Its getting tougher

I don't even know how to word this. I feel fustrated with non smoking. My head is playing all kinds of fun and games with me.

I don't miss having a cigarette, I don't miss standing in the freezing cold. I also don't miss smelling like an ashtray or having to excuse myself every hour to stand on my own for 5 minutes to get my 'intake'.

But I am bored without them. This sounds so stupid doesn't it.

I just feel that my life has changed for the better BUT I don't feel there is anything to look forward to.

Sorry to neg anyone out, just having a bit of a bad one today...is this the nicotine making me like this or am I just being a fool????

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  • Hey Sutty

    I know where your coming from - it was a big part of our lives so we will miss it - i still think im missing something too, still get the explosion in my chest when a craving comes on, and was so stressed yesterday i nearly bought some!! But i think we just have to keep busy, we have been having dinner quite early coz i dont know what else to do!! lol.

    Just remember how well we are doing, we dont smell any more, and we WILLL be better for all this pain ;)

  • Don't worry sutty.

    It does get better.:)

    We all tend to assocaite most of the daily things we do with having a cig.

    When we quit, nothing seems the same again. Like talking on the phone, after diinner, etc.

    This does change though. It is just a case of time.

    Keep it up Sutty. It is well worth the effort.:):)

  • lynnstone

    hi sutty it realy dose get better if i remember right i to felt like i was going to die, but i am still hear to tell the tail so chin up go for a walk if only a short one, it will help it did me , my dog is 6ins shorter now me too.

  • No it isn't getting worse, it is getting better because you are going through the phases of the withdrawel and grievience. mark that down as a milestone and look forward to a brighter tomorrow.

    hugs

    Buffy x x x x

  • Im glad im not the only one. Ive been feeling exactly the same the past 2 days. Yesterday i just got through telling myself it WILL get better and then when i got up this morning felt exactly the same :( and im putting weight on with it :mad:

    I feel like theres something really missing and although i feel better in myself for keep getting through days like this and being able to smell properly etc i also really miss just having a peaceful fag.

    I wont give in though, but i have to admit i have been constantly thinking about ciggies.

  • Big hugs to you all. This is probably the last thing you want to hear right now but it does get easier, so so so much easier. That feeling of something missing will go soon and then you'll feel so much better. Hang in there!

  • Im glad im not the only one. Ive been feeling exactly the same the past 2 days. Yesterday i just got through telling myself it WILL get better and then when i got up this morning felt exactly the same :( and im putting weight on with it :mad:

    I feel like theres something really missing and although i feel better in myself for keep getting through days like this and being able to smell properly etc i also really miss just having a peaceful fag.

    I wont give in though, but i have to admit i have been constantly thinking about ciggies.

    Its good to be in the same boat as someone else Sara. This morning has not been too bad as I have been busy...its worse when I think about the evening ahead.

    Anyway, back to being positive, we will succeed and life is better without them I know, I just want it to get a bit easier :(

  • Me tooooooo, glad I found this forum. I wondered what the hell was wrong with me, I thought its surely not the ciggies making me feel this way, so I did a bit of googling. Most info things Ive looked at say the worst is usually over after 48 hours. Im on day 7, so I thought I must be out of the woods by now. The guy on the Allen Carr dvd made it sound so easy too, so I expected a couple of days feeling cr*p then onto smoke free land.

    Apart from a few nights of poor sleep, then not being able to wake up at alarm time and wanting a cig at 'trigger' times the first 48 hours were fairly smooth. Day three I was full of beans, took the dog on a long walk then had a great workout after that and was thinking this is bl**dy great, Ive done it! Day four I felt really snappy, miserable and fuzzy headed but I was looking for other reasons for it. It felt like a bad hangover but id not been drinking. Thought I may have over done the exercise, but it was more than just fatigue. I refused to accept it was down to nicotine withdrawal, as Id gone through the magical 48 hours period relatively unscathed. Its been up and down since Sunday, but I do have that sense of something missing from my life. I don’t really crave the actual cigs, its just a sense of loss as you guys have said and general low mood and a feeling of nothing to look forward to.

    Having had a browse on here I see what Im experiencing is fairly normal, pheww, such a relief just to know it’s the nicotine withdrawal causing all this, even though its going to be a harder ride than Id expected.

    Great forum folks, all the best to you all, Al

  • Over time the rest of your life, the bits you'd pushed out to make room for smoking, spread out and fill in the gap. It's a much nicer 'whole' feeling that knowing you're enslaved to something you don't even like. It's like getting away from a relationship you know is bad for you - after a while you look back and wonder what you ever saw in them in the first place.

  • Hi, sorry some of you are having a bad couple of days.

    I don't exactly feel it's getting tougher (days 1-5 were the toughest by far, especially 4 and 5, for some reason), but there is a feeling that it is a long, drawn-out process. How long before we can stop feeling we are in a process and just get on with our lives? and that sort of question... yes, it is rather daunting.

    I think there is also a feeling of OK, I've done incredibly well for X days now and I want my inmediate reward NOW (not feeling sick, sleeping well, no stomach problems, and no cravings whatsoever... etc.). And although there are rewards (more lung capacity, not stinking of fags, less coughing, and others), it somehow doesn't feel enough, or at least it feels like the change isn't happening quickly enough.

