Heartbreak: embrace it n give time to heal

[pratyaya_23]

“Never be ashamed of a scar. It simply means you were stronger than whatever tried to hurt you”

In general, within less than a second heart can break and sometimes, we realize it later or sometimes find it easier to be in denial mode instead of coming terms to it.

Heart break is something which happens not only in relationships, but there are many other things, sufficient enough to break heart. An unexpected termination letter from job that we’ve been doing since long with integrity or the one whom you love but his/her face shines ‘coz of someone else’s love or getting a cold reply to “I miss you” or your vulnerable emotions not being noticed by “anyone” and so many other reasons possible under the blue sky.

Heartbreak leaves you with the missing bits and pieces of your soul. Heart break makes heart bump in denial, anger, frustration etc.

I think I won’t be wrong if I say, most of us carry this heavy burden inside us, the burden of heartbreak, but instead of acknowledging it, we try to supress it.

Most of the people around us during such times, almost are saying same thing ” just stop thinking about it, all will be fine” OR “whatever happened, happens for good ” and if nothing else ” lets drink, it will help to get rid of all heartbreaks” ,yea I agree it works to some extent😜😜but not really, but ofcourse they are our wellwishers and even we, too, are conditioned in the way where one should ignore heartbreaks and move on.

And in all this, we think that agony, frustration, sadness get sink deep deep down and believe that it’ll be disappeared at its own, afterall these are nothing but tiny cracks.

But these are not just tiny cracks and they don’t filled up by supressing them.

And between now and then it comes up to the surface and we feel the sadness of it.

And If someone points out that the supressed feelings can be the reason behind this depressive,anxious state of mind. And we start to wonder, actually find it difficult to understand ” Why am I sad because of an old hurt that has supposedly healed?” OR ” Why I’m sad because of something that is irrelevant to my feelings now, as my feelings have changed.”

Its important to understand that cracks caused by heartbreaks are not just tiny little cracks, and strength is not in ignoring pain caused by it, the real strength is to acknowledge them and give time to heal.

In my opinion, its sheer stupidity to think that disregarding your feelings or pushing them under carpet, helps you to create an image of being strong whereas embracing real feelings of ours can make an image of ours as of someone who is vulnerable, weak, postie of negativity.

Hiding cracks is not strength, if we do so, it’ll be the most inhumane behaviour of ours towards our ownselves. If it hurts , it hurts. If you want to cry, cry… doesnt matter you cry in dark or in light, what matters is if you want to cry then cry. Give yourself time to heal and

stop trying to be okay with the things you are not ok with it, acknowledge them, understand them, handle them with warmth, care n love.

AND THEN

Wear your heart on your sleeves and make it your brand new courage…..