hello everyone! This is a non-medical related question and more of a life question: do you think that while acquiring a divorce lawyer you get what you pay for? See, I got diagnosed with ms and all of a sudden he wants a divorce. Fine. Whatever. I’m a little pissed that while I was ok and could do everything he was fine with that, but now I need help and he wants to fly the coup
I thank everyone for your help with this and for your kindness always
I would definitely go through a lawyer. They’re a lot of items you may not think of and you want to be protected in the future to avoid any surprises. Case in point: your retirement. If he is bailing because of your diagnosis, he really wasn’t committed to your marriage. Please don’t stress! Get a lawyer and let them do the work. I’m sorry you have to go through this. Remember, you deserve someone who loves you no matter what happens!! 🙏❤️😉
No advice but so sorry to hear. Lifting up a prayer for you 🙏🏼
Get the best lawyer you can afford. In many areas, a female lawyer will do a better job for you, but if you live in a "good ol' boy" county, you'll want a man. Try to ask around and get recommendations. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.
I'm so sorry. You do need a lawyer to protect your interests ( when a weasel is sneaking out of the coop, you don't want him breaking all the eggs). You posted earlier that you cannot work as you once did, so you will need some financial support. Don't choose a lawyer at random. You'll need to find one who is trustworthy and understands the issues.
Get a lawyer, expensive isn’t necessarily better. Ask people you trust for lawyers they recommend. If you inherit money keep it in a separate account, or if you buy something like a car put it in your name only , this will prevent the money from becoming a joint asset you have to share. Pick your battles wisely, every time you phone,text or email your lawyer they bill you. Good luck my divorce was one of the best things I did for my health and my kids happiness.
i would say not to have phone contact with him, keep everything in writing. As for a lawyer, there are lawyers affiliated with the MS society and disability lawyers through agencies. if they can't represent you they can probably refer you to a good one. Wishing you well. You deserve to be compensated.
thank you so much!
In writing seems to me like duh but I didn’t think of that! Thank you!
I didn’t know that there are lawyers affiliated with the MS society.
how to find them?
i would suggest you reach out to your local chapter to find out.
Obviously in sickness and health is frightening. Agree, need best attorney to protect your interests and help with your security So sorry he was afraid of the obligation for him to serve and show compassion. Keep strong and have courage.
sounds exactly like my first wife. I guess in sickness and health does not mean the same thing to everybody. Remember to hang in there and look after yourself. Take the strongest Disease Modifying Therapy that You can and exercise and eat right.
Take care always.
Royce
thank you & no they don’t!
I’m sorry that must of been very hurtful. It appears you are a woman of faith. Suggest you ask your minister and others for a skilled dedicated lawyer to help you through your divorce journey.
sorry gor your dilemma. Sorry i don’t know too much about recommending lawyers for this type of issue, although these replies sound pretty good. Prayers to you-
thank you so much!
Sorry to hear about your problems I can't recommend a lawyer but you need one to protect yourself good luck
he did not deserve you!!!
I’m sorry that you must go through this on top of being relatively new to MS. You’ll find tons of support here.
Many will be praying for you.
thank you! I need and appreciate the prayers!
I'm sorry you have to go through this. Unfortunately your husband doesn't seem to be able to handle your illness. That actually happens a lot. They lack self confidence. The most important thing right now is to find some kind of peace with your situation, prayer works good for that. I call it the peace of Jesus. Without it I can't make good decisions. You will have several decisions to make as you proceed with your divorce especially if there are any children involved. Prayers you will find the right lawyer that will look out for your interest. 🙏🙏🙏
thank you!
It sounds like hubs was looking for an excuse to leave. Get a good lawyer, and take his butt to the cleaners. Prayers for you, Xvettech!!
I think he was looking for an excuse! Sorry but I need help and he’s gonna give it to me one way or another
Definitely get an attorney. I went through this 4 years ago. I’m happy to say that we are still friends, but I was so shattered at the time that I wasn’t thinking straight. So the attorney helped. The funny thing is now I am doing fantastic! He remarried a woman who has a daughter who has special needs. Although she is 20 years old, she will always be like a 4 or 5 year old child. So I think he rather jumped from the frying pan into the fire. I always wish him well and we talk often. I am quite sure he wishes he had made a different choice, but I just tell him that life is full of choices and consequences. I wish you all the best. I hope you will keep us updated.
I think so too! I will keep everyone updated. I’m sorry to be a thorn in any body’s side! Except his 😂. Funny ms turned love to hate!
I had to chuckle when I read that you had nothing but God and Jesus...Girl, you have it ALL! Ask your Father to help you find the right attorney for you, He Is really good at that sort of thing. My prayers are with you.🙏🤗
When I was diagnosed in '94' I read everything I could find on MS. And most of what I read did have the other spouse asking for divorce, my hubby & I were next door to our 14 th anniversary. I sat him down , explained all I read & what was happening to others about divorce! & if he wanted to go I would try to understand His answer was: we have had a lot of good our vows said for better & worse. Now we are soon to have our 43rd anniversary I was astonished then & still am! God has blessed us!
he truly has. You’re a lucky woman!
Congratulations! I'm glad you have a keeper. This doesn't help Xvettech any, but I initiated my divorce and am so much better off without him. I didn't realize just how much work he made for me until he was gone. I can't help but wonder if my health would be slightly better if I'd dumped him earlier.
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