A dilemma!

Hi everyone,

I'm new here and looking for a bit of advice...my plan was to give up smoking next monday using willpower and an inhalator. Tried willpower alone once and hypnotherapy a 2nd time with no luck! I am utterly DETERMINED to succeed this time!

I had a dreadful day yesterday - 3rd mother's day since my mum died and the most difficult for some reason - and I feel low and exhausted today. Have 2 cigarettes left and am wondering whether to just do it now...not buy any and get the inhalator instead. Why wait another week?! But then again I'm not sure if I'm setting myself up for failure attempting something so challenging when I feel low.

Any thoughts would be really appreciated....

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  • Hi Janet. I'm sorry mothers day was tough yesterday, I lost mine 10 years ago and I still shed a little tear.

    With regards to stopping smoking, I personally would wait until you are in a much happier and positive frame of mind. Today you feel low and to put extra burden on yourself mentally might be a mistake.

    Why not take a few days to concentrate on you and making yourself happier, then see how it goes and give yourself a date to quit. It's really important to feel positive so how about concentrating on that, perhaps jotting down some likes and dislikes, things you like to do, listen to, places you like to go etc. Take time to do some reading from the sites many people have links to, get yourself prepared mentally for the physical changes that go on.

    Let us know what you think,

    Lorraine

  • Hi

    Hey janett,

    Everyone's different and I'm sure you'll get lots of different advice. Posting and reading on here is certainly a good source of support though which I'm sure everyone will agree on.

    For me, I've found using patches pretty easy going and although I've thought about cigarettes on many occassions, I've never come close to really wanting or having one again since quitting 20 days ago.

    I would advice getting rid of everything smoking related prior to the quit though - my quit day slipped by having just a couple left which I couldn't throw away, so smoked them, then ended up buying 10 more to see me through....

    I'm still at a bit of a loss as to what started my decision to quit and wasn't sure how I'd get on, but whatever the reason it feels great and I'm not going back.

    Later...

  • Hi Lorraine and Chris,

    Thank you both for the replies and advice. I've never posted to a forum before but can see already it helps! Just typing what I was thinking helped and I'm sure it will be a huge support when I do quit...which will be next monday as planned.

    I know my evil smoking demons will nag at me if I try today that I can smoke and it will undermine my resolve. Every failed attempt makes me less confident I can do this, so I'm sticking to the plan. I'm going to take both of your advice...spend this week really gearing up for it, chuck everything smoking-related out sunday night and go for it!

    There are so many positive stories on this forum it's an inspiration! I can see many people find it tough like I have in the past, but so many people get through and out the other side. Well done guys!

  • Agreed!!!

    I agree with Lozza, i would wait until you're not as low, and a good idea about preparing yourself, I did the whole binning the ashtray and lighters bit the night before, and it did reinforce in my mind that I wouldn't cave in at the first hurdle.

    Like everyone says, this forum has been a great support, like you i had never considered posting on a forum before. I originally joined this one just to read up on, but couldn't help posting, and now I'm on here almost every day, especially on the bad days (which I must say are getting less frequent!)

    Good luck when you do decide to quit, and keep posting and let us know how you're doing.

    Take care

    xx

  • Hi, Sorry about your mum. Mine died 32 years ago and I still get sad. I know how you feel. I quit fully armed with patches and a date set months before and an appointment with my chemist quit nurse person. I was mentally ready. Then stumbling across this forum set me up perfectly. Good luck to you and will look out for your posts x

  • Hi Janett,

    Well done on your decision to quit. I can only echo the above replies really. Arm yourself with as much information as you can. Look at it as a challenge with a very positive outcome. Remember you are not giving anything up as well, that thought really helped me. Build your strength & resolve over the week. There will always be someone here to support you :D

    Gaynor x

    PS Sorry about your mum. xx

  • Hi Janett

    I am really sorry about your mum.

    Like everyone else has already said, it is important to be right frame of mind. As well as throwing away everything smoking related, I had a manic week of washing everything to get rid of the smell - everything that wasn't nailed down went in the washer :)

    Try and stay focussed on a date, but don't feel bad if you are not ready.

    This forum is fantastic and there is always someone to offer the right advice when needed, so keep reading and posting and good luck.

  • Hi Janett :)

    Well done deciding to quit next week use the time between then and now to read and poat if you want to get to know the enemy well he has a lot of tricks

    Below is my standard welcome and advice post which I try and give all new members

    Welcome to the forum and well done on the decision to quit possibly one of the most important you will ever make and you will be losing nothing but you will regain control of your life and that has to be good

    You will find all the help and support you need on here as we all help each other just like a family we are here for you every step of the way cheering the good days and sympathising with the bad but the good far outweigh the bad

    Read the posts on here you will find a lot of tips and advice and in the signatures of a lot you will find links to other sites just click on them Here are 2 I find very good to start you off whyquit.com and woofmang.com Read, read and then read some more as the more you read and learn about why you smoked and about your addiction the easier your quit will be

    This link is good for the psychological part of quitting whyquit.com/whyquit/A_Sympt...

    Post often to let us know how you're doing, to rant, rave have a moan whatever you like pretty much anything goes on here OK

    Marg

  • My thoughts?

    From what i hear that book by 'ALLEN CARR' sounds very convincing to help aid STOPPING for good. Haven't read it yet. I did stop cold turkey but it took a huge monumental amount of pure stubborness and strong mindedness to get through it. It worked. :p I have ALOT of stressful things going on in my life at the moment (no joke) so i just fought against the lot of it. Pure hell but SO worth it.

    6 days on feeling fab, glad i did it and you CAN DO IT too. It's just a matter of mind set hunny. I'm still buying the book out of interest and t6o pass onto others that i love.

    Goodluck. PM me if stuck xx

  • Hi everyone and thanks so much for all the responses to my thread last week! Since then, I've cheered myself up, seriously thought about my quit, thrown out all my lighters, ciggies, ashtray etc, and stopped last night.

    Did wake this morning in a bit of a panic about coping without the 1st fag of the day, but generally it's been easier than in the past. Think this is because I'm using an inhalator for the really bad moments, whereas I was totally CT the past 2 attempts. Still not going to be easy and it's v early days, but so far so good!

  • Hi Janett, glad your feeling good and confident and well done for getting on with the quit, you won't regret it and although it can be tricky at times it is worth every effort you put it. I can honestly say I haven't felt this good about me for a LONG time and it won't be long until you will feel the same thing.

    Keep positive and keep us posted.

    Lorraine :)

  • Well done...

    Well done for taking the plunge!!

    The thought of not smoking is always worse than the reality of it. So keep yourself occupied and today will be over and smoke free in no time.

    Later...

  • Well done to you janett.

    Taking the initial plunge was always the hardest for me. Stepped back from the edge many a time believe me :p

    Now you have started on the path to a smoke free life, there are lots of people here, including me, to take your hand & help you along it. Oh yes, & we WILL pull you if needed :D

    Gaynor xx

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