you want to be a smoker!

I really liked that.

[nsd_user663_51711]

I've stopped before Sian, for about 15 years, and in the beginning in that quit I did have bad cravings. I knitted my way through them that time. I knitted square after square for a charity. This time the cravings have not been anywhere near as bad but I'm knitting again...more squares and blankets and hats for premature babies. It helps keeping my hands occupied.

It will get better, but that's no consolation when you feel desperate for a cig. But you know in your heart of hearts having a cig will do absolutely nothing for you.In fact it will only make you feel worse that you let yourself down. Say "NO" .Keep strong. You've nearly done most of the really hard bit. We are all rooting for you, so I hope you can feel the positive vibes. xx

[nsd_user663_53212]

[thanks you all so much/B]i feel so lucky to have all this support and ways to deal with the quit.

well i'm still here day 18 now and no fag has been smoked:D

my mate come over last night and her hubby smokes which really helped as every time he came in from outside he stunk of fags :eek: i on the other hand i also enjoyed the fact my mate and i were drinking and not once did i have to interrupt our conversation to go out for a fag either..

Thanks everyone for letting me moan and groan yesterday and yes feel so much better today

Sian xx

[nsd_user663_53202]

Great, great, great, I'm delighted you made it through. It shows you have the strength to do it. It's interesting that you found your mate's husband smoking to be a help (stench), rather than a temptation. That looks like a significant development, particularly given the dreadful time you were having with the cravings earlier on in the day. Well done Sian.

[nsd_user663_53212]

i must be strange lol

i do in times of horrendous cravings find it easier to be around smokers than away from them, it seems like a security blanket, or that because i can smell the fags so strongly that it puts me off as cant stand the thought of smelling like that again, having a fresh smelling house, clean smelling clothes and hair etc is a real win win for me,

or perhaps i'm just a strange one Sian x

[nsd_user663_53202]

I see what you mean about being around smokers. It works the other way round for me - I'm scared of them because I think I might try and bum a fag of them. Or even worse, that they might offer me one. I'm not ready to face that one yet!

I've just checked on the web - there's a survey about this (entirely made up) which says that 99.9% of people are like me. This imaginary survey goes on to state that the 0.1% are more than a little bit strange. So there you have it!

[nsd_user663_52845]

Hi Sian

I know exactly where you are as I am there too!!

Wake up in the morning and smoking is the first thing I think about after 19 days!

I'm hanging on the words of all the great experts on here that tell us it gets easier.

I swing from "today I'm going to cave" to "Gordon Bennett it feels good not to have to smoke!"

Gets a bit frustrating but if I am absolutely and totally honest with myself I do now have moments were I suddenly realize "My word ... I'm not thinking about them!! ... I'm actually existing without craving!!"

Of course, once I've had that thought, I then start to think of them again! hehe

I hope the moments of clarity become larger and longer as time goes on until they fill my day

My mother gave up many years ago, when NRT first appeared on the market on prescription only. I was talking to her the other day and she said that after a couple of months she suddenly realized that she hadn't thought about smoking for weeks ..... that's when she knew she had cracked it.

It's great to hear stories from as many people as possible either on here or in our daily life.

We can do this...... I know we can.

Take my hand and lets go stomping on with our heads up high!!

Take care

Greg

[nsd_user663_53394]

Smells are a biggie for me. I feel a bit horrified that I may have really been a stinker all this time. I definitely dont want that again. Very well done to not smoke with friends around, I have hidden away this week, but guess I will have to face the world, smoking and non smoking, soon.

[nsd_user663_53212]

Thank you biggrin cheeky bugger but yes most of my friends would agree with you, im very strange and never do things like others do

Greg where have you been?? great to see your still going strong and yes im glad im not the only 1 with these strange swings of thoughts lol..

too every1 elses support thank you so much i have a feeling this time i could stay smoke free and its all thanks to stumbling on2 this forum and the support and advice off everybody on here,

Thanks again Sian xx

[nsd_user663_53202]

Nice one!

[nsd_user663_52845]

Been keeping busy with work and trying to keep my head down

I have had few wobbly days but getting through them so far.

I just feel like something is missing, I know it's part of the addiction and it's junkie talk, my brain saying "why are you doing this?" "you know you want to smoke so just do it" ........... it's all very weird isn't it!

Just hoping the old saying time is a great healer still holds true ..... so come on and heal me baby!

Take care

Greg