How cruel people can,be about ocd

[Fishlady42]

So my husband said in regards to my ocd

That don't make it difficult and it won't be ,also said don't think that way and it won't be a problem..then he's cruel mean and watching me cry ..im so Idk I don't know anymore .is that the cure to ocd and so easy ?

Like that's the cure ?!

I've been crying for hours

Like I want to live with this torture and he'll ocd us or anyone with it ..

Why why why ? On top of that I'm all alone in this .in life besides him I can't take it anymore .i want all pain to go away ..

I have my dog and she is the only unconditional love i get .

I don't get people ..plus all my fault as I'm crying and he's saying how it's all my fault..im so in awe ..im lost

[hopeandcourage94]

It is so hard for people to understand that OCD is not some switch we can flip on and off. I tried doing this for the past year and a half, denying my disorder.

Hang in there. You are NEVER alone in this struggle. I am so glad I found this community. It gives me hope.

OCD is not your punishment, and it is most certainly not your fault. It has never been your fault. Hang in there. I am adding you to my prayers. *hug*

Do you have a therapist you can reach out to if your feelings get worse?

[Fishlady42 in reply to hopeandcourage94]

Thank you

I unfortunately lost the the therapist I had for years that helped me so so very much .

Unfortunately she doesn't take my insurance now that she's in private practice ..

Everything gone downhill for me with this covid19 not sure why ..

Probably because I lost my support system outreach peer etc ..telephone is not the same ..

Plus I have medical,issues have to be extra careful..

The ocd hit me worse ..mine is more counting things repeating things ..

Now it's gotten worse other things never had with ocd . Anyway new therapist doesn't really understand a lot about ocd ,she helps with my ptsd but losing all support where I wasn't cured if there is such a thing wasn't great ..but better .

Past 2 months just gone downhill.

Ps my therapy is through state program ..tough money etc.

I've been reaching out and no one knows what to say

Neither do I guess

I just don't know how stop rituals anymore and racing thoughts ,not to mention,there still trying find right meds that I can,tolerate ..

But thank you and God bless

[Hidden]

Oh sweetie. This sounds so hard. I agree with hopeandcourage94 that it is hard for people who don't have OCD to understand. Maybe your husband is frustrated because he feels like he should be able to help you or solve this for you and this is making him feel helpless, but that doesn't make it any less painful for you. It's also tough when you have a therapist who doesn't have OCD expertise because OCD is treated an entirely different way from other psychiatric disorders. I think it's good that you reached out to this community, where you can find people who understand. I've been trying to set myself little tiny goals during this sheltering-in-place time--just little things, like washing my hair, making the bed, making a gratitude list, staying off the news. Music has helped me a lot and also stepping outside and getting a breath of fresh air. I also often tell my partner, "I don't need you to solve this for me, I just need to vent for a few minutes." Sending hugs.

[Hidden]

It's very difficult when your spouse doesn't understand. As has already been said, if one doesn't have OCD it's difficult. Add to that the stigma of mental health and it becomes more difficult.

I would like to encourage you to find a therapist who has experience with OCD. They can help you much faster than one who doesn't have the experience. Trying to go the other route will only drag out the process and make it more difficult for you and your husband.

Hang in there. Read self help books on OCD. They're not a substitute for a good therapist but can help.

[fogwise]

I agree with Fishman - it really takes someone who understands how to treat ocd. Some therapists can unintentionally make things worse for some sufferers, while those who have the training needed specifically for this bizarre condition can help you improve immensely.

Hang in there, friend! My heart goes out to you.

By the way, I like the way you are both Fish___ people : )

[Fishlady42]

Thank you everyone !! I'm trying ..ocd is cruel n knows no limits ..

Btw my name is fishlady72 because I have a lot of fish lol.n dogs 4 and 2 cats ..sadly some my fish have died since covid since haven't been able get out get supplies 😣