Please help me....

[nsd_user663_2988]

I am desperate. I have smoked for 18 years and have serious health issues and have to stop smoking. I am such an addict. Ive tried NRT, hypnotherapy, accupuncture and cold turkey. I quit every day and end up buying some. I must stop tomorrow. My little boy is 2 1/2 and I don't want him growing up witha fag ash mommy! I beat myself up daily with the feelings of anger that this awful addiction brings. I am recovering from surgery and off sick from work and still continuing to smoke. I think I'm just after some morale support. At the moment I hate myself for smoking..... Any advice or support would be greatly appreciated. I'm at my wits end

[nsd_user663_2783]

Hiya Tasha - welcome to the forum. I do know that a lot of peeps on here are on Champix and I am sure they will be able to help you in that respect. I can't as I have been on NRT so I don't know anything about Champix. Also, you should focus on why you want to quit. You say you have a little 2 1/2 year old boy so why don't you do it for his sake and for your health, etc. Just make a list of why you want to quit. I bet it outnumbers the list of why you don't.

Also keep coming on here and look at the posts as there are all sorts of help to be had on here.

Hope you recover from your operation soon and hope to speak to you soon. lol Jan xxxx

[nsd_user663_2933]

Hi,

Sorry to hear your feeling so down , i know all this is one major headache but dont let it get you down. It is tough and like you i keep going back also , keep trying keep quitting , iif you smoke quit again the next day ,..............youll get there!

[nsd_user663_2988]

Hi Jan,

Thanks for your reply. I know I've just got to do it and it's not going to be easy. I am a secretive smoker and a lot of my friends and family don't know I smoke. I can't go to the GP for medication as I am too embarressed and he would lecture me so much if he knew I had contnued to smoke with my health issues. I'm going to buy some patches later at the supermarket and attempt to quit again tommorow. I am just so angry with myself. I am going to make that list tonight. My husband quit 2 years ago now and even he has given up on me as I have attempted to quit weekly for about 2 years! I've got to do this for myself and my family. Thanks again for your advice x

[nsd_user663_2695]

Hi Tash,

I smoked for too many years and came to the point where i had just had enough! Along with the smokers cough and wheezing etc.........

Anyone who knows me would have said i would be a life long smoker but i am proving them wrong.

Basically you have to embrace the idea of giving up and not fight it. Look at it as a costly drug which makes you smell and not a treat which makes you feel good.

Hope this helps a little and godd luck.

[nsd_user663_2743]

we are all addicts here

you have two cracking reasons to quit, your little one and your health.

but you have to WANT to stop aswell, the products out there can help you but wont do it for you.

have a chat with your gp, see what might be best for you, set a date and go for it !!

good luck xx

[nsd_user663_2988]

Thanks all. Everyone is sooo supportive on here. It helps to see that others have done it or are attempting it. Decision made - 2nd April it is. I'm off work at the moment so need to take my mind off smoking tomorrow. I could use the money too, so skint at the moment! You are right I do have 2 huge reasons to quit, and I think more for my son Nathaniel than anything else. He knows that I'm in the garden being 'naughty' as his dad puts it already so it's only a matter of time that he starts telling all of my family that I smoke anyhow, and I can just imagine what my dad will say, ouch! x x x :eek:

[nsd_user663_2988]

Thanks Catwoman, I'll have a nose at that a bit later. I don't really believe in NRT either. I think if you are going to do it then you need to do it without relying on a steady stream of nicotine going into your body. At least I'm home alone for the next couple of weeks so I can vent my anger out on a cushion rather than my poor hubby lol! You are right I am ready to do it. I know where my weaknesses are, it's beintg around other smokers, especially friends and collegues. I need to know how to deal with the fact that other people choose to and can if they wish to smoke! I just need to learn how to cope with being in this situation. I so wish they would just ban the sale of cigarettes, it would make it so much easier for me (I know that's totally unrealistic and it's not going to happen though!) My husband would be so proud of me, he's seen me struggle for years with quitting

[nsd_user663_1733]

Hi Tasha

We are here to give you support just take it a day at a time Once you get past the first few days things will look better. Linda xxxx

[nsd_user663_2988]

Thanks. I have another 2 weeks off work and my little boy is continuing to go to nursery so that give me plenty of 'me' time to have a look at the programme. I will make this my project and by the time I return to work I will be 2 weeks smoke free! x Thanks everyone, you have been really inspirational and I'm sure that this forum is a great tool to use for advice and support. This isn't the last you have seen of me and I'll be back (although I may be crying and shaking over my keyboard!)

