Testing times

Hi to you all, Well its day 6 for me and my mate, I have to say this has not been easy, think yesterday was the hardest for some reason (why day 5? )

I went out last night and did have 1 draw on a friends fag, why i dont know, perhaps just to see what i was missing, it did not taste very nice. Anyway, we have to be honest about our shortcomings,or we would just be lying to ourselves. I did confess this to carpenters mate who proceeded to give me a polite telling off, and now i am telling you. I promise i will try not to faulter anymore. please be gentle if you are going to have a pop at me. ha ha ( have only got a few hammers left ha ha )

Best of luck to you all, lets stick with it

:rolleyes:

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  • Hi Carpenter :D

    Almost a week for you now well done

    As it was just one drag and you've already been politely told off I think we can leave it at that this time

    Love

    Marg

  • Stick with it mate you're doing great.

    One more day and we've done a week.

    How good is that. :D

    A happy smoke free Saturday to all.;)

  • Hi to you all, Well its day 6 for me and my mate, I have to say this has not been easy, think yesterday was the hardest for some reason (why day 5? )

    I went out last night and did have 1 draw on a friends fag, why i dont know, perhaps just to see what i was missing, it did not taste very nice. Anyway, we have to be honest about our shortcomings,or we would just be lying to ourselves. I did confess this to carpenters mate who proceeded to give me a polite telling off, and now i am telling you. I promise i will try not to faulter anymore. please be gentle if you are going to have a pop at me. ha ha ( have only got a few hammers left ha ha )

    Best of luck to you all, lets stick with it

    :rolleyes:

    Man, you're doing great. Well actually...the draw on your mate's fag...not so great. However, who amongst haven't had that experience early in a quit, or at any other point. We think of it as testing ourselves or something fairly similar to that....but it's a test that could easily lead us back into the nicotene trap.

    Try to resist these wee indulgencies each time they arise. Before you know it becomes the new habit....supersedes the one we used to have which was killing us.

    Have a read at some Junkie thinking that a very respected quit pal o' mine posted last year:

    Before you fall off the wagon and nip off to buy the fags you have convinced yourself you NEED ... please read the following first, hopefully it will change your mind, such a shame to lose a quit just because your mind is in the wrong place at the moment.

    JUNKIE THINKING: “One puff won’t hurt.”

    RESPONSE: “One puff will always hurt me, and it always will because I’m not a social smoker. One puff and I’ll be smoking compulsively again.”

    JUNKIE THINKING: “I only want one.”

    RESPONSE: “I have never only wanted one. In fact, I want 20-30 a day, every day. I want them all.”

    JUNKIE THINKING: “I’ll just be a social smoker.”

    RESPONSE: “I’m a chronic, compulsive smoker, and once I smoke one I’ll quickly be thinking about the next one.”

    JUNKIE THINKING: “I’m doing so well, one won’t hurt me now.”

    RESPONSE: “The only reason I’m doing so well is because I haven’t taken the first one. Yet once I do, I won’t be doing well anymore. I’ll be smoking again.”

    JUNKIE THINKING: “I’ll just stop again.”

    RESPONSE: “Sounds easy, but who am I trying to kid? Look how long it took me to stop this time. And once I start, how long will it take before I get sick enough to face withdrawal again? In fact, when I’m back in the grip of compulsion, what guarantee do I have that I’ll ever be able to stop again?”

    JUNKIE THINKING: “If I slip, I’ll keep trying.”

    RESPONSE: “If I think I can get away with one little ‘slip’ now I’ll think I can get away with another little ‘slip’ later on.”

    JUNKIE THINKING: “I need one to get me through this withdrawal.”

    RESPONSE: “Smoking will not get me through the discomfort of not smoking. It will only get me back to smoking. One puff stops the process of withdrawal and I’ll have to go through it all over again.”

    JUNKIE THINKING: “I miss smoking right now.”

    RESPONSE: “Of course I miss something I’ve been doing every day for most of my life. But do I miss the chest pain right now? Do I miss the worry, the embarrassment? I’d rather be an ex-smoker with an occasional desire to smoke, than a smoker with a constant desire to stop doing it.”

    JUNKIE THINKING: “I really need to smoke now, I’m so upset.”

    RESPONSE: “Smoking is not going to fix anything. I’ll still be upset, I’ll just be an upset smoker. I never have to have a cigarette. Smoking is not a need; it’s a want. Once the crisis is over, I’ll be relieved and grateful I’m still not smoking.”

    JUNKIE THINKING: “I don’t care.”

    RESPONSE: “What is it exactly that I think that I don’t care about? Can I truthfully say I don’t care about chest pain? I don’t care about gagging in the morning? I don’t care about lung cancer? No, I care about these things very much. That’s why I stopped smoking in the first place.

    JUNKIE THINKING: “What difference does it make, anyway?”

    RESPONSE: “It makes a difference in the way I breathe, the way my heart beats, the way I feel about myself. It makes a tremendous difference in every aspect of my physical and emotional health.”

    JUNKIE THINKING: "I'm bored"

    RESPONSE: Smoking is an "activity" or "something to do" only for smokers. I'm really not "doing" anything when I smoke except still sitting/standing there. The rest of the world survives occasional boredom quite well without inhaling life-challenging chemicals.

    JUNKIE THINKING: "But they've been smoking on TV and in the movies for years! There are even magazines devoted to tobacco products!”

    RESPONSE: That's right. They were on TV for years, I wasn't. I'm still alive; many of them aren't and they departed this vale of tears in prolonged and painful ways. And the smiling faces in the magazines now are risking painful and disfiguring surgery later, at which point they won't be smiling at all.

    JUNKIE THINKING: "Its so nice to go out for a 'breath of fresh air' and a cigarette."

    RESPONSE: Fresh air? I've got to be kidding. And face it, sunny days are one thing, but how many days do I huddle out in the rain with the rain hitting the cigarette and turning the cigarette paper that disgusting yellow color? How many times is it windy and it takes forever to keep a match or lighter lit long enough to light the cigarette, and then how often does a gust of wind come up and blow the ashes into my eyes?

  • Well done getting to day 6, Carpenter! Please do stick with it! Taking a drag will only wake up those craves and make your quit harder, so be good to yourself and don't do it again! (and yes, I caved too once early on in my quit)

    Get through the tough days, and they will soon fade into the past. It gets easier, please trust that! Almost a week!! Great job ;)

  • Well Done Both,

    Carpenter and is mate HEHE

    Your both doing great one full week tomorrow things start to get easyer after the first week. No more little puffs tho your only making things harder for yourself.xxxx

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