Where is everyone

[nsd_user663_8599]

:confused: Wow, really kinda quiet in here past couple of days. Im on day 35 and going strong. The only thing getting to me in my husband.grrrrr> Not sure if I need to switch to a marriage forum!lol. Anyway, hope you all are doing well on your journey....me? I'll make it.... :cool:

[nsd_user663_8079]

Hi Z,

Had to laugh at the hubby thing - Is it since the no smoking or has he always got on your nerves LOL

Well done on your quit so far and have a great weekend

[nsd_user663_8599]

lol

Yea kinda both I guess. Just lately since I havent been smoking I have been using the extra money to get pedicures, manicures, hair cut, facials and he thinks I may be seeing another man? Its all a bit funny but not to him....lol.. and now its really starting to annoy me..ugh. Cant I just do something good for myself? Smoking was the only thing I ever did for me. I always put him and my kids first. (not that I am complaining) but now I want to do a little more for ME.. and of course them too, but now with me INCLUDED.... Not trying to be selfish? Am I? Do you get it?

[nsd_user663_7957]

Ditto on the husband front!

My husband has been getting to me but it is smoking related. Let's just say, he is finding his quit challenging and I am fed up bearing the brunt of his foul humour. After a frank exhange of views, I showed him the error of his ways last night.

I hope your husband issues are sorted soon.

[nsd_user663_7957]

I get it. I don't think you are being selfish at all.

[nsd_user663_8599]

Thanks

Im glad to find someone who understands me...He also is finding his quit hard and tends to try and get me to go buy a pack and I have to admit, I stop and think about it, but just cant. I tell him to leave me a lone and go crave somewhere else. lol. I hate to be mean but he keep trying to convince me to give in!! If I give in so will he.... So I will do us both a favor and stand firm with my decision and say it LOUD and PROUD "I AM A NON SMOKER!!!"...

I hope yours were sorted out last night.....

[nsd_user663_4625]

Yea kinda both I guess. Just lately since I havent been smoking I have been using the extra money to get pedicures, manicures, hair cut, facials and he thinks I may be seeing another man? Its all a bit funny but not to him....lol.. and now its really starting to annoy me..ugh. Cant I just do something good for myself? Smoking was the only thing I ever did for me. I always put him and my kids first. (not that I am complaining) but now I want to do a little more for ME.. and of course them too, but now with me INCLUDED.... Not trying to be selfish? Am I? Do you get it?

Hi Zanadoo,

Glad to see your still going strong depsite hubby trying to get you to cave in :eek: Sounds like he wants you to be his excuse to start again, naughty boy.

Good for you for treating yourself, I am following that road as well Most of us always put OH & children first & it's so easy to lose sight of YOU. It's not selfish to think of yourself occasionally, it's essential I think. This is coming from someone who felt like she had no life presence for years. 'I don't know who I am' I would think sometimes. As in everything there is a happy medium

You enjoy all those things you wouldn't normally be ble to afford to do & darned well enjoy it

Hugs, gaynor x

[nsd_user663_8599]

Thanks Gaynor, I agree. I just feel so much better about myself since the quit. A HUGE difference in my confidence. I didnt expect this but I am taking it in. I dont like to be acussed by my OH, I am a devoted wife and mother. I have explained that to him but just doesnt get it. He is still a little young minded, well he is 30 and I am 28, guess we have alot of growing to do. But, after 10 years of marriage and 3 chinldren, now acting this way? Not acceptable... SO i bite my toung and keep a SMILE. Whatelse can i do?:confused:

[nsd_user663_4625]

I am so glad your confidence has grown in leaps & bounds. Another wonderful side effect of quitting.

Maybe your OH feels a little threatened by the fact you are doing this & are growing everyday. I can only guess of course, hopefully he will see that there is no ulterior motive & he could be feeling this good if only he would let himself

Hope I have not spoken out of turn, just my take on what you have said.

Keep strong, keep your head held up high hun. You are always welcome to pm me if you want or need to

More hugs, Gaynor xx

[nsd_user663_8599]

K. Thanks. You are so right. That exactly the way it is. I hope he can be like this one day soon. I love this forum. Talk to you later.

I am going out of town today, cant wait. 70 degrees and fishing on the lake with the family..... I will let you know how it goes. I may even have a drink this weekend for the first time since my quit.....

[nsd_user663_4625]

Lucky you, 10 degrees here

Have a lovely day & weekend

Gaynor x

[nsd_user663_8531]

still here...

Had a few horrible days last week but feeling a bit better now, although used chocolated to help me through it, which I will regret at a later stage...