Bereavement.......

[nsd_user663_38091]

Had a rough couple of days with a family bereavement....

Got woken at 3 in the morning with that 'dreaded phonecall' from my ex husband regarding his dad who sadly passed away.............

I so wanted to come downstairs and have a cigarette!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :eek:

I didn't and even though it broke my heart telling the children their grandad had died ....I stayed strong and didn't smoke.....

BUT.........I've really struggled for the last 24 hours......All I can think about is a cigarette :rolleyes: I know I won't have one but I am soooooo tempted and it's doing my head in aghhhhhhhhhhhh

I'm on Day 38 :0(

Michelle

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Sorry to hear about your bereavement Michelle, awful for the kids at this time of year too

Testing time for you with the quitting, you know deep down it won't really help, just try and stay strong, you don't need them to cope xx

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Hi Michelle, I know what you are going through as we have had a bereavement today too. I kind of feel like smoking a bit, but I won't.

Stay strong, you know we all care on here.

TC,

Zoe xxxx

[nsd_user663_34380]

Sorry for your loss Michelle.

Stay strong, you can do it!

Steve

[nsd_user663_34425]

Keep it up Michelle.. You know it wouldn't make them come back, or make you feel better!

Imagine how much better you'll feel for getting through it without a cigarette!

[nsd_user663_36288]

Oh I'm so sorry Michelle. As others have said already, having that cigarette will change nothing, but I think most of us will understand how appealing the IDEA is. And never more so than at times like these ... But that's all it is - an ILLUSION which tries to persuade us that lighting up will make things feel better. It will, of course, do nothing of the sort.

Stay strong - and best wishes for the days ahead,

Sue

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I'm so sorry Michelle - it's terribly hard. I wish you and your family peace and strength at this sad time. Try to stay strong and don't smoke, it won't change anything, it can only make things worse.

Lots of love,

Helen x

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Hiya Michelle....thinking of you and your family. A loss like this at christmas is over whelming but having a cigarette will not change anything or make you feel better. It will make you more miserable and you'd feel a failure and think you've let everyone down. My friend is terminally ill from breast cancer and I went to see her yesterday, she is very poorly. It is so upsetting and makes you want to reach for a smoke. But she most certainly would not want that and neither would your kids grandad or your family. You're in my thoughts and everyone else who is having it tough.

lisa x

[nsd_user663_39132]

Oh Michelle...

I'm so very sorry. Be kind to yourself & your dear children. This is never easy & it's a terrible time of the year for this to happen.

[nsd_user663_25112]

Sorry for your loss Michelle. Stay off them fags you know deep down they wont help you you will still feel bad. And then kick yourself for being taken in by the nicodemon. Keep yourself busy eat alot if you like i know i will over xmas. Jacqui. Proud member of the November N.O.P.E group. Quit: 14.11.11.

[nsd_user663_32615]

So sorry for your loss Michelle

As everyone has said, smoking will not help you or your family in any way. But in all other respects, this is a time to be a bit more indulgent and gentle with yourself. Stay strong.

[nsd_user663_38091]

Thank you so very much for your lovely words and ongoing support.....you are truly wonderful peeps.....

Wishing you all a wonderful smoke free Christmas :0)

Michelle