“YOU” look so good I thought “YOU were sick.” Ever had that statement made to “YOU” by a friend or a stranger ?? I wonder sometimes what the inappropriate response should be.
Thank you, but I think my thighs are a little large.
Thank you, I was really hoping that somebody, anybody would notice.
Thank you, but say that quietly my spouse\significant other is around here and if they hear that they will get a big head thinking how lucky they are to have me.
My favorite, thank you, I needed a nice compliment today.
Turn it on them. Thank you, and so do you.
I might suggest that “YOU” have some prepared answers for these awkward statements and question. “YOU” most certainly will get them during your years with ms. I also might suggest that “YOU” think twice about your habits. Perhaps go to the same grocery store or stores. Be polite make some acquaintances with the staff. If “YOU” can go at odd times “YOU” might be able to drop ms in conversation. Wear an ms t-shirt, that way perhaps one day if “YOU “ ever need help “YOU” might not be afraid to ask and they might go the extra step to help. ms month is a great time to start the conversation and to wear the t-shirt. No need to bring up your own total history. Just be vague enough that if they are interested they can ask “YOU” more questions, and when it gets a bit much sear fatigue. It is a great way to pick up if “YOU” are interested or in the market.
It might take a little time, a few missteps but “YOU” will start to learn how to make this chronic disabling disease, Relapsing-Remitting ms (RRms) work for “YOU” and to your advantage. Hide yourself away and “YOU” will never learn what “YOU” are truly capable of. Face the world warts and all and “YOU” might be amazed what happens. I certainly did no think twenty two years ago as the x threw me out and divorced me that I had any sort of hope of anything. It has been twenty years now that she who must be obeyed and I have been firm friends and I expect that to last my lifetime. Just like RRms, but with much funnier bits and more ice hockey.
Learn yourself, learn your boundaries. Then exceed them, some “YOU” may have to go backwards every now and again. That is the fate of somebody living with ms, or living in general. It is a topsy turvy, round and round confusing disease. There is no doubt of that, strange things will happen to your mind and body, BUT and there is a BUT. It is a doable illness today, develop habits and a mindset that says to “YOU”, I CAN I WILL I AM DOING THIS and DOING it WELL. Full steam ahead, damn the torpedoes, I am going to live my ms life everyday to the fullest, and yes “YOU” are right “YOU” really are looking good, and that is a nice smile.
Royce
See yourself as strong and confident, then live that way
**”She Who Must Be Obeyed” here, join an MS community either online or in person. Two reason: 1) people really understand there 2) we joke it’s an exclusive dating service. |We know 10 or so couples who have met this way. Not in the market? Get your significant other involved so they can see it’s not hopeless!
