I have three children from a previous marriage but when my new husband and I tried it didn't work. We tried ivf but the odds were stacked against us and it didn't work.
That was five years ago and while I at the time had a breakdown in now very at ease with what happened. My husband however has recently told me he isn't and has felt like this for the last two years.
He feels a deep sense of sadness at never having his own child and not getting to leave a legacy or have those firsts (word, walk etc) this is deeply affecting him and he has depression and we are struggling.
He has seen a counsellor who says this is triggered by a mid life crisis but I don't think that's the full story. How can I help him deal with his loss and look forward to a different future. I can't find any help online for him and he has no friends he feels able to confide in.