At first i wasn't going to post this because i'm embarrassed that i have done this again, and also i'm sure everyones bored of me posting several :rolleyes: day one posts. Then i was just reading through some old posts and saw that many, many people do indeed slip and whats important is that you try again. And actually that we should admit lapses, and that being honest is part of the process, and some people find things harder-as in different things, for me it's just the one thing, plus given the fact i am very bad at controlling impulses to do mad stuff , resist is not particularly in my vocabulary, what the hell is though unfortunately.
I'm really sick of the smoking, and stop starting I realise that i can't ever have another just one, as that very finely ended my longest ever six months quit. So sorry everyone, don't mean to be boring you again, but everyone is different in how they quit i guess. I'd like to promise that i will never have another, but is that even possible?
Really truly am fed up with it now though (famous last words)I promise to try to stop bothering the day one forum
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You know you wanna quit. Well done for getting back on the train, I've always struggled to quit and this time I have and it's the fear of having to quit again which is keeping me quit. As we've discussed before when it's right the determination is there, just don't start rewriting the rules of addiction again, cos you can quit and have so know you can do it.
meet the most serial quitter in history . over 36 years I have not known what to tell doc or insurance company.
long term -short term? lots of both.
you keep trying and pick yourself up . and I have good feeling this will be it now.
the practice isnt wasted I think-just gives us better resolve and strength
nowt wasted
all good now. my mantra !!! xx
Good to know i'm in good company. I'm two years quitting.......:rolleyes:better than two years smoking i suppose.
Addiction is a funny thing. You can say i'm quitting and really mean it, and then go back to it over and over. I don't think an addict can ever say "i've quit xyz thing" just i haavent done xyz thing for x amount of time, i don't think i'll do it again. I hope i don't!
Always been incredibly glad i was never stupid enough to do any hard drugs , that'd be me living on a bench for sure.
Thanks mah and cav, thought it would be dishonest not to admit yet another blip, and ultimately defeat the whole point of this
Addiction is a funny thing. You can say i'm quitting and really mean it, and then go back to it over and over. I don't think an addict can ever say "i've quit xyz thing" just i haavent done xyz thing for x amount of time, i don't think i'll do it again. I hope i don't!
Exactly! Habit is something that can be trained out or in, but addiction is that much more problematic.
It's got to be more that hope, Jude....be more definite. Build a habit of being definite in that you won't feed your addiction again. Easier said than done but nonetheless that's what we do.
If giving up smoking was easy we would all be social smokers, and only lighting up the odd one when we went out. Sadly giving up smoking is soooo bloody hard and I for one will not berate you for having one.
Even after 9 months I still miss the whole smoking thing, not so much the inhaling just the holding and habit of it (you all know what I mean). I stumbled around month 4 by having a drag of a friends but thankfully even though I liked it, it hurt my chest and I decided to carry on with the quit.
All I can say is learn from your mistakes but don't beat yourself up, get into the right mindset and off you go.
Hey Jude, you are bothering no one thats what the forum is for when alls said and done, if it wasnt for the honesty of the members who have a time where they struggle or even when they think its ok to have one when deep down they know they cant I would not be at 6 months + quit would I, its because I read and read again all the repeat day ones that keeps me quit because I can see how hard it is to have one then quit again, lets hope that this time you can follow your own lead and stay quit but it is no shame to admit the fact that you have smoked again, like you said how can we know if we will ever smoke again, we cant so we have still to take it one day at a time, you take care of yourself and dont stay off the site even if you are smoking you need to keep posting till you are strong enough to take the step again.
Jude, no matter what day you're on or how many times you try, you should know we are on your side and not judging you...... starting again from scratch, I'm sure you need support.... so don't stop asking for help, okay little buddy! Even though your an expert at quitting, the first few weeks are tough, so come on here and post some cat pics.... promise to not yell at you
At first i wasn't going to post this because i'm embarrassed that i have done this again, and also i'm sure everyones bored of me posting several :rolleyes: day one posts. Then i was just reading through some old posts and saw that many, many people do indeed slip and whats important is that you try again. And actually that we should admit lapses, and that being honest is part of the process, and some people find things harder-as in different things, for me it's just the one thing, plus given the fact i am very bad at controlling impulses to do mad stuff , resist is not particularly in my vocabulary, what the hell is though unfortunately.
I'm really sick of the smoking, and stop starting I realise that i can't ever have another just one, as that very finely ended my longest ever six months quit. So sorry everyone, don't mean to be boring you again, but everyone is different in how they quit i guess. I'd like to promise that i will never have another, but is that even possible?
Really truly am fed up with it now though (famous last words)I promise to try to stop bothering the day one forum
hey jude,
Im not saying my quit is for keeps, who knows, i sure hope it is my last.....But i do know what you are thinking and feeling ..the way of thinking it will never happen ..& that your getting quite good at starting the quits..but you will most probably not stick to it time & time again.....I was exactly the same....but you know what jude, each attempt you have made you have learned something & One day I think it will just all click...A very good sign you are getting fed up .....Its like your depressed when you smoke & depressed when you dont? ..does that make sense.....Well I think its much nicer to feel depressed as a non smoker, because you can lift yourself up with good feelings of the fact your succeeding a quit.
When your smoking & depressed, what can you say to yourself then to make yourself feel better? answer is nothing & you know it jude..youve been here before
It will click. And you want it, else you wouldn't keep coming back. I seriel (serial?) ((cereal))??and secret quited for years but could only ever manage one attempt every year or so so big respect for you for climbing back on each time. Make sure your head is in the right place though. Give yourself the tools to apply good arguments to yourself if you feel like caving. Mr woofmang helped me there. Use the forum. Don't cave then post, but post first!
If it takes a gazillion trys then so be it my friend. Just stay posting. xx
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