Looking for Advice lots and lots of it

I'm on day 23 i've been on this day before a few times and failed. Hope I don't fail again. My longest quit is 5 weeks so i'm preying I get past that. I find my thoughts telling me if I just have the one it will give me the strength to carry on (I know this is'nt true as i've failed so many times because of this thought) I was smoking 30 day sometimes 40 at weekends. My husband as also quit and he finds it so easy:rolleyes:

what i'd like to know if poss are have any of you really noticed a difference with money. A friend I spoke to (shes been quit a year) told me she did but not in the first few weeks.

I'm on patches and having the weird dreams. I'm also tired all the time but having probs falling asleep at bed time. I could drop of at any time during the day just not when I go to bed :confused: I also don't have the extra energy I keep reading about and tend to feel really low most days I hope this passes soon.

I also wonder as anyone got any time passing ideas my hobbies especially the last couple of years have been smoking and drinking :eek: I think since the kids have grown up I took to drink more and more but have given that up to :D I am slowly building in exercise and walking loads I do like reading and have bought some new books which i'm reading.

Thanks for you time, love Maria. Also well done to you all xxx

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  • Hey Maria....sorry you're finding it hard. I felt down around the 3rd or 4th week too, it's very common. Could you not put the money you would have spent on cigarettes in a jar and then just see how much you've saved in a week...or if you can stand not to spend the money....in a month???? Then buy yourself something nice. I too am struggling on the hobby front. I like reading and I'm starting to exercise as well but trying to fill the void when you used to smoke is hard to do.

    I'm growing my own veg this year in my garden, so this is keeping me busy at times. I'm sure others on here will have plenty more creative ideas than myself. You're doing great, so stick at it. Learn from your past failures to succeed in this quit. All the best

    Lisa xx

  • hi maria

    you are almost over the worst of it now i found my first month hard but after that bit by bit i saw the light at the end of the tunnel glimpsing through

    my husband quit with me to and he seemed to find it easy compared to me but i think us women have to deal with emotions and hormones more than men [sorry men but its a fact] and we have to multitask on a daily basis and they dont so life is generally easier for them haha

    omg lisa i am growing veg and strawberries to have bought the little plastic greenhouse to but my fingers are not very green yet

    if you enjoy walking and have a phone with gps then check out geocaching its a modern day treasure hunt and is free [unless u want to upgrade to a premium member and thats still very reasonable] we have found 525 so far and are off out with the kids to find a few more this afternoon its something we started about a month after i quit so i had no associations to smoking when i went out and did it and it used to give me hours of freedom when we went out finding them as it didnt set off any triggers

    boo

  • Hi Maria and welcome to the forum :)

    hobby wise you could take up knitting crochet cross stitch or colouring in i love making patterns up to do with my grandson :)

    i also got into playing games online just to distract my mind its finding something to do with your hands and keep your mind distracted that is the key

    ive included a link that you may find of interest

    quitsmoking.about.com/od/he...

    (which i pinched of Alex which im sure he wont mind :)

    hope to see you posting again soon

    regards

    Carol

  • Hi Maria,

    You are doing so well:)) Keep it up! Im into my sixth month now and i never thought i could do it. I think feeling down is normal. Also at this point you are probably still thinking about smoking quite a lot. This will pass very soon (or did in my experience) at around the 1-2 month period. Just think back to the first few days of stopping, do you ever want to do that again? lol, i certainly dont, i think thats what helps me not have 1:D

    Im sure your husband could give you some tips too!

    I go to the gym and have started running quite a bit now in the evenings too. Started off slow but am almost cellulite free now lol.

    I absolutely love boo's idea. Im gonna give that a try too, it sounds brilliant fun!!

    Good luck and keep at it xxx

  • Hi Maria,

    You are doing so well:)) Keep it up! Im into my sixth month now and i never thought i could do it. I think feeling down is normal. Also at this point you are probably still thinking about smoking quite a lot. This will pass very soon (or did in my experience) at around the 1-2 month period. Just think back to the first few days of stopping, do you ever want to do that again? lol, i certainly dont, i think thats what helps me not have 1:D

    Im sure your husband could give you some tips too!

    I go to the gym and have started running quite a bit now in the evenings too. Started off slow but am almost cellulite free now lol.

    I absolutely love boo's idea. Im gonna give that a try too, it sounds brilliant fun!!

    Good luck and keep at it xxx

    it is brill have been out today and walked 6 miles with a tandem buggy so no bingo wings for me lol we got 6 caches today lots of fresh air and not a single thought of a cigarette so cant be bad

    boo

  • Hi Maria 23 days is good going so well done, As for the sleeping issues i think its common to all who quit ,it was for me and many people on this forum have experienced it . i also used patches , the dreams can be a bit mad but its not a high price to pay to quit smoking. the sleep problems do balance out. well they have for me ,mostly anyway. already iv saved over £500 in 5 mths. Im not sure what advice to give you regarding hobbies, but i think its important to find things to do that u enjoy in order to reward yourself and fill in time so as to not get bored, smoking was a great releiver of boredom. One thing i do find usefull to fill the hours with and a great distractor is doing word puzzles, just buy them at the papershop, they are fairly easy to do and you get a buzz when you find a word its a great self esteem booster in the early months of a quit . you need as many ego boosts as you can get when u quit...

    All the best with your quit

    Mashx

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    Hi Maria and welcome to the forum, yes I have found it hard coping with my glass of wine without a cig, but I am getting ther, I find I think twice now about opening a bottle, so I try and stick to week ends, but on the plus side you are healthier if you don't smoke or drink ha ha. I am on Day 52 now and have tried giving up 6 times before but only lasted around 3 weeks. A tip for you, I am on middle strength patches so I don't get dreams any more and there isn't much different in them but I am also using the inhalator which I find very handy when I have a drink Good luck xx

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