Still struggling

[Shar111]

Hi, I'm new to this, not sure how much to share, I have spent the last 27 years knowing that I would not have children of my own due to a hysterectomy at 22. I am still struggling with this, more than I want to admit. I work with children and have done for along time, but it is not the same. Surely it should get easier? I would be grateful for any support anyone can give me xx

[Freedom_Unity_Love Volunteer]

Dear friend, I am saddened to read you are struggling. Have you experienced any period of time over the years where it has been easier, and you have been able to be in the flow?

Some of us have shared our stories on this site, which you might find helpful to read.

Is there anything you have thought about, that would help you to find some peace about the reality of your situation?

For me, when I knew at 24 I wasn't going to be able to have children, I decided that if I didn't want to cause suffering to myself, I had to accept 'what is' and build a life that was rewarding. It's not been an easy journey, but I've done the emotional work along the way to heal the wounds, and I truly believe this was what was meant for me.

I sincerely hope you have a wonderful group around you, who will comfort and love you when you are feeling low, and I hope you have some fun plans for these few days of the festive season. Merry Christmas.

I'm here if you need to talk, and can share my personal email if you prefer.

Rise in your power - the answers are within.

With love, K

[Shar111 in reply to Freedom_Unity_Love]

Hi K

Thank you for your kind words.

I had come to terms with it to a certain extent, focused on my career working with children, as well as supporting my sister in bringing up her 3 children. I think every so often it just hits me. Especially this time of year. My niece and nephews are getting older and not needing the support, moving on with their lives. I think it a bit of empty nest by proxy and the thought of getting older without a family of my own. It's lonely and I'm not good at putting myself first. I would love to talk to you more, if that's OK.x

[Freedom_Unity_Love Volunteer in reply to Shar111]

I hear you dearest... when we are stuck in a loop of thoughts and emotions it can be so very painful.

Of course we can chat - [e-mail] - or we can chat on the phone if that would help. In your email subject heading, please write Health Unlocked, so I can identify it in the 'junk' folder, should it be delivered there.

Sending you warm hugs. Life is unfolding as it should...trust in the process.

Kx

[Freedom_Unity_Love Volunteer]

Hello dear friend,

How are you? As I have not heard back from you, it's been on my mind, wondering if you are okay, and if you found some joy in the festive season?

As the year draws to a close, I wish you all the very best for 2023. Maybe, you have some exciting new projects planned, or maybe, a big change is looming. Whatever, the year brings, I wish you strength and courage to face it all in equal measure, and to gain the wisdom offered.

Happy New Year, K

[Shar111]

Hi K

My apologies for not responding sooner. How are you? The Christmas period has been difficult, although I was included with family, I very much felt like a spare part and now I find myself ready to welcome the new year in alone. I don't think my family understand, and why would they, they have their own lives and troubles to.dral with. However, having read alot of posts, I think you are completely right, it's OK for it to be just me, I'm the one person I can rely on and life is going to be what I make of it. (Along with support from others- thank you)

I'm not saying it is going to be easy, nothing really has changed, I need to to change my mind set, think about what I want and not worry about what others think of me. I would love to keep in touch, your reassuring and comforting words have put me on a positive path for the new year, (I hope it continues)

Happy New Year K and thank you x

[Freedom_Unity_Love Volunteer in reply to Shar111]

So lovely to hear from you, and to read such a strength of purpose in your message. It is true freedom to allow love, and not let the mind and the belief system cause all the unnecessary suffering.

You have the power to create any life you want for yourself, and it will likely mean taking the hard road, but you know that is where the real meaning and reward comes from.

You have purpose, it's not in what you thought it was, to be a mother; you are here for some other reason, and you have the answer deep within you.

I wish you every happiness for the month ahead, and courage to keep taking the steps towards fulfilling your dreams.

I look forward to hearing about all your wins. Go well.

With love, K

[Umberellahouse]

sucks huh. I’ve had an idea it wasn’t working for around the same time. It only really started affecting me about 10 years ago. It’s like I can’t think of anything else and I’ve been offered three free treatments when my partner loses weight. Which isn’t something that’s going to happen. I get that now. Hard to swallow

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Hi Shar 111, I can totally relate to your comments and feel the same pain. Some days I wonder if it will ever get better and others I actually feel OK. I find it is important to remind myself that there are OK days and that on those days I really appreciate other things. I hope that you managed to find some pleasure and fun over the holiday season. I wish there were local groups that we could join to meet like minded people in the same boat. I think that spending time with others that haven't had children really helps. Unfortunately all of my friends in the same boat don't live very close. Anyway, just sending some words to let you know you are not alone xxx