Looks like the end

[72cloud9]

I really had convinced myself that after a years break from trying that my partner would be persuaded on trying with donor eggs. Despite my pouring my heart out about how much I want a family with him he’s point blank refusing and the tension in our house has been hell the last 3 weeks. I don’t want to lose him but how will I ever get past this? Has anyone had any successful councelling in the Sutton, Surrey area? I think I or we are really going to need some help 😢

[Coracle]

Hi there. My hubby and I are trying with donor eggs and opposite situation in our house, he was much keener on donor eggs than me, I felt very uncomortable with it... I was keener on going forward to adoption. We have actually had 2 rounds of donor treatment now, with 2 different clinics, and had counselling session both times which was really helpful.. and for me, helped to 'normalise' the idea of donor eggs a lot, and realise that a lot of people are out there having donor treatment.. and that children growing up being 'donor conceived' will not be really unusual from now on I don't think. I still have wibbles about it and we had to make difficult decisions but the counselling really helped. I would see if hubby will agree to one session with an ivf clinic counsellor who are specially trained on this topic. Otherwise, I hope adoption may be something for you... we are considering this if our frosties do not take, and hubby is coming more round to idea of adoption.. he has/had a lot of fears about the issues around taking on adopted children. It's a long hard road isn't it?? Hugs to you in your situation xx (By the way, I wonder if you would be better taking this sort of post to Fertility Network UK board... I think they like to keep this board for folks who have definitely finished trying to conceive xx)

[72cloud9 in reply to Coracle]

Thanks for your kind reply hun, I put it on here as I feel we are finished with the journey as if he’s not willing we are pretty much done.he won’t even discuss adoption which would have been my 1st choice all along b4 any ivf.i thought may now I or we may need some councelling to help us move forward.

I wish u best of luck with your treatment xxx

[Coracle in reply to 72cloud9]

Ah, so sorry. I have had ups and downs w hubby. I really wanted us to go to Relate and he went to just one session. I went on my own secretly to another when he refused to go back. They were v good...but expensive!

[72cloud9 in reply to Coracle]

It’s hard isn’t it? I really thought nothing could rock us but we are at a proper stale mate.im quite scared of what the future holds now. Maybe I’ll look at Relate, thanks-it’s not like I need our savings for Ivf now 😢

Sounds like u 2 have got thru the ups and downs and come out the other end so well done xxx

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Ive just messaged you as im in same boat as you! Its driving us apart x

[72cloud9 in reply to Hidden]

No message come thru? But have replied to u on your post x