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jesus i am getting some bad mood swings on day 17 is any1 else getting this ?
if looks could kill there would be dead body,s everywhere lol
nic
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jesus i am getting some bad mood swings on day 17 is any1 else getting this ?
if looks could kill there would be dead body,s everywhere lol
nic
Hi Nic,
I think a lot of us have had a bad day today, me included.
What I do know is this, having a smoke will not make me feel any better. It will very probably make me feel worse. It will restart the withdrawal to nicotine & I am not going down that route again. I have somehow managed to get through the day with out completetly blowing a gasket. I am going to go to bed, if I am lucky sleep.
Tomorrow will be another day & a better day knowing I survived this one. I am sure you will feel the same as well
Gaynor x
gaynor you are great support you thoughts and words help me out thanks nic
ps how come i am not in your sig 2011 new years quitters group now that makes me angry lol:mad::mad::mad:
I am on day 15 and I've had more anger attacks today than usual..so must be a bad day, lets hope tomorrows a better day for us all
Tracey x
I am on day 15 and I've had more anger attacks today than usual..so must be a bad day, lets hope tomorrows a better day for us all
Tracey x
Hope its just a passing thing ,would not like to think i am turning into the hulk:confused:
I managed to keep the anger at bay most of the day. The difficult parts were entering and leaving buildings where you are just going throu the door, into the sunlight, and the picket line of smokers at the door give you a complenentary lung full.
So
So
Annoying
I had the mood swings last week...
that said, I did have a real go at my teenage kids for trashing the house over the weekend and arguing over emptying the bin when I'd spent the day cleaning to house up. I don't thnk that was smoking related though.
i havent been angry but iv been a bit depressed..i was just driving home from work and it hit me like omg...im never gonna have a cig again????!!! ru kidding?? then i took a deep breath and though how nice it is to take a deep breath and have no chest pain!! so the pros definatly outweigh the cons!! stay strong people..its a rocky road but we can do it 1 min at a time...lets get through the bad to get to the good...btw i get that lung full of smoke on the way in and out also!!b:mad: but then i think wait that used be me take care all!!
I know, but the angry part of me is convinced that there were no other smokers outside that building in December, and they have been flown in to annoy me now.
lol kwitted steve...flown in just to annoy u huh?
Of course, we all know how wealthy the tobacco companies are
lol...well they are not gonna make any more money off of me!!
lol...well they are not gonna make any more money off of me!!
nor me ,thieving git,s
Nic, and everyone else, hope you's are feeling better today!
Nearly the end of week 3, how well have we done.
*Virtual pat on the back for everyone*
Jill xxx
Morning All
Remember the rage I felt at times during the early stages, would say this is normal, as long as you are aware you can try to soften a little.
Might be an idea to have a look at some of the websites in my signature for advice.
Sometimes quitting is harder than others and feelings of anger were also felt whilst we were smoking we just had a fag and often ignored the internal rage that had overcome us.
forum.nosmokingday.org.uk/s...
From Joel's book P161 onwards -
New Reactions to Anger as an Ex-smoker
Dealing with emotional loss has similarities to dealing with anger
in regards to smoking cessation and its aftermath. When smokers
encounters a person or situation that angers them, they initially feel the
frustration of the moment, making them - depending on the severity
of the situation - churn inside. This effect in non-smokers or even exsmokers
is annoying to say the least. The only thing that resolves the
internal conflict for a person not in the midst of an active addiction is
resolution of the situation or, in the case of a situation which doesn’t
lend itself to a quick resolution, time to assimilate the frustration
and in a sense move on. An active smoker though, facing the exact
same stress has an additional complication which even though they
don’t recognize it, this complication creates significant implications
to their smoking behavior and belief structures regarding the benefit
of smoking.
When a person encounters stress, it has a physiological effect
causing acidification of urine. In non-active tobacco users, urine
acidity has no real perceivable effect. It is something that internally
happens and they don’t know it, and actually, probably don’t care to
know. Nicotine users are more complex. When a person maintaining
any level of nicotine in his body encounters stress, the urine acidifies
and this process causes nicotine to be pulled from the bloodstream,
not even becoming metabolized, and into the urinary bladder. This
then in fact drops the brain’s supply of nicotine, throwing the smoker
into drug withdrawal. Now he is really churning inside, not just from
the initial stress, but also from the effects of withdrawal.
