I stopped smoking on Monday (four days ago) - completely by accident. I hadn't planned to but was thinking about the hole in a tenner that my cigs had just punched and I reckoned it wouldn't be a bad idea to stop - that's it just a rational, calm decision.
I wrote down some of the reasons
20 Minutes after my last cig my brain tried to trick me by saying 'no it's not really today you want to stop - you need to be in the right frame of mind' - and so the bargaining began. Luckily, I'd read about the 'bargaining' stage so I was able to nail that big fat lie in one punch.
It's very possible that my mind doesn't work like yours - I know that dopey things can influence my bonce and I know that I'm very suggestible... however here are some of the reasons I wrote down and I wrote them to myself so that when I weakened, I would hear my own words coming back
£200+ a month based on 20/day x 30 days would soon kill off one of your credit cards.
It could indeed go toward a new carpet to replace the one that smells horribly of smoke.
It takes you about 3 minutes to smoke a cig x 20 would give you an extra hour a day for the exercise that you say you don't have time for.
Smoking is really not you.
Take up life - you're 44 - maybe time to get real and grow up
In 16 years you'll be 60!
Smoking is a bit fat lie.
It's a hangover from a bad time in your life.
I'd rather have air
Breathing well would be nice.
I gave up at 2.15 and I think giving up in the middle of the day is a good idea - the whole day doesn't stretch in front of you and chances are you can make it until bedtime and that's your first day over. (In my case it was fluke but I like the logic - I have a friend who always starts diets on a Tuesday because Mondays are already full of woes!)
Next I listed the hours from 2.15p.m. - 2.15 a.m. and every now and then
I tick all the hours that I haven't had a cig. My brain likes doing this. Particularly when I really fancy a cigarette.
My sister is a CBT Counsellor - she talks about happiness being in the balance between enjoyment and small things that give you a sense of achievement - so next I made a list of the things I enjoy and a list of jobs that I have wanted to get around to for ages - like cleaning under the bed and clearing out my car. This means I have a list of good strong displacement activities that I can tick off when I have a craving - one enjoyment and one achievement.
I would be known among my friends as somebody with opinions - I really don't like being controlled (as somebody else on this site said) by a plant! A big part of the reason I want to succeed is that I want to be mentally tough - I want to be somebody who can make a decision based on reason and logic and stick to it. This more than kicking cigs is a big motivator for me.
Now having said all of this and having got all my strategies in a row, I have to say that, for me, the biggest lie that cigs tell you is that - 'It's hard to quit'. Now before you start jumping up and down about the complacency of somebody off cigs for 4 days saying it's easy - I KNOW! I've read about this being a pitfall. I truly haven't found it to be too hard - certainly not as hard as the only other time I tried to give up using patches - I was a basket case. I wonder though if the nicotine replacement people really have an interest in you giving up? Does it have to be hard? A craving lasts 3 minutes - I can sit beside my craving for that length of time - I can acknowledge it and in some ways kind of laugh at it - it's not as if I wasn't expecting it to show up!
I do occasionally get a feeling of blind panic when I think - there's no end to this giving up - you just keep giving up for ever BUT
At the moment my thinking is this:-
Would I like a cigarette? - Yes probably. Will I have one? Not today, no, I don't think will.
I'm really sorry if you have read this hoping for help and finding it to be nonsense - at the very least, please don't let this be a reason for you to lift a cig - just keep on not having the next fag.