Does any one feel they are losing their best friend?

Hello, I have quit smoking four days ago and finding it really tough. I know about the health and financial implications to smoking but I dont think that is enough to keep me going. I feel as if I have lost my best friend. Day to day life feels boring and lonely. Is this normal? Will it pass? Or is my life from now going to feel like this ?

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  • Hi Deborah

    What you are experiencing is completely normal and will pass real soon.

    Just hang in there and be strong, read this link, it will make you look at your friend the cigarette in a different light, really helped me when i was struggling with the feelings you are having atm.

    whyquit.com/whyquit/joelcig...

    Good luck

    Denise

  • YEs its totally normal and will pass,you will mourn

    your loved one and move on.good luck with your quit.....:eek:

  • Hi:)

    I did the first two quits but this time I don't.

    now Its like getting rid of a leech on my health and pocket,I feel free and I know that nicotine was no friend of mine;)

    I would read as much as you can about the psychological affects of smoking,with education you will feel just the same about smoking,I promise.

    Keep strong and read,read,read.

    Good luck.

  • Hi Deborah :)

    Welcome and well done for deciding to quit

    it is entirely normal and will pass very soon I promise it will get better and there is always someone on here to help and encourage thats what we are all on here for we help each other over the rough bits and cheer the good and it won't be long before you have more good than bad bits this is a great place and the more you read the better you will find it

    Good Luck

    Margaret

  • Hi Deborah,

    Yes it is entirely normal - I first came upon this forum on Day 4 of my quit for exactly the same reason as you! :rolleyes: I am now on day 15 (it probably seems miles off to you at the moment), and you can also do the same thing if you stick with it and keep reading on this forum. Annie xxx

  • Yup, same for me too. Went through a period of mourning for my little white friends.

    I hate the festering things with a passion now (into fourth week of quit). Your sadness will pass, good luck with the quit!

  • As everyone else says its perfectly normal. Stay strong - the feelings will eventually pass. Keep jumping into the forum - it really helps

  • I was reminded of a song I loved a few years ago... "Don't speak" by the band "No Doubt"...

    I've changed the lyrics a bit to fit (but surprisingly, not much) :D

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    You and me

    We used to be together

    Every day together always

    I really feel

    I'm losing my best friend

    I can't believe

    This could be the end

    It looks as though I'm letting go

    And if it's real

    Well I don't want to know

    Don't speak

    I know just what you're saying

    So please stop explaining

    Don't tell me 'cause it hurts

    Don't speak

    you know what I'm thinking

    I don't need your reasons

    Don't tell me 'cause it hurts

    Our memories

    They can be inviting

    But some are altogether

    Mighty frightening

    As we die, I'm sayin bye

    With my head in my hands

    I sit and cry

    Don't speak

    I know just what you're saying

    So please stop explaining

    Don't tell me 'cause it hurts

    Don't speak

    you know what I'm thinking

    I don't need your reasons

    Don't tell me 'cause it hurts

    It's all ending

    I gotta stop pretending who we are

    You and me

    you won't see me dying ... are we?

    Hush, hush, darling

  • I was reminded of a song I loved a few years ago... "Don't speak" by the band "No Doubt"...

    I've changed the lyrics a bit to fit (but surprisingly, not much) :D

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    <Snip>

    Stu, when you reach the penthouse post the vid of your "little dance" to YouTube I think it would be a good idea to have you performing this song too, :D:D

  • Stu, when you reach the penthouse post the vid of your "little dance" to YouTube I think it would be a good idea to have you performing this song too, :D:D

    Doing a silly victory dance for the world to see.... yes. Singing, no!

    I stand by my (rather hasty) decision to post my milestone celebration dance on YouTube when I do it to celebrate 1 year.... but no singing!!!!

    LMAO.

  • I think maybe I should start a poll, canvas other peoples opinion :p

  • I think maybe I should start a poll, canvas other peoples opinion :p

    Do what ya like. :mad:

    :D

    Anyway, back on topic... yes, it is easy to feel lonely without your constant companion by your side. But you soon make new freinds that don't want to kill you.

  • Thanks for the messages of support.

    Thanks everyone for those messages yesterday. The links in particular made me feel like I wasn't going mad. Feeling a little less sorry for myself today and I even forgot about smoking for about ten minutes when Iwas reading the newspaper. Only problem is, if I get through this I will have to join a support group for chewing gum addicts! I am going through packets.

  • I too want to see the dance AND hear the song from Stu.

    Put my vote down for a yes Nic :D

  • Put my vote down for a yes Nic :D

    And its a yes from me :):)

  • I too want to see the dance AND hear the song from Stu.

    Put my vote down for a yes Nic :D

    And its a yes from me :):)

    [mobile phone in tunnel impression]

    So ry I c nt he r y u. You e bre k n p

    [/mobile phone in tunnel impression]

    *click*

  • Hi Everyone :)

    Good Morning to you all

    Nic,TDK and Tom Pots + any others silly enough to vote yes for the singing

    Trust me on this please Stuart is a good bloke {i love him to bits} but by no stretch of the imagination can he be termed a singer

    love to all :D

  • Thanks everyone for those messages yesterday. The links in particular made me feel like I wasn't going mad. Feeling a little less sorry for myself today and I even forgot about smoking for about ten minutes when Iwas reading the newspaper. Only problem is, if I get through this I will have to join a support group for chewing gum addicts! I am going through packets.

    I also went through mountains of chewing gum for the first few weeks. I used to chew it while I went for a walk to distract myself.

    I was concerned I would end up with a jaw to rival David Coulthard :D .... but nope, I simply used less and less as the need to distract myself diminished!

    There will be days when you feel sorry for yourself, but in general the trend will be that it gets gradually easier.

  • put me down for a yes nic,,margarate have a little faith in stu,bet he has a very very nice voice:)

  • o and jean kelly look out,talk about singing in the rain:D,you tube wont know what hit them tony

  • o and jean kelly look out,talk about singing in the rain:D,you tube wont know what hit them tony

    put me down for a yes nic,,margarate have a little faith in stu,bet he has a very very nice voice:)

    I used to think you were a nice man, Tony. :D:D

  • you just keep:D:D stu,, i am really a very nice man:)

  • Hi Tony :D

    I have a lot of faith in Stuart just not his singing voice you have bee warned on your heads be it

    It is like my singing voice doesn't exist

    love margaret

  • It's not very often I will say this, but my Mum's right... I can't sing to save my life.

    Even the littlun tells me to stop when I start singing along to the telly :(

  • It's not very often I will say this, but my Mum's right... I can't sing to save my life.

    Even the littlun tells me to stop when I start singing along to the telly :(

    Better hope you are a great dancer then.........to take our minds off the crap singing!!!! :D :D :D

  • Better hope you are a great dancer then.........to take our minds off the crap singing!!!! :D

    ROFL... there is a certain comedy factor to the dancing :D

    Seems like we well and truly hi-jacked this thread :(

    Sorry Deborahpaula :o

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