    I guess these weeks the difficulty is impatience. The feeling of just wanting it to be over. I suppose we just have to keep reminding ourselves that there are two ways in which this can be over: either giving in and smoking or keeping going and coming out at the other end. And we know which one we want ;)

    Lots of courage to all, stay strong!

    Elenita

  • I don't even know how to word this. I feel fustrated with non smoking. My head is playing all kinds of fun and games with me.

    I don't miss having a cigarette, I don't miss standing in the freezing cold. I also don't miss smelling like an ashtray or having to excuse myself every hour to stand on my own for 5 minutes to get my 'intake'.

    But I am bored without them. This sounds so stupid doesn't it.

    I just feel that my life has changed for the better BUT I don't feel there is anything to look forward to.

    Sorry to neg anyone out, just having a bit of a bad one today...is this the nicotine making me like this or am I just being a fool????

    Ok so this morn feeling gd - right now i want a gd swear ive been to work, ive come home and worked again (im self emp) the kitchen has had a bomb go off so that needs doing im tired peed off feel like say b*****ks to the whole thing coz all i can think is that although i dont want one what i really want most in the whole wide world right now is f*****g cigerette!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    ok deep breath - sorry friends, no offence meant but really needed that :o

  • Ok so this morn feeling gd - right now i want a gd swear ive been to work, ive come home and worked again (im self emp) the kitchen has had a bomb go off so that needs doing im tired peed off feel like say b*****ks to the whole thing coz all i can think is that although i dont want one what i really want most in the whole wide world right now is f*****g cigerette!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    ok deep breath - sorry friends, no offence meant but really needed that :o

    That made me laugh!!

    Hope you are feeling better for your shout!!

  • Hi, sorry some of you are having a bad couple of days.

    I don't exactly feel it's getting tougher (days 1-5 were the toughest by far, especially 4 and 5, for some reason), but there is a feeling that it is a long, drawn-out process. How long before we can stop feeling we are in a process and just get on with our lives? and that sort of question... yes, it is rather daunting.

    I think there is also a feeling of OK, I've done incredibly well for X days now and I want my inmediate reward NOW (not feeling sick, sleeping well, no stomach problems, and no cravings whatsoever... etc.). And although there are rewards (more lung capacity, not stinking of fags, less coughing, and others), it somehow doesn't feel enough, or at least it feels like the change isn't happening quickly enough.

    I guess these weeks the difficulty is impatience. The feeling of just wanting it to be over. I suppose we just have to keep reminding ourselves that there are two ways in which this can be over: either giving in and smoking or keeping going and coming out at the other end. And we know which one we want ;)

    Lots of courage to all, stay strong!

    Elenita

    I think your right - impatience sums it up brilliantly. I look forward to sleep so that I can 'fast forward' to the next day, hoping that every morning my cravings disappear a bit more.

    Little tip for you, I have been taking this herb called Milk Thistle throughout today - it seems to make the 'side effects' a bit less severe (nausea, feeling like you have just been run over etc). Worth a try if you are near a herbal shop or chemist.

  • How long before we can stop feeling we are in a process and just get on with our lives? and that sort of question... yes, it is rather daunting.

    Don't know if this can help but as far as my experience, I stopped feeling stuck in the middle of a painful never ending process exactly in Week 3 - each day in Week 3 was remarkably better than the day before, so much more noticeable the difference from a day to the next than in week 1 and 2...My mood really settled down and found a new happy balance as in I regained full ability to enjoy life - not that I was depressed before, but I was obsessing all the time over not-smoking, counting the minutes in the evening because I was totally bored out of my mind, frustrated and generally unable to do anything but ponder over The effin Quitting Process :rolleyes:

    The way I got to feel by the beginning of week 4 was the same way I felt in month 3 - VERY GOOD :D

    Now I feel GREAT, as in the switch from month 3 to month 4 I noticed definitely another improvement. So, be patient guys, these painful days do come to an end :)

  • I feel sad and bored too

    I feel the same way as a lot of you, but I just keep telling myself that cigs are not a friend, they are more like a sheisty con-man that is using me.

    I get weak sometimes, but haven't caved in yet...and it's been 9 days!

  • Over time the rest of your life, the bits you'd pushed out to make room for smoking, spread out and fill in the gap. It's a much nicer 'whole' feeling that knowing you're enslaved to something you don't even like. It's like getting away from a relationship you know is bad for you - after a while you look back and wonder what you ever saw in them in the first place.

    Damn fine post this! :D

    I do know exactly what people are saying about feeling like we are missing out on something and are getting bored. But i feel that the opposite was true. When we were smoking we were missing out on so much more - like feeling healthy, not stinking, not wheezing, not lying in bed worried you might be having a heart attack, not worrying you are gonna get cancer or already have it. I am quite glad to be missing out on all that maybe leading a bit more of a safe and boring life is better than living "on the edge" ha ha:D

    I guess the thing is we have spent years justifying why we smoke cos we have to try and alleviate all the negative aspects of smoking. So we say things subconsciously like "smoking makes me look cool", "smoking is an adult decision i am making", "i choose when and where i am gonna smoke that means i am in control of my life", "smoking shows that cute girl over there that i am adult and am not scared" etc etc etc

    So now we have stopped our subconscious is reminding of these thoughts and we feel bored among other things. I reckon its fine to feel like this and i am listening to the guys who are a few weeks and months ahead of us day 10guys it sounds like these feelings will pass.

    Sorry for the long post but bloody hell - No wonder its so hard to stop smoking!!

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