I'm trying to have a baby as it maybe my last chance.

[Cockapoo-2016]

Hi everyone.

I'm new to the group and don't know where to start. Hopefully, I will try not to get too emotional while I'm writing my post to you guys.

I'm here because you guys will be the only ones who can understand my situation.

When I met my partner eight years ago, I wasn't in a good place, I was suffering with depression and anxiety, within having thearpy helped me to get in a good place. When I was 40 years old I was diagnosed with very high cholesterol and also prediabetes. I was put on statins to lower my cholesterol. It was recommended by the doctors to try for a baby due to the statins. My partner wasn't kin for a baby due not wanting me to come off the statins, being at risk of a heart attack and a stroke.

A year ago we both decided to try again and risk it all with my health. We tried for a while and nothing happened, so we decided to go down the adoption route where we were been rejected to adopt 💔. So a year old I ended up in A and E due to a severe lower abdominal pains at lots of test abd CT scan etc the A abd E doctor found out I had a 8 cm cyst on my left ovary but didn't know what type. The next day I got referred to a gynecologist urgently, where I had a ultrasound scan found that there wa definitely a cyst on my left ovary. I ended up having surgery the outcome of the surgery was endometriosis the ovary had reputed and the surgeon found another cyst siting on my rectovaginal which is stage 4 endometriosis and courses infertility.

I had a scan a year ago the endometriosis is growing back again.

Due to having endometriosis and being 44 years old, I was looking going down the ivf route. It's impossible to convince naturally my age abd with endometriosis.

My partner sister doesn't understand the pain I'm going through she thinks that I have given up to easily and not trying enough to become a mum. Unfortunately she will never understand has she has children.

I don't know what to do try IVF or just try and heal that becoming a mother wasn't meant to be for me?

Any advice is so welcome 💜🩵.

[Freedom_Unity_Love Volunteer]

Dear friend,

It's such a good thing to have done for yourself, to have taken the time to get your thoughts together and posted them here. How does it feel to have done so?

Having been diagnosed with endometriosis in my early 20's and living with the condition for 30 years, I know the impact it has on the body and one's mental health.

It's not my place to advise you on what is best for you to do now. I'll just suggest that, you can only make decisions if, you have all the information you need to do so.

Do you feel you have been given all the information you need? Have you asked for, or sought a second opinion?

The 2017 NICE Guidelines stipulate that a woman who has been diagnosed with endometriosis is eligible to be seen by a specialist clinic. A clinic will be able to advise you on the best course of treatment to deal with the disease. It is a disease that cannot be totally excised from the body as it feeds off oestrogen.

If you contact Endometriosis UK, they should be able to give you a list of clinics. If you have difficulty with this, let me know, and I will endeavour to help you.

Being able to accept what the reality of the situation is for you, is the ultimate freedom. To not be able to accept it, means suffering and pain. It comes down to a choice of what you value most. It took me a while to figure this out, but when I did, it enabled me to look towards, and create a compelling future.

Therapy can be very effective in helping to start the healing process, and especially when dealing with the gynaecological conditions that you have. Hopefully, you have a supportive GP, or know where to signpost for therapeutic support.

Nourishing your body with good nutrition, low sugar, zero alcohol, lots of water and some gentle and regular exercise, will really help with the endometriosis. Sugar, wheat, carbonated drinks - all affect the microbiome of the gut, with irritable bowel syndrome / gut issues being linked to endo. I imagine you are on top of your diet, given the prediabetes / cholesterol issues you write of.

May you be well, may you be happy, may you be free from suffering.

Best wishes, K

[Cockapoo-2016 in reply to Freedom_Unity_Love]

Dear K,

Thank you so much for your lovely reply. You touched my heart seeing things in a different way that I couldn't.

I really appreciate you sharing your story and wisdom.

Best wishes 💙 A.L.