Interestingly enough, even if the stress is resolved, the smoker
generally is still not going to feel good. The withdrawal isn’t eased
by the conflict resolution, only by re-administration of nicotine, or,
even better, riding out the withdrawal for 72 hours. This totally
eliminates nicotine via excretion from the body, metabolizing it into
by-products that don’t cause withdrawal. Most of the time, the active
smoker uses the first method to alleviate withdrawal, taking another
cigarette. While it calms him down for the moment, its effect is short
lived, basically having to be redone every 20 minutes to half hour for
the rest of the smoker’s life to permanently stave off the symptoms.
Even though this is a false calming effect, since it doesn’t really
calm the stress, it just replaces the nicotine loss from the stress, the
smoker feels it helped him deal with the conflict. It became what he
viewed as an effective crutch. But the implications of that crutch are
more far-reaching than just making initial stress effects more severe.
It affects how the person may deal with conflict and sadness in a
way that may not be obvious, but is nonetheless serious. In a way,
it affects his ability to communicate and maybe even in some way,
grow from the experience.
Here is simple example of what I mean. Let’s say you don’t
like the way a significant other in your life squeezes toothpaste. If
you point out how it’s a problem to you in a calm rational manner,
maybe the person will change and do it a way that is not disturbing to
you. By communicating your feelings you make a minor annoyance
basically disappear. But now let’s say you’re a smoker who sees the
tube of toothpaste, gets a little upset, and is about to say something,
again, to address the problem. But wait. Because you are a little
annoyed, you lose nicotine, go into withdrawal, and before you are
able to deal with the problem, you have to go smoke. You smoke,
alleviate the withdrawal and, in fact, you feel better. At the same
time, you put a little time between you and the toothpaste situation
and on further evaluation, you decide it’s not that big of a deal, forget
it. Sounds like and feels like you resolved the stress. But in fact, you
didn’t. You suppressed the feeling. It is still there, not resolved, not
communicated. Next time it happens again, you again get mad. You
go into withdrawal. You have to smoke. You repeat the cycle, again
not communicating and not resolving the conflict. Over and over
again, maybe for years this pattern is repeated.
One day you quit smoking. You may in fact be off for weeks,
maybe months. All of a sudden, one day the exact problem presents
itself again, that annoying toothpaste. You don’t have that automatic
withdrawal kicking in and pulling you away from the situation. You
see it, nothing else affecting you and you blow up. If the person is
within earshot, you may explode. When you look back in retrospect,
you feel you have blown up inappropriately, the reaction was greatly
exaggerated for the situation. You faced it hundreds of times before
and nothing like this ever happened. You begin to question what
happened to you to turn you into such a horrible or explosive person.
Understand what happened. You are not blowing up at what just
happened, you are blowing up for what has been bothering you for
years and now, because of the build up of frustration, you are blowing
up much more severely than you ever would have if you addressed it
early on. It is like pulling a cork out of a shaken carbonated bottle, the
more shaken, the worse the explosion.
What smoking had done over the years was to stop you from
dealing with feelings early on. Instead, they festered and grew to
a point where when they came out, it was more severe than when
initially encountered. Understand something though. If you had not
quit smoking, the feelings sooner or later would manifest. Either by
a similar reaction as the blowup or by physical manifestations which
ongoing unresolved stress has the full potential of causing. Many
relationships end because of clamming up early on effectively shutting
down conflict resolution by communication between partners. There’s
only one way to guarantee that early nicotine withdrawal never
interferes with your conflict resolution and communications skills
again, by keeping in practice your commitment to NEVER TAKE
ANOTHER PUFF!
Geez, i just got stressed reading all that
Mah,
Very good article, it helps to understand that we arent actually going mad, we are just suffering normal symptoms, sounds a bit wrong but its good to know other have suffered too (my sick side coming out lol) no but really when it is explained from someone who has been through it, it is a great help.
Thank you!
Jill xxx