[nickywalton]

hi Natasha..

you're not alone in being a serial quitter - I am one and have seen others

on this forum..

on day 1 of my latest quit, this time using Champix, this forum & lots of books

hardly one to give advise, but reading here on this forum helps no end and I have found Allen Carr to be very inspiring..

you'll find loads of tips, web sites etc from postings on this forum..

one thing I DO KNOW though, quit now while you are young - it only gets more difficult the older you get and the longer you allow the monster to control your life:mad:

loads of luck for your quit - remember never give up trying to give up

[nsd_user663_3070]

Hi Tash

Just a note to say,you've come to the right place for giving up smoking,everyone here is just fantastic,i've been on here for alittle while now..and just reading everyones messages has been a great help..(thank you to everyone!)

Just a thought, think of the dosh you will be saving,in just a week or two you can start treating yourself and your little boy to little treats...(its just great now when my sprogs want something down the shop i can give them just that little bit more to spend now) or put the money in a jar and save for that great retail therepy day..(thats what girls do best init?.....shop till we drop!)

Think pos,as each day comes by,you can do it hun,for you and your diddy boy...wishing you all the luck,and i look forward to reading your messages to see how you are getting on..

take care,hugs

shorts

x

[nsd_user663_2981]

John you and I have exactly the same opinions, I think Easyway and whyquit are the way forward. Apart from a few emotional moments (to be expected) this quit has been an absolute breeze, i've felt everything Allen Carr said I would and it's 'almost' been a pleasure. Nothing beats the feeling of waking up, and realising that not only are you getting out of bed but it's easier to do so eveyday you don't smoke. The videos of Joel made the days go easier too.

I won't get complacent, I believe its easy to slip back (I did after 12 months of torture) but it helped me stop which is a start :rolleyes:

PLUS! My sister also stopped yesterday after reading it and she was a worse addict than me (sorry sis)

Still, I would like to live in a world where nobody smoked or was slave to the weed.

There, fairy speaks

[nsd_user663_3097]

Thanks Catwoman, I'll have a nose at that a bit later. I don't really believe in NRT either. I think if you are going to do it then you need to do it without relying on a steady stream of nicotine going into your body. At least I'm home alone for the next couple of weeks so I can vent my anger out on a cushion rather than my poor hubby lol! You are right I am ready to do it. I know where my weaknesses are, it's beintg around other smokers, especially friends and collegues. I need to know how to deal with the fact that other people choose to and can if they wish to smoke! I just need to learn how to cope with being in this situation. I so wish they would just ban the sale of cigarettes, it would make it so much easier for me (I know that's totally unrealistic and it's not going to happen though!) My husband would be so proud of me, he's seen me struggle for years with quitting

Tash, you say you tried quitting before - what;s the longest you lasted?

[nsd_user663_2892]

Hi Natasha and welcome

I have tried so many times to stop smoking, but one of the things that had made it different for me this time is having this forum.

Good luck, stick around and read, read, read. People have already posted many useful links for you, and there is not one of them that I haven't visited, or wouldn't recommend

I have been quit for 1 Month, 2 Weeks, 22 hours, 30 minutes and 24 seconds (43 days). I have saved £219.68 by not smoking 878 cigarettes. I have saved 3 Days, 1 hour and 10 minutes of my life. My Quit Date: 17/02/2008 22:00

[nsd_user663_2988]

Cheers all. Just to let you know I have just smoked my last ciggy and this is it. I have read Alan Carr's book once and will pick it up tomorrow and start reading it again. Someone asked what's the longest I have gone, well it's 3 months and that was a few years ago now. Now is the time and I've got to do it. I'm sick of smoking and can't go on like this anymore. Sick of stinking, chest hurting, beating myself up, the guilt and throwing money away. I'll post again tomorrow for support. Here it goes...... :eek:

[nickywalton]

good luck natasha

nicky