Day 3 dilemma

hello helpful people!

I have a day 3 / 4 dilemma: I have to vacate the house tomorrow night as there is a stag party staying :(

some very good friends have offered me a bed at theirs for the night but they smoke - inside.... I have accepted - not thinking it through really - but I have already caught the nicodemons deciding that it would okay to have a blip on Sat. and then carry on!!!

So my dilemma is, do I risk offending and alienating my friends by telling them I am not staying after all because of the smoking? (and I think they would be a bit put out)

Or do I stay anyway and treat it as a big test of my resolve and put up with smelling of stale smoke again? (and the fact that the demons may win after a few vinos)

Any advice gratefully received!

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  • Interesting one stanley.

    Personally I would steer clear of any situation that may weaken my resolve, and to be blunt if your friends truly are friends they should understand that.

    I'd be looking for somewhere else to stay because even if you staye dthere and they agreed not to smoke indoors there's still the reminders everywhere, cigs/lighters lying around, smells, it will focus your mind on smoking at a time when you're trying to train the brain to forget about smoking.

    If you can afford it then treat yourself to a hotel room, give situations like this a swerve until you're a way down the road and breaking the habit is less of a challenge.

  • Thanks Horse - I am glad you think that would be daft to face that challenge - I feel that way too - it's too early - but was kind of thinking that I should stand up to it!

    I had considered the hotel idea - and making OH pay for it as he is taking over the house... but another friend has offered me a bed and she is on a detox diet so we will be a well-suited pair!

    So now just to tell the other friends I am not coming :o

  • Sounds like a match made in heaven - but no doubt you'll have to refrain from snacking in front of the TV.

    Have a good weekend

  • I think we'll be on carrot sticks which will be okay!

    Have a good w/e yourself and thanks for the support

  • Stay away from the smokers!!! The dieter is definitely the way to go

    Seriously you are doing well and an entire evening with smokers would be far too hard this early on. Stick with the dieter and if you want to be really evil take a bag of maltesers in your handbag:D

    Good luck x

  • Stay away from the smokers!!! The dieter is definitely the way to go

    Seriously you are doing well and an entire evening with smokers would be far too hard this early on. Stick with the dieter and if you want to be really evil take a bag of maltesers in your handbag:D

    Good luck x

    LOL thanks Tracey I like that idea :D

  • glad you found an alternative..you dont need to be around smokers so much so early in your quit!! good decsion..take care and be stong! it can be done :)

  • Thanks for the advice everyone - happy to report that I am now on day 7 with no slips despite a 6 hour craving on Saturday night - I so would have smoked if I had been staying with my other friends :D

    Next dilemma is a 30th birthday in a rented house with a group of smokers this weekend ... followed by a weekend camping for a 40th the following weekend... feel like I could have picked a period where there was less going on but I have put off quitting in the past because of upcoming social / work events and suppose there is never an idea time... maybe I have to become a hermit for a while...

  • Well done Stanley.

    One way of looking at it is that if you survive the birthday party and camping trip then the rest is a breeze.

    Good luck !

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